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We’re in our second trimester and it’s finally the time to start telling our friends and family the good news. Yay! I can’t tell you how relieved I was to finally talk about our pregnancy news with our loved ones and our readers. It was the hardest secret to keep. If you decided to wait to share your news till your second trimester like we did, I’m sure you’re feeling the same way.
I’m now 16 weeks along. It’s crazy to think that I have a baby the size of an avocado inside of me! Thankfully the nausea is gone (my heart goes out to the mamas that are sick all throughout their pregnancies) and I am regaining my energy again. Slowly. Sorry to all of my loved ones if I’ve been dragging lately or MIA. Pregnancy fatigue and pregnancy insomnia are no joke! I literally want to take a nap all. the. time. But with every passing day, it becomes a little bit better. I know I will be eating my words once I hit the third trimester. lol!
Now that we are getting close to the halfway mark–or maybe you’re already there–this is the time that our checklist is really going to get full. Our first trimester checklist wasn’t as long so we’re making up for it now! I’m doing all that I can to be ready for this little one. Below I’m sharing my top 12 checklist items that we need to complete during the second trimester.
1. If you haven’t started already, begin reading some pregnancy & breastfeeding books.
There are so many great ones out there. Some of the ones that I personally recommend are:
- Ina May’s Guide to Childbirth
- Pregnancy, Childbirth and the Newborn: The Complete Guide
- Breastfeeding Made Simple
- The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding
Just to name a few.
My personal journey: I’ve read these books above so right now I have on my list and am reading:
2. Decide whether or not to hire a doula.
More and more women are hiring doulas to support them during their pregnancies and births since we are discovering the numerous benefits of having a doula. If you decide that you might want a doula, interview the doulas in your area and find someone knowledgeable who you really click with. If you’re not sure where to look DONA.org or DoulaMatch.net are great places to start. Just remember that personality and feeling comfortable are key when selecting the right doula for you.
My personal journey: I have already picked my birth doula and not only I, but my husband as well, will be so grateful that he isn’t the only one who has to support me through the contractions and position changes during labor and birth. Having people around you who know how to support you and help you have the birth that you want are essential–whether that’s just you and your partner, you and your sister, mother, or a doula.
3. Look into childbirth classes.
Knowing what to expect for your labor and delivery is important so taking a childbirth class or classes can really help. There are several options available, like Lamaze, the Bradley Method, Hypnobabies, ICEA, Birth Boot Camp and more. Do your research on each and sign up for one that is best for you.
My personal journey: I have already signed up for our childbirth class, but we are taking it during our third trimester so that way my husband doesn’t forget everything before the birth. 😉
4. Make a birth plan—or define your birthing goals.
Have an idea of how you would like your labor and birth experience to unfold. Would you like to have a water birth, an unmedicated birth, an epidural or a planned C-section? This is your experience so write down the things that are most important to you. Just be sure to be flexible since sometimes babies make their own plans. 😉
My personal journey: I am actually choosing to have my baby at home. I know that may freak some of you out, but after all the births that I have been too–hospital births, home births, birth center births–I know that this is the right choice for me. Even though my father is a surgeon and my mother is an E.R. nurse, I don’t like the idea of laboring and giving birth in a hospital. In my mind, that’s where people go when they are sick or hurt. I know that the hospital gives a lot of people peace and comfort which is wonderful, but for me that is a place where I will go if things don’t progress normally.
5. Looking into banking your cord blood, cord tissue or placenta tissue.
Do your research and if this is something that you want to do, figure out which company you would like to move forward with and order your kit or kits.
6. Take a tour of your hospital or birth center.
You’ll want to know where to park, where you need to check in, what the check in process looks like, what your rooms look like (labor and delivery as well as your postpartum/recovery room) and the items that are available to you in your rooms.
Nina: Since I will be giving birth at home, my tour is done. 😉
These first six points were all about planning for labor and delivery. The second half is about preparing for life with baby!
7. Create your baby registry.
This is a fun yet overwhelming task. Make sure to talk to other moms, baby planners or doulas for more information on the items that you should be registering for.
My personal journey: I have already started my list for my baby registry. I’ve made sure to also include things such as postpartum doula care, lactation support, meals (so I don’t have to cook), among others.
8. Start reading baby care books and baby sleep books NOW!
I promise that you won’t have much time to read after baby is born. Here are some of the books (and videos) that I recommend:
- Healthy Sleep Habits, Healthy Child
- The Baby Book
- The Circumcision Decision (if you’re having a boy)
- The Happiest Baby on the Block
- Secrets of the Baby Whisperer
9. Begin planning your maternity leave and your postpartum work schedule.
Are you going back to work after 12-weeks? How much time will you have off? Or do you plan on being a stay-at-home mom? Have a plan for your maternity leave and make sure that your work situation is taken care of. You want an easy transition if you are going back to work.
My personal journey: I am currently working on a plan so that I can manage things at both of my companies–Baby Chick and Bassett Baby Planning. Luckily my staff members are compassionate and understanding when it comes to new mothers. 😉
10. Begin interviewing pediatricians.
Ask around for recommendations and start scheduling your interviews. Schedule some time to meet with those pediatricians around your home or work area.
Nina: Luckily our wonderful Baby Chick Expert, Dr. Tessy Kadavil is in the same office building as our Baby Chick office so we are good to go!
11. Start your childcare search.
This may sound absolutely ridiculous, but you would be surprised how quickly daycares and preschools fill up. Look into the ones that are close to your home and your work. Ask for recommendations and see how long their waitlist is. If this isn’t for you, see if there are any nannies in your area that are available to help.
My personal journey: I’ve started calling places already and there are waitlists! I’m signing up for a couple so then hopefully we get accepted into one that we like.
12. Purchase life insurance and update your 401K and retirement account beneficiaries.
It’s not an exciting item to check off your list, but it is something extremely important that will give you both peace of mind.
My personal journey: This is something that we still need to do. Luckily I still have a few more weeks before I am in my third trimester to get it done.
That’s the list! I hope this helps you narrow down the things that absolutely need to be done during your second trimester. We’re getting closer!!