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Having a natural, unmedicated labor and delivery is becoming a more common choice for pregnant women these days. Women are seeking to have a birthing experience that is more peaceful, without unnecessary medical interventions, and in a more comfortable environment. While a natural, unmedicated labor may not be everyone’s cup of tea, for a healthy, low-risk pregnant woman it is certainly an unforgettable and amazing experience. Whether you choose to have your unmedicated labor and delivery in the hospital, at a birth center, or at home, here are some ways you can get ready to rock your birth!
1. Prepare Mentally
There is a LOT that is going to happen during labor and delivery that, if you don’t prepare for it mentally, is going to FREAK. YOU. OUT. Research as much as you can about natural labor and delivery so you have a general idea of what is going on with your body and your baby. But also, take a good birth class. There are so many methods out there, but some of the most popular are The Bradley Method, Hypnobabies, and Lamaze. My husband and I took the Bradley Method class and it was incredibly informative; not only for the actual labor and delivery part of becoming parents, but it also opened our eyes to all the decisions we would have to make immediately upon having the baby (vitamin K? vaccines? PKU? circumcision?). The more you know about what is happening during and after your labor, the less you will have to fear or worry about when the time comes.
2. Hire a Doula
Especially if you’re a first time mom. Yes, your partner may be a great birth coach, but he’s going to be just as nervous and excited as you are. He’s also going to be seeing the love of his life suffering some intense pain (and there’s nothing he can do to “fix it”), and he may not handle it as well as he thinks he might. Hiring a doula will allow both your husband and yourself to focus on the task at hand as she will be able to coach both of you through each stage of labor. Hiring a doula was the single best thing I did to prepare for my first birth and, as it happens, my doula was the person to first recognize the symptoms of postpartum depression in me. She was with me during labor and kept in contact with me post-delivery. Trust me, hiring a doula is worth every penny.
3. Write Out Your Birth Plan
I know it seems a little like overkill, but write (or type) out your birth plan and make multiple copies. Put your copies in your hospital/birth center bag and make sure your doctor and nurses get a copy as soon as you check in. You need to be very clear about what you want to happen if certain circumstances occur. For instance, when I wrote my birth plan, I outlined in detail what I wanted to happen or not happen in the event of a vaginal birth (delayed cord clamping, immediate skin-to-skin, no episiotomy). I then outlined what I wanted to happen/not happen in the event of a c-section (one arm to remain free, delayed cord clamping, immediate skin-to-skin with my husband, no bath, no formula). I made sure I wrote out all my preferences and decisions for whatever path my birth took so that if, for whatever reason, I was unable to make my preferences known in the moment, everyone would know what I expected.
4. Know Your Limit
Listen, I know you are gung-ho about being a big, bad, warrior mama and popping out this baby like the Wonder Woman you are, but there may come a time when you can’t take the pain anymore and you make the decision to ask for meds. THIS IS OKAY. Trust me, I know how hard that place can be because I was there. I labored (unmedicated) for over 40 HOURS with my first baby and despite our best efforts to move things along, I was stuck at 7 centimeters for many of those hours. During those hours, I did not sleep, I barely ate and I was in a great deal of pain. I was beyond exhausted and my body was starting to wear out. Despite my stubborn instinct to press on with my unmedicated labor, I made the decision to be transported to the hospital for an epidural so that I could, at the very least, get a bit of rest before continuing on. It was a very tough call for me to make and, to be honest, I felt like a huge failure about it for a long, long time after my daughter was born. In hindsight, I know I made the right call because I did what I needed to do to get my child here safe and healthy, as well as to keep myself safe and healthy. In the end, that’s what really matters, isn’t it?
5. Consider a Water Birth
Laboring (and delivering, if you choose) in water is one of the most effective ways to manage pain naturally. Not only does it help with the pain, laboring and birthing in water can also help speed up labor, reduce perineal trauma, and can be a gentler welcome for baby. I labored in water for both of my pregnancies and it was key in helping me to deal with the pain. I was able to deliver my son in the water and it is an experience I will never forget! I highly encourage you to look into a water birth for your own natural labor as it can be a huge help to managing the pain.
Choosing how and where to have your child is a big decision and one that should not be taken lightly. I encourage you to dig into the research if you are considering a natural, unmedicated labor and delivery. There are many ways you can learn to manage pain and, for many women, the experience is one that is so powerfully affirming and sacred. If this is the path you choose, just remember to prepare yourself and your spouse for what lies ahead and then hang on for the ride!