5 Things I Wish I Knew Before Becoming a Stay-at-Home Mom

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5 Things I Wish I Knew Before Becoming a Stay-at-Home Mom

From the moment you see those two pink lines pop up you will have a bunch of people giving you a ton of advice whether you want it or not. Most of the time, all this unsolicited information is well-meaning, but it can still be annoying and overwhelming. For me, most of what I wanted to learn as a new mom I could find by reading books, researching, or talking to friends who already had kids and talking to my doctor or midwife. But, looking back now, there were just a handful of things that never really got discussed and I kinda wish someone had shared them with me.

Of course, all of my experience in being a mom is as a stay-at-home mom, so for you working mamas out there, your experiences may be different, and I’d LOVE to hear what things you wish someone had shared with you. But, for me, these five things are what came as a surprise to me as a SAHM:

1. You will feel bored and lonely.

This one was a bit of a shocker for me. I am an introvert. A big one. There’s not much more I enjoy than spending a lot of quality time with myself. So I thought that this part of being a SAHM would be awesome! What? I get to hang out at home all day and “just” take care of a tiny baby? Sign me up! Turns out, being home alone with an itty-bitty baby all day is not nearly as awesome as I thought it would be. There are only so many episodes of Ellen you can watch while nursing (every two hours) before you want to chunk the remote through the T.V. I also quickly realized that I didn’t have the time I thought I would have (more on this one later) to do all the things I thought I would do because I was too busy just going from one mundane task to the next, day in and day out, just so that the baby and I stayed alive that day. The days became long and monotonous and, dare I admit it, BORING.

More than that, I was so, so lonely. Being an introvert, I honestly didn’t think I could get lonely since I’d always thrived on being alone. But this was different because in all my years of loving my alone time, I’d always been able to choose between it and hanging out with friends. This time, I had no choice. I was stuck in my house with my baby all day. I didn’t have any other mommy friends whom I could call and chat with or with whom I could hang out. All of my friends were still childless and went to work every day. It was a sweet relief when my husand came home in the evenings so that I could have at least one adult conversation per day. For me, becoming a SAHM was a very isolating experience and I didn’t know how to handle it. I truly believe that the isolation I felt contributed in a big way to my Postpartum Depression.

It’s no wonder that SAHMs report more depression, sadness and anger than their working counterparts. The good news is that it doesn’t have to be this way. Yes, you will go through a period of adjustment in those first few months. Yes, you will experience periods of boredom and loneliness that you didn’t expect. But if you arm yourself with some tools now, such as setting a daily schedule for yourself and your baby, implementing “me time,” and finding your tribe (which I discuss below) you will be able to get through these periods much easier than I did.

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2. You will have very little time to do anything productive.

Logically, I knew that I would be staying home, alone, with my new baby and it would definitely be a change. What I didn’t realize is that, despite my fantasies of using that time at home to excel in the art of being a domestic goddess, I would have very little time or energy to do any of the things I thought I would do, like keep a clean house or work on all my various craft and home projects. The reality of the situation was that I was getting very little sleep due to the little bundle who refused to sleep anywhere other than ON me, and during the day my darling child did very little besides scream her head off (hello, colic!). I was just struggling to survive those first few months. After she got a little older and we got more of a routine down, she still napped for very short spurts (20 minutes max) so that even if I started to do something productive, I’d never get to finish it. I felt like I was in a perpetual paradox of having too little time to accomplish anything and too much time sitting around nursing or trying to get my baby to sleep where I couldn’t do anything. It was very frustrating, to say the least!

Granted, I know there are moms out there who are blessed with really easy babies. Babies who pretty much eat, sleep, and poop on a schedule from day one. Babies who will sleep soundly, leaving mom to her own devices to actually get stuff done. I really, really hope you have one of these easy babies. I did not. So I had to resign myself to the fact that, for a season, I would not be able to get as much done in a day as I had hoped. I had to lower my expectations of myself, for the sake of my sanity. If you are like me and have to give up on doing ALL.THE.THINGS with the time you thought you’d have, give yourself some grace and realize that it won’t always be this way. Babies will learn to sleep better (most of the time). They’ll eventually be happy playing on their own for at least a few minutes a day. You will, eventually and gradually, gain more time to do all those things. So be patient and give yourself a break!

3. Finding your tribe is essential.

This one, I believe, applies to SAHMs and working moms alike. I’ve written on this topic many times because it is vital. You know the old adage, “It takes a village to raise a child”? It’s so, so true. So true. It’s also true that it takes a tribe to grow a mom. When I had my first baby, I felt very isolated and alone, as I mentioned before. I had no one within my immediate circle of friends who had babies and I wasn’t very good at making friends on my own (and I certainly had no idea how to find new mommy friends). After crying in my wineglass to my doula several weeks after the birth of my daughter, it finally dawned on me that I wanted, no, I needed friends. Friends who could relate to all the things I was going through as a new mom. Friends whom I could call in the middle of the day so I didn’t lose my mind. Friends who would join me at a park with the kids so we could escape our prison-like home.

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My doula, God bless her, knew how to help me find those friends, introduced me via social media, and I soon went to my first playdate. It saved my life. Those girls welcomed me with open arms and made me feel like I was no longer alone. We met weekly for playdates (even though my child was only three months old, I still went and they still loved me) and we chatted daily on our private Facebook page. It was a turning point for me in my journey as a new mom. Those precious women are still my friends, to this day, despite living in different cities. If there was only one piece of advice I could give all moms, it would be to find your tribe!

4. Carve out some time for your husband, even if you don’t feel like it.

This one also applies to both SAHMs and working mamas. Okay, so I’m going to get a little personal here and admit that even when my husband and I were given the go-ahead by my midwife to start having sex again after baby, it was literally the last thing I wanted to do.  Not only was I utterly exhausted from lack of sleep, taking care of a screaming infant 24/7, and trying to keep the house from being a complete dump, I was also fighting a lot of body image issues after having a baby only months earlier. The thought of trying to get sexy with my husband was about as exciting to me as going to get a bikini wax.

But, I knew that sex was important to my husband. Not just because he’s a man and he’s wired to want it more, but also, like most men, he tends to express emotion and intimacy through sex. So while I had little to no desire to get back in the swing of things in that area of our life, I knew it was important to him, and therefore, important to our marriage for me to, at the very least, make a concentrated effort to have sexy time again.

It may take a while for you guys to find what works for you as a couple again. Remember, your body has changed, your lives have changed, and it’s not going to be as easy as it once was to concentrate on each other. Try to be sensitive to his needs, but don’t be afraid to tell him your needs as well. It may take some time for you to truly want to be intimate again, but I have found that making an effort, even when I’m so tired I can barely stand up, often leads to some very precious and tender moments between my husband and I, and that’s worth being tired for.

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5. Learn to trust your instincts and let it go.

Again, this is a universal truth that all moms can benefit from. There are pretty much three things I can guarantee about parenting decisions: (1) It will never be easy, (2) You will never be “right,” and (3) It will all be okay.

From the moment you find out that you’re expecting, you are bombarded with a ton of really important decisions: will you breastfeed? will you circumcise? will you vaccinate? will you have a home or hospital birth? will you stay home or go back to work? will you co-sleep? The list could go on and on. Making these kinds of decisions can be really stressful because none of them are easy questions. You could read books and articles and websites and blogs and everything you can get your hands on about the pros and cons of each decision you are trying to make and end up making yourself even more conflicted and confused!

Listen, I want you to realize something right now: making parenting decisions will never be easy. Decisions like these often take a lot of thought, research, prayer and discussion. Further, no matter how thoroughly you research and discuss and pray and ponder, your decision will never be the “right” one because THRE ARE NO RIGHT ANSWERS. Let that sink in for a minute. All you can ever do when you have to make a hard parenting choice is do your research, make the decision that is right for you and your family, trust your instincts, and then roll with it. You will always come across someone who made a different choice or a mom who is being Miss Judgy-pants about your decision (believe me, I’ve been judged for a lot of my choices). Ignore them. It’s YOUR choice for YOUR child and you have to stop worrying once you’ve made your decision. Trust yourself, mama.

Finally, and maybe most importantly, I want you to just take a breath and repeat this to yourself, “It will all be okay.” This mothering thing is hard and there are a lot of really challenging parts of it. But it’s also amazing and like nothing else in life. It may seem pretty overwhelming at times, especially in the beginning, but I promise you, mama, it really will all be okay. You’ve got this!

About the Author /

Cheyenne is an attorney, writer, speaker and blogger with a slight obsession for home decor, red wine, and good coffee. Cheyenne’s blog, Sense & Serendipity, focuses on inspiring others to create a home well loved and a life well lived. Cheyenne lives in San Marcos, Texas with her two children, Aislin and Hawkins.

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Anger. Rage. Frustration. Guilt. Shame. Remorse. A Anger. Rage. Frustration. Guilt. Shame. Remorse. Apologies. Self-digust. All make mothering complicated and layered with conflicting emotions.⁠
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Make space for mistakes. Try self-compassion when you disappoint yourself. Learn skills to help regulate your emotions if necessary. take care of your marriage/partnership. Your baby loves you unconditionally. Do not forget that.⁠
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It may have been a messy day, but you are doing so It may have been a messy day, but you are doing so well, mama. Take it day by day. Or even minute by minute. Things will get better. You are strong and you are a great mom. ❤️⁠
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When you wish you could buy half sizes. 😑🤣⁠
📷: @momhashtags⁠
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TRUTH!⁠ 😂⁠ (quote via @nottheworstmom via T TRUTH!⁠ 😂⁠
(quote via @nottheworstmom via Twitter)⁠
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We get that diapers and childcare aren't cheap and We get that diapers and childcare aren't cheap and bills really add up, but it doesn't cost much to schedule time as a family together. Get out of the house together and make memories. Whether you drive to the lake or your nearest beach or a cool park close by, spend time together. Invest in your memories. Invest in your relationships. Those will be the things that stay with you forever and make you the happiest and "richest" in the long run. ❤️⁠
📷: @momsgotink⁠
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How would you finish this sentence? . . .⁠ You k How would you finish this sentence? . . .⁠
You know you have a newborn when _______.⁠
📷: @healthiest_baby⁠
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You’ve spent the past 9 months preparing for the You’ve spent the past 9 months preparing for the arrival of your beautiful baby. 🤰 Labor and delivery has come and gone. Now its time for your 6-week postpartum check up. 🏥  So much of life after delivery is focused on your new bundle of joy that you can sometimes forget to care for yourself. This is exactly why I believe the postpartum appointment is so important to you as a new momma – because it’s all about you! 💗⁠
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Sure, your provider loves to fawn over your sweet baby, but this appointment is about mom. How are YOU doing? Self-care is so important to your health and recovery after having a baby, so let this appointment focus on your well-being. 😊⁠
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Here are 10 helpful questions to ask when you see your provider at your 6-week postpartum check up. 📝 Your provider will likely cover most or all of these topics on her or his own, but use this as a guide to remind you to ask anything she or he doesn’t cover! {Click 🔗 in bio to read more!}⁠
📷: @tailsandwings⁠
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YES 👏 IT 👏 DOES👏⁠ Go and find your troo YES 👏 IT 👏 DOES👏⁠
Go and find your troop, your tribe, squad, village. Whatever you want to call it. Find people to surround yourself with who will support YOU, love YOU, encourage YOU as a woman and as a parent. Parenthood is tough. Especially when you feel alone. So find your village and love them hard. And from one mother to another, load up on wipes. Because motherhood can get quite messy too!⁠ 😉⁠
📷: @hallmarkbaby⁠
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An amazing story from a determined mom to breastfe An amazing story from a determined mom to breastfeed her #triplets. 💗 With hard work, determination, help and support, anything is possible.
Words & 📷: @triplets_and_toddler
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“I breastfed my first child so I knew I wanted to #breastfeed again. People were skeptical about me #breastfeeding triplets, and this drove my determination! 💪 My boys were born at 29+3 and therefore it was so important for them to have #breastmilk! 🤱
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After having an emergency C-section, I knew there was no time to rest, so I started hand expressing within the first hour. I set an alarm to ensure that I expressed every 2 hours during the day and every 3 hours overnight. ⏰
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Being separated from my boys was hard so having pictures/video links helped whilst I expressed. Seeing my teeny, vulnerable babies in their little incubators drove my determination to provide them with my milk! I also rotated muslin squares between us so that I could smell them and vice versa. This also helped me whilst I expressed during the night away from my boys. Their smell on the swaddles kept me focused! 💙
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Twice during our #NICU journey my boys were split between hospitals over an hour apart! This was the hardest time and meant I was separated from 2 of my boys for a couple of days. During this time I kept up with expressing and ensured that all three of them had enough milk to take with them until we were all reunited.
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Looking back I feel it is my sheer determination that has really enabled me to successfully breastfeed my triplet boys! Not once have they needed donor or formula milk. It required a massive commitment both physically and emotionally but I am so proud of my achievement! My boys are now 11 months and are still breastfeeding." ❤️
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*This story is not to bring any mothers down that choose to formula feed. (I, personally, had to give my son formula at 7 months old!) We share this mother's story to inspire mothers and celebrate our victories! ✨
If you are having breastfeeding struggles and want to succeed, contact a good local IBCLC and receive support. Find new mom friends who are also breastfeeding who can encourage you. And if you choose to formula feed, we honor you too. 💕 #mommychick
WTF 😑⁠ (via @thenatewolf via Twitter)⁠ .⁠ WTF 😑⁠
(via @thenatewolf via Twitter)⁠
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Repeat after me . . . 💗⁠ (quote via @friscoar Repeat after me . . . 💗⁠
(quote via @friscoareamoms)⁠
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🧠 4 Ways to Promote Your Child's Mental Health 🧠 4 Ways to Promote Your Child's Mental Health 🧠⁠
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Your child’s mental health is fairly complicated. It's also critical to their overall health and wellness. We often think of mental health as it pertains to adults, but just like growth and physical development, research shows that mental health is something that should be considered starting at birth. ❤️⁠
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When children are very young, their brains are extremely sensitive to environmental stress. Toxic stress, defined as high levels of prolonged stress, can have life-long effects on children. Limiting stress for young children is critical for their early mental health. One of the most fundamental ways we can help eliminate toxic stress is by building a strong relationship foundation from the very beginning of their lives. Your relationship with your baby is an integral part of their sense of self-esteem, independence, and confidence; three key factors in mental health.⁠
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Building that relationship with your child can be broken down into four key concepts . . . {Click 🔗 in bio to find out what they are!}⁠
📷: @vlentine⁠
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Just in case you call her a boy, here's a MASSIVE Just in case you call her a boy, here's a MASSIVE bow that shows she's a girl . . . yet still somehow get's called a boy. 🤷⁠
📷: unknown⁠
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💤 Good Bedtime Routines for Babies of Every Age 💤 Good Bedtime Routines for Babies of Every Age 💤⁠
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If you’ve ever typed into Google, “Why won’t my baby sleep?” you’re not alone. In fact, you’re among thousands of other parents/caregivers who are likely as tired as you are. Chances are, if you have gone down the Google rabbit hole at 2:00 a.m. (or just asked your pediatrician for sleep advice), then you’ve most likely been introduced to the concept of a bedtime routine.⁠
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A bedtime routine can be an incredibly helpful tool in establishing healthy sleep habits and good sleep hygiene. Infants and young children thrive on routine; in fact, they are comforted by predictability (spoiler alert: most adults are this way, too!). Plus, a young mind is exposed to so much new information every day that it’s reassuring for a child to know that they can depend on certain events to have a predictable structure.⁠
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Bedtime routines are also a cue to their brains and bodies that sleep is coming. With a predictable bedtime routine, your little one will start to recognize the order of the routine and begin to anticipate what comes next. With enough repetition, this process happens automatically in a very Pavlovian way. A calm and successive routine will also make the onset of sleep come more easily. Can you imagine if you walked out of your workout and immediately someone told you that you had to lay down and fall asleep? This would be nearly impossible, and the same is true for our little ones. By allowing them some time to unwind, you are making the falling asleep process that much easier. Here are some tips on what to do for your little one's bedtime. ❤️⁠ {Click 🔗 in bio to read more!}⁠
📷: @hannahxruth⁠
Article by: @ohbabyconsulting⁠
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THIS. The struggle is real.⁠ ⁠🥴 📷: @brit THIS. The struggle is real.⁠ ⁠🥴
📷: @britt.kav⁠
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