What I Wish I’d Known When My First Baby Was Born

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What I Wish I’d Known When My First Baby Was Born

When I had my first baby, I felt so overwhelmed. I felt like my whole life was consumed by this little 7 pound person, and in many ways it was. In the moments I wasn’t physically tending to her needs or showering her with kisses, I was worrying about and researching her sleep patterns, her developmental milestones, and her future.

Fast-forward 5 years. I just had my third baby, and in many ways parenting has gotten much easier. Yes, the days are louder and crazier with three little people running around, but I am far more content and calm (aside from the occasional mommy meltdown – it happens to all of us!). I’ve learned a few tricks along the way from other mommas, I’ve learned what my own needs are, and I’ve learned to roll with the punches a bit more easily.


To those of you who have just had your first baby, and feel completely overwhelmed, you are completely normal, and we are 110% with you. You’re doing a great job even if you don’t feel like it, and, I promise, it will get easier with time. In the meantime, here are a few little tricks and tips I’ve picked up along the way, and wish I’d known with the first baby.

1. Put baby down when he’s sleeping

With my first two babies, I held them through most of their naps. I loved snuggling with them and I was worried I would miss something if I put them down. The only problem was that they got so used to being held all the time that they refused to sleep any other way. Before I knew it, they expected me to be by their side to help them fall asleep and to stay asleep. The snuggle times were so sweet, but I got overwhelmed with all of the other things in life that I just could never seem to get on top of because I was constantly either taking care of an awake baby or snuggling with an asleep baby.

With my third baby, I decided to be (relatively) consistent in putting her down when she slept. At first, I felt like a bad mom, because it seemed like I was putting her down all the time (they sleep a LOT at first). But the reality was that she got much better sleep when I put her down and I felt so much more settled into the flow of life with a newborn when I had a few moments during her naps to take care anything else that needed my attention.

2. Your own needs are important too

With my first baby, I always put my own needs last, which meant many times I completely neglected myself. Over time, I’ve learned that I have to take care of myself well in order to be able to take care of my babies well.

So, don’t forget to take care of yourself, momma. If you have not eaten lunch yet and you’re hungry, by all means, put baby down in a safe spot or wear baby so that you can be hands-free and take a few minutes to prepare yourself a healthy meal. Coordinate times for someone to take care of your little one so that you can go for a walk. Coordinate your schedule with baby’s schedule so that you can take a shower each day and feel refreshed. The result? You will be so much more capable of pouring out your love and attention on baby when you are well taken care of yourself.

3. Breaking the routine is not always bad

By now, you’ve probably read it a million times – kids thrive on routines. I learned very quickly the security and stability that came from having a routine – not only for my kids, but also for me.


That said, I’ve come to the conclusion that there are times where it is worth it to break the routine. Here’s the thing – I always weigh the cost before I break the routine. If we were to get a sudden opportunity to go to Disneyland (a girl can dream, right?) then I would willingly sacrifice naps and routine for the day, knowing that even though we’d all be hyper and crazy and exhausted by bedtime, we would have the time of our lives as we unraveled into delirium. And the next day, we’d pull it all back together and get back to our routine with happy memories to last a lifetime. My general rule is stick to the routine 90% of the time, break the routine the other 10% and break it with gusto!

4. Soak up those sweet moments because they pass by so fast

When I was in the midst of learning to be a momma for the first time, it was hard to stop and really soak up the moment. Like truly, just pause everything and let it soak in. There was too much to think about, too much emotion, so much unknown.

With our third little love, it’s still hard to remember, but I have my 5 year old as a constant reminder of how quickly they grow up. I’ve learned that I can’t realistically soak up every minute, as much as I would like to, but I try to consciously pause my mind for a few minutes here and there and soak in that particular moment. What does my child’s voice sound like in this moment? How do I feel reading them their bedtime stories or kissing their cheek as they fall asleep? How does their little hand feel in mine? The days can be long, but the years pass by oh so quickly. Every once in a while, remind yourself to pause and just soak it in for a moment.

I’m cheering you on, momma – you’re doing a great job!

About the Author /

Lauren is a wife and momma to 3 little people. She spends her days working on the marketing team at Kindred Bravely and finding creative ways to engage her kiddos in the world around them. She loves all things that center around moms and babies!

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