The BEST 15 Things To Do for a New Mom

The BEST 15 Things To Do for a New Mom | Shot of young parents bonding with their newborn baby boy at home

By Nina Spears

The Baby Chick® & CEO of Baby Chick®

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Nina Spears is the Co-Founder & CEO of Baby Chick, an online go-to resource for all things motherhood and the Founder & CEO of Bassett Baby Planning, the premier doula agency and resource center in Houston, TX for expecting and new mothers. Read More

As you can see on our Instagram lately, I have been visiting quite a few new mommies with their babies this past week. While seeing them, I thought about how a lot of people don’t know what to do or bring when they visit a new mother. We have completely lost the whole concept of supporting a new mom and the family and coming together as a village to help. She is going through so much after having a baby and she could really use an extra pair of hands without having to ask. Thankfully, most people do want to help but they’re not just sure how. This is why I’ve come up with a list of the 15 best things you can do for a new mom.

1. Drop Off Food

New parents don’t have the energy to make or even think about what they are going to have for a meal. Shoot, they sometimes even need to be reminded that they have to stop and eat! Be a dear and drop off a meal to them, preferably something that they can throw in the fridge or freezer and then microwave later. Do NOT ring the doorbell when you are at their door! (By doing that, you could wake up mom and/or baby. Not cool!) Give the door a knock and if no one is able to answer, send them a text that food waiting is at their doorstep. If you are coming by unannounced, the family probably doesn’t feel like making small talk so just leave the food with a text and go on your way. Don’t worry, this should only last a few months so you will see your friend soon.

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2. Set Up a Meal Train

This is probably the best thing you can do for a new parent. Mealtrain.com is seriously a new mom’s best friend. Set it up so that you and a bunch of friends and their family members can pitch in to make sure the new parents are being fed during those crazy first days and months. If you are the leader of the mealtrain, you can provide everybody a list of their favorite foods, restaurants to order from (and specific orders), and grocery store items. You want to get the new parents a combination of healthy meals, snacks, and a few sweet treats too.

3. Bring Diapers and Wipes

If you’re not going to bring the family food then bring something useful. No parent can ever have enough diapers or wipes. This is always a safe and much needed gift to bring. Be sure to ask what size is appropriate first! You don’t want to bring them the wrong size.

4. Clean Something

If money is a little tight or if the new mom doesn’t need you to bring anything, offer to help clean up around the house. She will probably say no, but do it anyway. She will honestly be so grateful and glad that you did. Look around and see what you can help with. Here are some things to look for:

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  • Does the dishwasher needs to be emptied and refilled?
  • Does her kitchen counter or bathroom counter need to be wiped down?
  • Does the trash or diaper pail need to be taken out?
  • Does the laundry need to be folded?
  • Do bottles need to be cleaned and/or sanitized?

If you want to do something extra nice (and have the cash to do it), pay for a housekeeper to come by and clean their home. You and a few friends could pitch in and get this for their family as a gift. She will love it!

5. Watch Her Kids

The new mom is probably dying to take a nap, or a shower, or bath, or all three! Offer to come by and watch all of her kiddos (if she has more than one) and tell her to take all the time she needs. Even if you are just watching her older children, you can help her get some uninterrupted alone time with her newborn.

6. Help Out with Her To-Do List

She may have a whole list of things to do! Maybe she needs to run and pick up medications at the pharmacy, or get her dry cleaning, or buy more diapers. She might want some help finishing her ‘Thank You’ notes and someone to drop them off at the post office. She may need you to find and call a lactation consultant or a postpartum doula. Whatever is on her to-do list, help her tackle it. You can either go with her and baby to run her errands – she might love getting out of the house – or offer to run the errands for her. Even filling up her car tank with gas would be so much appreciated.

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7. Don’t Immediately Ask to Hold the Baby

After having a baby, everyone wants to come over because they want to see and meet the newest addition. There’s nothing wrong with that! But what is the new mom, chopped liver?! While some mothers are excited to have a friend come over and have an adult conversation and someone other than herself hold the baby, other moms don’t want to immediately hand over their child. Be a good friend and be present for the mother. Ask how she is doing, talk about her and show that you are there to support her and her family. After a little while, then you can ask if you can hold the baby. If she says yes, then move on to number 8…

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8. Wash Your Hands Before Holding the Baby 

A lot of new parents are super germ-conscious so be sure to wash your hands. Extra points if you do it without them having to ask!

9. Don’t Freak Out When the Baby Cries

If you didn’t already know this, babies cry. That’s a way that they communicate. Don’t freak out when the little one starts to whimper in your arms and immediately give the baby to mom. She has to soothe her baby all day and night so be helpful and try to calm the baby yourself. If baby is still fussy after your attempts, then hand the baby over to mom. New mothers want to see you confident while being around and holding their baby, so freaking out makes them freak out. Stay calm.

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10. Help Her Figure Out Her New Baby Products

Who knew that there was so much baby stuff? Some of it can be quite complicated, too. Ask the new mom if she needs help figuring out any of these new products. She may need some help learning how to use her baby carrier, or cloth diapers, or bottle sterilizer, or baby bouncer, etc. Look them up on YouTube or read the manual if you don’t know how to assemble and/or use them. She already has enough on her plate trying to take care of herself, her family, and newborn baby. Learning how to use these things will help make her journey through motherhood easier.

11. Pamper the New Mom

Other great things that new moms love to get are gift certificates to get a massage (postnatal massages are the best and can help her body heal), or a haircut/blow out, or a mani/pedi. She’s been through the wringer after giving birth so getting pampered is exactly what she needs. Either offer to babysit so that she can get out of the house, or (if she wants to keep the baby close) offer to go with her and watch her little one while she gets some much deserved pampering.

12. Take Some Photos

Most moms can agree when I say that they are the ones that are usually taking the pictures and are not in the pictures. (Unless they are selfies. 😉 ) Offer to come by with your nice camera (or use her smart phone) to snap some photos of the glowing momma and her baby. If the dad/partner is there, even better! Take some pictures of their new family. It’s rare for them to have photos of all of them together. And their little one is only going to get bigger and change every day.

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13. Offer to Help During the Night

If you’re a really good friend or family member, offer to help at night. (Of course, make sure that everyone feels comfortable with that first.) Being able to help bring her baby to her when baby needs to eat and then putting the baby back to sleep for her, or feeding the baby with a bottle while the mother and father/partner catch up on some sleep is an incredibly kind gift. She will forever remember and be grateful for that.

14. If You’re There During the Day, Don’t Stay Too Long

She’s been up all night and all day with her newborn. There is only so much time she can carry on a coherent conversation. If you’re there to watch the baby while the mom sleeps, then stay as long as she needs you! But if you are there to catch up with her, make it brief. Be understanding and know that this is temporary.

15. Get Them a Postpartum Doula

Keep the help coming! Things do get easier as the time passes for mothers, but then new challenges come. Look into hiring a postpartum doula for the new mom to continue helping her during those first few months. (You can contact DONA International or look at DoulaMatch.net to see if there are doulas in her area that can help.) Once the newborn stage is over, keep offering your help with these tasks above. The good thing is, when it’s your turn, these mothers will do the same for you. 🙂

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Again, it really does take a village to raise a child. Be that village and create the support system that is so desperately needed when a baby is born. And I recommend, new moms and dads, share this post and let it do the talking for you. 😉

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