Before giving birth to my first child (a girl, it turned out), I knew I would not circumcise a male child. I briefly mentioned my decision to my husband, who said, “We’ll cross that bridge when we get there.” That bridge came two years later when we had our second baby, a son. During my pregnancy, I did an exhaustive amount of research on circumcision, and I prayed about it and studied Scripture (which may or may not matter to many, but it mattered to me). After I had done my research and confirmed my reasons and choice not to circumcise, my husband and I had a serious, sit-down discussion about it.

Not surprisingly, my husband had no qualms about circumcision. After all, he was circumcised himself. Among his reasons for why he wanted to have our son circumcised were: “Why not?” “I’m circumcised, and I’m fine,” and “He’ll look weird.” While I saw his point, I did not accept those as “reasons” to have our son circumcised. But I knew my husband well enough to know that arguing with him wouldn’t get us very far, so I asked him to research the subject and gave him some of my resources. We agreed to resume the discussion in a few months. Whether or not to circumcise is a very personal decision for each parent. However, everyone’s reasons for or against it are different.

Why I Didn’t Circumcise My Son

Here are a few reasons why I (and eventually, my husband) chose not to circumcise our son:

1. It’s Not the “Norm” Anymore

When I brought up this subject to my husband, his first response was that circumcision is “normal” and that most of our son’s peers will have had it done. That statement may have been true when we were children, but not anymore. According to a 2010 article from The New York Times, circumcision rates in newborn boys were down to 32% of American boys.¹ That means that most of the penises your son may see in the boy’s locker room will be intact. These days, circumcising is not as “normal” as it used to be.

2. It’s More Than Just Extra Skin

The foreskin has far more functionality in a male child’s life than most people realize. It keeps a baby’s penis safe and moist.² Later in life, an intact penis has greater sensitivity and offers the male more sexual satisfaction.⁷ This is because the foreskin has a very high concentration of specialized nerve receptors.⁸ So, the foreskin plays an important role in health and sexual development throughout the male child’s life.

3. There Are Many Possible Risks

Just check out these statistics compiled by one doctor from her research on circumcision:

Out of 100 circumcised boys:³

• 75 will not readily breastfeed post-op
• 55 will have adverse reactions from the surgery
• 35 will have post-op hemorrhaging to one degree or another
• 31 will develop meatal ulcers
• 10 will need to have the circumcision surgery repeated to fix prior surgical problems/error
• 8 will have an infection at the surgical site
• 3 will develop post-operative phimosis
• 2 will have a more serious complication (such as seizure, heart attack, stroke, loss of penis, or death)
• 1 will require additional immediate surgery and sutures to stop hemorrhage
• 1 will develop fibrosis
• 1 will develop phimosis
• 1 will be treated with antibiotics for a urinary tract infection (UTI)
• 1 will be treated with antibiotics for a surgical site infection
• Of those who do receive pain medication for the surgery (about 4% of those boys undergoing circumcision in the United States), some will have adverse reactions to the pain medication injected

Now compare that to these statistics for intact boys:

Out of 100 intact boys:³

• 1 will be treated with antibiotics for a UTI (fewer if the foreskin is never forcibly retracted)
• 1 will be told to get cut later in life for one reason or another (fewer if the foreskin is never forcibly retracted)

Note: According to the source, the statistics above are the averages from all studies examining the health outcomes of circumcised vs. intact boys between 1989 and 2009.³

4. There Aren’t Many Health Benefits

Many nations don’t perform circumcisions or speak out against them.⁹ As I researched, I felt shocked and disturbed to discover there never was a medical reason for circumcision when it began to be commonplace in the U.S. The reason why circumcision started was to stop young boys and men from masturbating and curb “promiscuous” behavior in men.⁴ Um . . . what? Moreover, circumcision does not prevent AIDS or other sexually transmitted diseases, as many of us were led to believe.¹⁰ However, some studies show that it may aid in reducing the risk of contracting HIV and STDs.^5,10

5. Circumcision Is Very Painful

Babies feel pain just like we do. They may even be more sensitive to pain.¹¹ During a circumcision, the baby is awake and can be aware of the full extent of the pain (depending on if they receive local anesthesia).¹² There are videos out there if you want to see or hear it. I did, and I will never forget it.

You can read more about circumcision here and here to investigate further. During his research, my husband could not find any solid evidence supporting circumcision. So, when we did resume our conversation, we agreed not to have the procedure done. As I said, this choice is personal and difficult for many parents, especially fathers. But the more you know about a subject, especially irrevocable procedures done on your child, the better you can make a fully informed decision. Whatever you choose to do, make sure you do your homework and then make the best choice you can make as a parent.