What is a Doula?

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What is a Doula?

Whenever I get asked the question, “what do you do?”, I know that I’m about to enter into a conversation — or potentially a monologue — rather than just giving a quick response. It would be so wonderful if people would understand what I do as quickly as they understood “I am a teacher”, or “a counselor”, or “an accountant.” But when I reply, “I’m a doula”, I begin to prepare myself to give my explanation.

Most people don’t know what a doula is so it never surprises me when the person I am speaking with looks perplexed and has no idea what I’ve just said. Let me say, I don’t mind giving an explanation because it gives me the opportunity to share my passion and educate someone on a service that they or a family member or friend might be interested in using. What does surprise me and excite me is when that person I am speaking with DOES know what a doula is. I love hearing their stories about how they heard about doula care, how their friend hired a doula, or how their family member is a doula. Unfortunately that only happens on rare occasions so I still find myself educating most people on what a doula actually is and what we do for families. You, our Mommy Chicks, may not know what a doula is. So, today, I wanted to take a few minutes to share with you the answers to some common questions. So let’s start from the very beginning. It’s a very good place to start. 😉

What is a doula?

The word “doula” — pronounced ‘doo-la’ — is an ancient Greek word meaning ‘woman servant, caregiver, or a woman who serves.’ More recently it is used to refer to a trained and experienced professional who provides continuous physical, emotional and informational support to the mother and her partner during pregnancy, labor, childbirth and their postpartum journey.

There are two main types of doulas, Birth Doulas and Postpartum Doulas. Birth Doulas are trained professionals that support women and their partners during pregnancy, childbirth, and immediately postpartum. Postpartum Doulas are trained professionals that support families during their transition into parenthood during the postpartum period (the first 12 weeks after birth).

The role of a doula has also evolved into other areas of life and there are now more specialities in doula care. There are:

  • Antepartum Doulas support pregnant women who have been placed on bed-rest or who are in a high-risk or high-stress pregnancy situations.
  • Bereavement Doulas provide emotional, physical, and informational support to women and families processing the loss of a child.
  • Adoption Doulas build relationships with both the birth mother and the adopting or fostering family. Sometimes it’s just with the birth mother or the adopting or fostering family.

What does a doula do?

Birth Doulas normally offer to meet with each of their clients several times — two, three or four times — for prenatal visits to go over each couple’s wants and desires, as well as educating them on the options that are and will be available to them. This allows the doula to understand how to best support each family during their labor and birth.

At the birth, Birth Doulas bring an entire toolbox of ideas, tricks and techniques. Your doula may rub your back for several hours, or trade off with your partner in that role when his hands are aching and he needs to eat and rest. She may be the quiet, calm, reassuring voice whispering in your ear, or the firm, anchored voice that will help you get back on track when labor starts to feel intense and overwhelming. She can help you focus on natural ways to help your labor progress (if you want to have an unmedicated birth), or she can help you decide which medications you would want to use and when the best time it is during your labor to get them. Your doula can help straighten out a baby that’s slightly malpositioned in the pelvis and she can give you ideas on how to negotiate with the staff to achieve some important elements of your birth plan.

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Birth Doulas offer a lot of support to the husband or partner, showing him and other loved ones how they can best help you, and reassure them about what’s normal. Your doula might offer a hand massage to help you rest and relax, and she can explain your options and help you brainstorm questions when you’re facing medical interventions for you or your baby. On occasion, doulas’ help and reassurance after the birth might be key to establishing your nursing relationship.

Every labor unfolds in it’s own unique way. A doula’s job is to bring her expertise in birth to the table and stay fully present and supportive, whatever your family’s needs and desires may be.

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A Postpartum Doula’s role is so unique to every family. Essentially, she will come into your home, assess your needs, and jump in to help. Your doula’s role is to nurture you as you make the transition into life with your new baby. This could include help with breastfeeding, suggestions and information about baby care, and resources to help heal your own body postpartum. She is like a teacher, sharing evidence-based information and helping you integrate the baby into your family. She could help take over baby care for a little while so that you can have a shower or a nap. She can also show you how to use several different baby carriers, how to use your breast pump, suggest which diapers/diaper creams/baby detergent/etc. that you might want to try, and more. Postpartum Doulas can also do some light housekeeping, such as washing dishes or wiping down counters and doing baby’s laundry.

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If you have older children, she can spend time playing or working with them to help them adjust to the big sibling role. She can also run errands for you and pick things up if you’re not able to drive yet or haven’t been able to get out of the house. Doulas come in with a keen sense of what new families typically need and then work with you to decide how she can best support you through the transition into parenthood.

What are the benefits of hiring a doula?

Numerous studies have documented the benefits of having a doula present during labor and postpartum. A  Cochrane Review, Continuous Support for Women During Childbirth, showed a very high number of positive birth outcomes when a Birth Doula was present. With the support of a Birth Doula, women were less likely to have pain-relief medications administered and less likely to have a cesarean birth. Women also reported having a more positive childbirth experience. Here are some of the stats:

  • Decreases the overall cesarean rate by 50%
  • Decreases the length of labor by 25%
  • Decreases the use of oxytocin by 40%
  • Decreases the use of pain medication by 30%
  • Decreases requests for an epidural by 60%
  • Reduce the number of days newborns spent in the NICU (neo-natal infant care unit)
  • Reduce the rates of postpartum depression
  • Increase the rates of breastfeeding
  • Increase the positive maternal assessments of maternal confidence and newborn health

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Studies show that having a Postpartum Doula after childbirth results in:

  • Greater satisfaction with postpartum period
  • Quicker birth recovery
  • More likely to eat healthier and sleep more
  • More confidence in parenting and childcare
  • Less stress and anxiety
  • More positive opinion of baby
  • More affectionate to baby
  • Less incidence in postpartum mood disorders
  • Higher breastfeeding success rate

These are awesome results! Who wouldn’t want to improve their chances of having a better overall experience during labor and bringing baby home?

My husband/partner/mom/friend is going to be my support person in labor. Do I still need a Birth Doula?

I know that dads are sometimes nervous that a Birth Doula might take over their role and that they’ll be “shut out” of the labor process. That is not the case at all! Dads and doulas actually compliment each other in labor.

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A doula is kind of like a tour guide in a foreign country or a coach to a team. Your tour guide doesn’t take away from your trip, she enhances it for both of you. And how are you supposed to win a game if you have never played the game before? (Assuming your husband hasn’t coached you or any other women in labor.) Your coach can help lead you to victory! The same is true of a doula. She can help you both navigate the healthcare system and understand the process of labor and birth.

Doulas often find themselves reassuring dads/partners about the normal sights and sounds of labor, which can be disconcerting to even the best prepared support person. Doulas show dads particular techniques to help the laboring woman, based on exactly what is happening in her body at that moment. Experiencing back labor? “We might try this counter-pressure technique, let me show you exactly where to put your hands.” Relaxing in the bath? “How about gently pouring water over her belly with each contraction, like this.” Mom is laboring in the bathroom? “Here, let me get the birth ball so she can lean forward into your chest to rest between contractions.”

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During labor, moms usually retreat into their own private “laborland.” Doulas often find themselves bonding with the dad during the birth as they work together to figure out the best way to support the laboring woman. This is why dads/partners are generally so happy to have another “birth partner” with them for the journey!

As for friends and family members, they can also make wonderful labor support people, but their role is distinctly different than a doula. Doulas bring specialized training in birth and labor support. She has seen many births in various settings and she can help familiarize you with what to expect at each stage. She doesn’t have the same emotional attachments as your family, so it’s easier for her to separate herself from your choices.

A doula is there to support you in whatever kind of birth you want, whatever that looks like for you. You don’t have to worry about what a doula might say or do in any given situation, like you may with some friends or family members. She’s there for your unconditional support and can support your friends and family, too, just as she supports dads and partners in the birth space.

I’m getting an epidural. Do I still need a doula?

Doulas come to your birth with an open mind and an open heart. She is not there to carry out some agenda; she’s there to help you have the best birth possible, whatever that looks like for you. She’ll talk in-depth during your prenatal meetings to learn more about what kind of birth you envision, and she’ll put all of her energy toward helping you get there. And if you get into labor and for whatever reason plans change, a doula can actually help you cope with the unexpected turn of events.

There is a lot a doula can do if you opt for pain medication, including position changes and other tricks to help your baby descend. She can also help you cope with the physical side effects of medication, to continue making your journey as comfortable as possible.

I also hate to say it, but sometimes pain medication doesn’t work as expected, but mom’s movements and coping tools are suddenly limited with those medications — a doula will get you through it.

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What if I need to have a C-section. Do I still need a doula?

There are so many things a doula can do to help make a cesarean birth the most loving, family-centered experience possible. For example, she can be with you before the surgery, to help with relaxation and assist you in brainstorming questions for your health care team. She can help advocate for some of the things you might want during the surgery. For example, working with surgeons and anesthesiologists to allow skin-to-skin contact on the operating table, while the surgeon is finishing the operation. This is so much more family-centered than taking the baby to the nursery or to the recovery room to wait for you, and we have found that it significantly decreases birth trauma for the mother. But it’s often something that requires some advocacy with the staff—a doula can help with those negotiations.

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Doulas are sometimes allowed to stay with you and your partner in the operating room during the surgery, although this is always a case-by-case decision by your surgeon and anesthesiologist. If a doula is allowed in the OR, she can help explain what is happening during the surgery and show your husband or partner some physical comfort measures that may help you deal with the sensations of surgery. Sometimes a baby needs to go to the nursery or the NICU after a cesarean birth, in which case the dad or partner generally goes with the baby, and the doula will stay by your side. This helps mothers to not feel so alone as the surgery is finished and recovery begins, and it helps partners to not feel so torn between mom and baby.

In most cases, though, the baby will go with the mom to a recovery area, where a doula can help you establish nursing and skin-to-skin bonding. And finally, if the cesarean was unexpected, a doula will offer a compassionate, listening ear to help you process the birth. She can also connect you with resources.

I will have help from my family after the baby is born. Do I still need a Postpartum Doula?

Your husband/partner, family members and friends can offer wonderful support in the days and weeks postpartum! Some of their skills may spill over into the postpartum doula realm, and others are quite different. Postpartum Doulas are great listeners, and they can support you in forming your own parenting philosophies, based on solid research-based information. Postpartum Doulas are an objective source of information and support who can help both you and your husband or partner adjust to life with this new little person. Many family members and friends have found that with a Postpartum Doula’s help, they are actually more involved in caring for mom and baby because they learn exactly how to be most supportive.

It can also be overwhelming for others to care for a new mom and baby, and Postpartum Doulas can help share that nurturing role. For dads and partners, she can help them know how to help and reassure them about what is normal for babies and postpartum mothers. Siblings have a big adjustment too, and a Postpartum Doula can help ease that transition by spending time playing, talking about their new role, and helping the parents with tips on how to interact and entertain older children during the intense weeks when mom is healing and a newborn needs so much attention.

Postpartum Doulas can also help new families recognize the symptoms of imbalance, and connect them with resources for help. They are good listeners so they may lend an empathetic ear to the new mom, or help to take care of other household responsibilities while she is focusing on getting well. There is also some evidence that using a Postpartum Doula can help reduce the chance of developing postpartum depression.

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Overall, a doula believes in ‘mothering the mother’. She has the experience and training to support women during these different times in their lives to make their experiences during pregnancy, birth, and motherhood the best that it can be.

For more about doulas check out Chick Chat: What is a Doula? – Podcast Ep 2

About the Author /

Nina is The Baby Chick® & CEO of Baby Chick®. She is a baby planner, birth doula, postpartum doula, childbirth educator, newborn care specialist, and a mother. With over eight years of experience, she has supported hundreds of families during their pregnancies, births, and postpartum journeys.

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It's the beeeeeessssttttt . . . 😬😑 (quote vi It's the beeeeeessssttttt . . . 😬😑
(quote via @smalltowntallgirl)⁠
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🤗 7 Tips for Raising Secure and Happy Kids 🤗 🤗 7 Tips for Raising Secure and Happy Kids 🤗⁠
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Parenting is hard. And ever so important. But sometimes it feels like we need to have a special degree in “Managing Toddler Mood Swings” to navigate some of the unexpected scenarios that come with raising secure and happy children.⁠
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Like how do we handle a child that likes to scream instead of talk?⁠
“Please, child, just lower your voice while we’re in Target.”⁠
Or what are we supposed to do when a child prefers to strip down every time we get them dressed or only eat foods that are the color blue?! (In case you’re wondering, there aren’t many blue foods.)⁠
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It can feel tricky and tiring to try and do it all right and then sometimes still feel like you’re at a loss. But the truth is, there’s never any way to make everything perfect. But there are things we can do that set our children up to feel secure and happy. And here are seven of my favorite tips. {Click 🔗 in bio to read more!}⁠
📷: @lauren.stewart_dc⁠
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Any oldie but goodie by @spiritysol⁠. ❤️⁠ Any oldie but goodie by @spiritysol⁠. ❤️⁠
Cesarean mamas--this one's for you. I hope you know that you are worthy. That you are such a warrior. That you are brave and powerful and strong as f✨ck. I hope you know that birthing your baby on an operating table makes you no less of a mother. No less of a goddess. Your birth story is holy and that beautiful scar on your belly is sacred as sh✨t. You are worthy of praise and celebration, honor and  admiration.⁠
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I hope that you know it was worth it. Knowing this does NOT mean you can't mourn your dream. It does NOT mean "you and your baby are safe--that's all that matters!" It does NOT mean you can't wish things had gone differently. But I hope that underneath it all, you can find beauty in what was. What is. Your baby. Your birth. Your strength. Your healing. Your story.⁠
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Your journey wasn't easy. Perhaps it unfolded much differently than you had hoped--perhaps it shook you to your core and left you feeling the immense weight of a "what if" and why".⁠
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Perhaps you're still wading through the heavy emotions of disappointment, anger, and grief. Perhaps you always will. But whatever feelings you hold in your heart and in your womb, I hope that you can look at your scar and say "Hell yes, it was worth it. And hell ya, I am worthy."⁠
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*This post was written for mamas who might be struggling with an unexpected or undesired cesarean birth. I recognize that there are mamas that choose to have planned/elective cesarean births who might not resonate with the message in this post. I honor them as well--as I honor all mothers, all women, and all beings.⁠
Words & 📷: @spiritysol⁠
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Because I gave him the wrong colored cup . . . whi Because I gave him the wrong colored cup . . . which is the color he originally asked for.⁠
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(quote via @HenpeckedHal via Twitter)⁠
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Hope they're ready for us!⁠ 👯‍♀️⁠
📷: @myquestionablelife⁠
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" . . . Tears contain stress hormones. Why would w " . . . Tears contain stress hormones. Why would we have tears if they didn't serve a purpose? Little hurts can feel big when you are little. There is no such things as no reason to cry. Comforting a crying child is not the same as shutting them down, no matter how sweetly we shut them down . . . up actually." - Pam Leo⁠
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#gentleparenting #motherhoodthroughinstagram #momlife #motherhood #parenting #parentlife #mumlife #mommylife #parenthood #motherhoodunplugged #realmoms #momstatus #thatmomlife #realmomlife #momsofinstagram #mommychick #motherhoodrising #ig_motherhood #uniteinmotherhood⁣ #babychick⁣ #healing #mentalhealth
"Every diaper change is a struggle⁠ Goldfish cru "Every diaper change is a struggle⁠
Goldfish crumbs are literally everywhere.⁠
Nothing stays in the correct place.⁠
Dramatic meltdowns are a part of our daily routine.⁠
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Being a mother to a new toddler is so challenging, and every day I'm not sure what to expect! But, even on the days where I think I'm going nuts, it's so worth getting to watch my daughter grow into her own person. I love seeing her personality expand with each day.⁠
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I won't lie though, I do get a tad bit freaked out sometimes! I mean I've never heard anyone nail the sound of a pterodactyl better than my daughter, when she's having a meltdown. 😂😳"⁠
Repost: @postpartum⁠
Words & 📷: @tori.mccain⁠
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Share your worst/funniest toddler meltdown stories below! I'm sure almost all of us mamas who have a toddler can relate. 🙋⁠
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That's my kind of mom friend. 😂 Tag that mama w That's my kind of mom friend. 😂 Tag that mama who is your happy safe person. ❤️⁠
📷: @lifeandtimesofmom⁠
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8 Ways to Beat the Winter Blues When You're Stuck 8 Ways to Beat the Winter Blues When You're Stuck Inside⁠
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⁠When the snow first starts falling, it’s a great feeling. Your house is cozy inside, school is cancelled—three cheers for a snow day! The kids are excited and you can’t help but feel some excitement, too. However, after a few days of being snowed in, we can all start to get a bit stir crazy, especially with our littles cooped up at home with us. We're sharing eight creative ways to beat those winter blues when you feel like you’re stuck indoors! {Click 🔗 in bio to continue reading!}⁠
📷: @cecileadams⁠
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Where do I sign up for my parenting punchcard? 🙋‍♀️⁠
📷: @momtransparenting⁠
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Whatever you gotta do to get in some self care, ma Whatever you gotta do to get in some self care, mama. 💁‍♀️😂⁠
(quote via @fruitsofmotherhood)⁠
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But in 2020 🤔🤔🤔😂😂😂😂⁠ jk
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Having your baby look like their dad is like being Having your baby look like their dad is like being back in school when you did all the work in a group project and they got the higher grade. 😑⁠ Annoying AF.⁠
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Who do your kids look more like?⁠
📷: @misshoneybakes⁠
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When you announcement to the kids that you're expe When you announcement to the kids that you're expecting another little one and one of your children asks where babies come from. 😳 This is when you starting thinking about when and how you need to start talking about the "birds and the bees" with your kids.⁠
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Talking about sex with anyone can be weird. But having the sex talk with your kid . . . well, that's a whole new level of weird. Some parents try to avoid having "the talk" for as long as humanly possible. While other parents jump right in at the first hint of their child's curiosity. Some parents find the topic relatively easy to discuss, while others are humiliated just thinking about it. 🙈 No matter where you fall on this wide spectrum, one fact remains: someone has to teach your child about sex. And it should probably be you.⁠
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So where do you start? How do you talk about it? And when? Of course, there are no right or wrong answers to these questions. Each parent will broach this subject in they way they feel is best. But if you're like me and need a bit of guidance, here are some tips for teaching your kids about the birds and the bees. {Click 🔗 in bio to read more!}⁠
📷: @livvylandblog⁠
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Every boy mom wants to be like WTF . . . For real, Every boy mom wants to be like WTF . . . For real, are they rotating sprinklers or something?⁠
📷: @snarkybreeders⁠
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They are the ultimate weighted blanket. Their litt They are the ultimate weighted blanket. Their little body breathing in and out while lying on your chest is intoxicating. It fills you with so much love and peace. There is truly nothing better. 💕⁠
(quote via @torturedbytoddlers)⁠
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Mindful Eating Tips After Baby - Podcast Episode 2 Mindful Eating Tips After Baby - Podcast Episode 23⁠
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The holidays can be a hectic and stressful time for many (especially moms). And on top of that, this time of year can be loaded with diet talk. 🤦‍♀️ You're not alone if all this talk about weight loss/gain, New Year's diet plans & the justification/shaming of eating XYZ is getting to you! It is to me too. Another time in life when women feel like they should shred some weight . . . after they have a baby. 🤰 While I'm not about women feeling they should change their postpartum bodies--our bodies have done so much for us and our babies and we are beautiful exactly the way we are--I am supportive of women wanting to nurture and take care of their bodies and living more mindfully. ❤️⁠
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I had the chance to chat with @drsusanalbers on our podcast about mindful eating, what it is, and how (and why) new mothers might want to incorporate this practice into their lives. Let's combat the diet culture this time of year and focus more on living and eating mindfully. {Click 🔗 in bio to listen to the episode!}⁠
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So. Many. Pump. Parts. Raise your hand if you agre So. Many. Pump. Parts. Raise your hand if you agree. 🙋‍♀️⁠
📷: @susu.stash⁠
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Motherhood and The Enneagram: Parenting Tips by Ty Motherhood and The Enneagram: Parenting Tips by Type⁠
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Knowing your Enneagram type is a lot of fun and can really bring some insight into how you act and react to other types and situations. The Enneagram differs from other personality typing systems because it encourages growth and identifies healthy and unhealthy behaviors within each of the nine types. Learning about yourself in this way is also a really great way to grow (or perhaps change for the better) as a parent. And we all could use good growth and change, right?⁠
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If you know your Enneagram type, we're sharing the parenting advice you probably need to hear. ❤️ {Click on 🔗 to continue reading!}⁠
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