Defining Parenting Roles With Your Spouse Before Baby

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Defining Parenting Roles With Your Spouse Before Baby

So it’s a month before your new baby is due to arrive and you and your spouse are ready! You have discussed and scrutinized over every detail of your baby’s upcoming life. And not just once but twenty times. You’ve discussed what name will best represent your baby’s personality, what kind of delivery you want, what diaper brand you believe is best and you’ve even discussed whether your baby would benefit from being a vegan. But, have you really sat down and discussed one of the most important topics: each of your parenting roles?

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Have you taken the time to discuss how you and your spouse plan to balance your parenting duties once baby comes? Or better yet, have you discussed what parenting roles you believe are a father’s responsibility versus the mother’s, which is particularly relevant if one partner is more traditional in their viewpoints and another is more egalitarian.

The Importance of Defining Parenting Roles

Well this may seem unnecessary, but I promise you it might be one of the most important things that you and your partner could discuss—even more so than if your baby should be a vegan. Because as wonderful and magical as new babies are, they can add a lot of unexpected stress and change to a marriage or relationship—especially when you have no sleep in your system.

I will never forget the day my best friend called and told me how irritated she was with her husband for not helping her in the night with the baby. She told me, “I’ve never been so frustrated with him before. He used to never make me mad. And now that I’m not getting an ounce of sleep, I want to throw a baby toy at him.” I couldn’t help but laugh at the normalcy of the situation. However, it just goes to show why taking time to talk about things before the birth of baby is useful!

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So here’s some tips for getting started with this discussion. Sit down. Get comfy. And ready to talk. Try and not be defensive with one another but instead take a learning stance in your responses to one another. The last thing you want to do is make your partner feel like their thoughts are wrong.

Step 1: Define What You Witnessed as Normal Growing Up

Ask each other what roles you witnessed in your own family for a mom’s role versus a dad’s role. Our own family experience is naturally what defines our sense of normal. And whether we realize it or not, we often recreate those roles. But if you don’t agree with the way your parents did things in parenting, you have to be intentional about changing them. Much like in the first years of marriage.

Answer questions like this:

  • Do you believe men and women equally share the role of childrearing? If yes, why? If not, why? (This question is huge in getting realistic expectations set early on!)
  • If not, are there certain things that only a Dad does?
  • Are there certain things that only a Mom does?
  • Are roles flexible based on circumstances or rather rigid? Meaning, if one parent has been up all night with baby, does the other naturally step up to laundry and cooking even if that hasn’t been their traditional role? Or do you feel that no matter what is going on, it is always the father’s role to take out the trash. Etc.

Step 2: Talk Through Your Own Personal Expectations About Your Own Family’s Roles

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Now that you’ve discussed what you saw as normal growing up, talk through what YOUR expectations are with your family. Are there things you absolutely loved about the way your family did things? Are there things that you absolutely disagree with too? This is a great time to talk through some of these things and get on the same page with your partner. Especially if you have expectations that some things should go a certain way! Because unmet expectations can lead to frustration.

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If your husband comes from a more egalitarian family and you are from a more traditional family, you need to discuss expectations. “I do not feel you need to get up with the baby in the night if I am breastfeeding because I would rather have you rested to let me sleep the next day.” Versus “I absolutely want you up in the night with me the first few weeks we come home because feeling your support is important to me even if the baby just needs me.”

Step 3: Discuss How You Would Handle Challenging Circumstances

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As new parents, you may not know all of the parts of parenting a baby, but you have some idea as to what to expect. Here are some common challenges to expect that are important to talk through:

  • Female Recovery Post Delivery
  • Tackling Breastfeeding
  • Finding Time to Sleep
  • A Colicky Baby
  • Keeping Up with Laundry
  • Getting Normal Things in the House Done
  • Deciding Where the Baby Sleeps
  • Finding Time for Love and Intimacy Post Baby
  • Managing In-laws

Is there anything you think will be especially hard on this list? If your husband says to you, “I do not want your mother’s input on how to take care of our baby. I want you and I to figure it out.” This is important to know beforehand. Especially if your mother is planning to come and stay with you for two weeks!

Or if your husband says, “I think it is better for the baby to sleep in her crib from day one” and you were planning to have her in a rock-n-play in your room, this is a good thing to discuss. You might want to negotiate and say, “If that is important to you, then I need you to get up and bring her to me every time she cries because I don’t want to have to continually leave the room.”

Communicating when things are not in the heat of the moment allows for better compromise and hopefully less conflict once baby comes! It is impossible to come up with an exact plan until you’re in the thick of it, but any amount of mental preparation helps. So take some time in the next few weeks to go over some of these things. You won’t regret it!

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Quinn is a wife, boy mom (x’s 4), blogger at Sanctification and Spitup, host of the Renew You Podcast and licensed marriage and family therapist. She loves to encourage others in relationships through her speaking, writing or podcast episodes.

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🏈 Super Bowl Sunday Snacks the Whole Family Wil 🏈 Super Bowl Sunday Snacks the Whole Family Will Love 😋⁠
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Super Bowl Sunday in America is one of the most fun and well-loved sporting events of the season. 🏈 I remember getting together with friends and family as a child and watching all the men yell at the TV while the women sipped cocktails in the kitchen. 📺🍹 And everyone indulged in all the amazing Super Bowl Sunday snacks. 🍔 The whole event, for me, was just as much fun as Thanksgiving or Christmas dinner with the family. I looked forward to it every year! 🤗⁠
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Now that I have a family of my own I want to make Super Bowl Sunday just as fun for them. 🤩 But, I really don't want to spend all day in the kitchen, especially after the madness of all that holiday cooking. 😓 So, I've come up with some easy, but delicious, Super Bowl Sunday snacks the whole family with love! ❤️ You can do just one or two of these, or the whole lot of them if you're feeling ambitious! Enjoy! 😋 {Click 🔗 in bio to see the recipes!}⁠
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As both a mom of toddlers and a nationally certifi As both a mom of toddlers and a nationally certified yoga instructor, I’ve experienced firsthand how fun and beneficial yoga can be – not just for parents but for their children, too! Yoga can be so instructive in terms of understanding what our body needs to be healthy. For a child to see and experience the mindfulness that yoga enables in tandem with a parent truly sets a foundation for that child’s awareness of what it means to be healthy—both physically and mentally.⁠
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Today we're sharing six yoga poses that can be done universally with any age—including toddlers. We’ve also included a conversation prompt if you’d like to dialogue with your child throughout the exercise. (As a reminder, don’t be discouraged if your child is acting silly or can’t master a yoga pose. The point is to have fun and relax, above all else!)⁠
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There are many different comfort techniques that you can use during labor and delivery that will help keep you more calm and comfortable. One option that many women aren't aware of or overlook is hypnosis. It can sound a little weird and "voodoo-like" so oftentimes women will write it off. But I've witnessed many women use this tool in labor and it's actually not as strange as it sounds and is really impressive. 🤔⁠
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I've had several clients take HypnoBirthing classes, but I wanted to learn more. What is HypnoBirthing really? How does it work? Who is this method for? What are the benefits? For today's podcast episode I had the privilege of chatting with Cliodhna Griffin, the founder of @bornfreebirthing and Houston Placenta Services. Cliodhna is a certified and experienced HypnoBirthing Educator, Master Trainer and Faculty Member of the HypnoBirthing Institute. Cliodhna answered all of my questions and more. She's pretty incredible and her passion is obvious. {To listen to today's podcast episode, click the 🔗 in our bio!}⁠
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Anger. Rage. Frustration. Guilt. Shame. Remorse. A Anger. Rage. Frustration. Guilt. Shame. Remorse. Apologies. Self-digust. All make mothering complicated and layered with conflicting emotions.⁠
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Today is Martin Luther King Jr. Day. ❤️ It is Today is Martin Luther King Jr. Day. ❤️ It is the day Americans honor Dr. King's legacy and his key role in helping our nation get closer to its goal of equality for all. There are several important lessons from MLK that we can all learn from and teach our children. If you want to spread his legacy and honor this day, share these 12 lessons with your kids and let's implement them into our own lives. 💜 {Click 🔗 in bio to read more!}⁠
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We get that diapers and childcare aren't cheap and We get that diapers and childcare aren't cheap and bills really add up, but it doesn't cost much to schedule time as a family together. Get out of the house together and make memories. Whether you drive to the lake or your nearest beach or a cool park close by, spend time together. Invest in your memories. Invest in your relationships. Those will be the things that stay with you forever and make you the happiest and "richest" in the long run. ❤️⁠
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You’ve spent the past 9 months preparing for the You’ve spent the past 9 months preparing for the arrival of your beautiful baby. 🤰 Labor and delivery has come and gone. Now its time for your 6-week postpartum check up. 🏥  So much of life after delivery is focused on your new bundle of joy that you can sometimes forget to care for yourself. This is exactly why I believe the postpartum appointment is so important to you as a new momma – because it’s all about you! 💗⁠
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Sure, your provider loves to fawn over your sweet baby, but this appointment is about mom. How are YOU doing? Self-care is so important to your health and recovery after having a baby, so let this appointment focus on your well-being. 😊⁠
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Here are 10 helpful questions to ask when you see your provider at your 6-week postpartum check up. 📝 Your provider will likely cover most or all of these topics on her or his own, but use this as a guide to remind you to ask anything she or he doesn’t cover! {Click 🔗 in bio to read more!}⁠
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YES 👏 IT 👏 DOES👏⁠ Go and find your troo YES 👏 IT 👏 DOES👏⁠
Go and find your troop, your tribe, squad, village. Whatever you want to call it. Find people to surround yourself with who will support YOU, love YOU, encourage YOU as a woman and as a parent. Parenthood is tough. Especially when you feel alone. So find your village and love them hard. And from one mother to another, load up on wipes. Because motherhood can get quite messy too!⁠ 😉⁠
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An amazing story from a determined mom to breastfe An amazing story from a determined mom to breastfeed her #triplets. 💗 With hard work, determination, help and support, anything is possible.
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“I breastfed my first child so I knew I wanted to #breastfeed again. People were skeptical about me #breastfeeding triplets, and this drove my determination! 💪 My boys were born at 29+3 and therefore it was so important for them to have #breastmilk! 🤱
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After having an emergency C-section, I knew there was no time to rest, so I started hand expressing within the first hour. I set an alarm to ensure that I expressed every 2 hours during the day and every 3 hours overnight. ⏰
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Being separated from my boys was hard so having pictures/video links helped whilst I expressed. Seeing my teeny, vulnerable babies in their little incubators drove my determination to provide them with my milk! I also rotated muslin squares between us so that I could smell them and vice versa. This also helped me whilst I expressed during the night away from my boys. Their smell on the swaddles kept me focused! 💙
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Twice during our #NICU journey my boys were split between hospitals over an hour apart! This was the hardest time and meant I was separated from 2 of my boys for a couple of days. During this time I kept up with expressing and ensured that all three of them had enough milk to take with them until we were all reunited.
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Looking back I feel it is my sheer determination that has really enabled me to successfully breastfeed my triplet boys! Not once have they needed donor or formula milk. It required a massive commitment both physically and emotionally but I am so proud of my achievement! My boys are now 11 months and are still breastfeeding." ❤️
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*This story is not to bring any mothers down that choose to formula feed. (I, personally, had to give my son formula at 7 months old!) We share this mother's story to inspire mothers and celebrate our victories! ✨
If you are having breastfeeding struggles and want to succeed, contact a good local IBCLC and receive support. Find new mom friends who are also breastfeeding who can encourage you. And if you choose to formula feed, we honor you too. 💕 #mommychick
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🧠 4 Ways to Promote Your Child's Mental Health 🧠 4 Ways to Promote Your Child's Mental Health 🧠⁠
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Your child’s mental health is fairly complicated. It's also critical to their overall health and wellness. We often think of mental health as it pertains to adults, but just like growth and physical development, research shows that mental health is something that should be considered starting at birth. ❤️⁠
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When children are very young, their brains are extremely sensitive to environmental stress. Toxic stress, defined as high levels of prolonged stress, can have life-long effects on children. Limiting stress for young children is critical for their early mental health. One of the most fundamental ways we can help eliminate toxic stress is by building a strong relationship foundation from the very beginning of their lives. Your relationship with your baby is an integral part of their sense of self-esteem, independence, and confidence; three key factors in mental health.⁠
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Building that relationship with your child can be broken down into four key concepts . . . {Click 🔗 in bio to find out what they are!}⁠
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Just in case you call her a boy, here's a MASSIVE Just in case you call her a boy, here's a MASSIVE bow that shows she's a girl . . . yet still somehow get's called a boy. 🤷⁠
📷: unknown⁠
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💤 Good Bedtime Routines for Babies of Every Age 💤 Good Bedtime Routines for Babies of Every Age 💤⁠
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If you’ve ever typed into Google, “Why won’t my baby sleep?” you’re not alone. In fact, you’re among thousands of other parents/caregivers who are likely as tired as you are. Chances are, if you have gone down the Google rabbit hole at 2:00 a.m. (or just asked your pediatrician for sleep advice), then you’ve most likely been introduced to the concept of a bedtime routine.⁠
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A bedtime routine can be an incredibly helpful tool in establishing healthy sleep habits and good sleep hygiene. Infants and young children thrive on routine; in fact, they are comforted by predictability (spoiler alert: most adults are this way, too!). Plus, a young mind is exposed to so much new information every day that it’s reassuring for a child to know that they can depend on certain events to have a predictable structure.⁠
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Bedtime routines are also a cue to their brains and bodies that sleep is coming. With a predictable bedtime routine, your little one will start to recognize the order of the routine and begin to anticipate what comes next. With enough repetition, this process happens automatically in a very Pavlovian way. A calm and successive routine will also make the onset of sleep come more easily. Can you imagine if you walked out of your workout and immediately someone told you that you had to lay down and fall asleep? This would be nearly impossible, and the same is true for our little ones. By allowing them some time to unwind, you are making the falling asleep process that much easier. Here are some tips on what to do for your little one's bedtime. ❤️⁠ {Click 🔗 in bio to read more!}⁠
📷: @hannahxruth⁠
Article by: @ohbabyconsulting⁠
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THIS. The struggle is real.⁠ ⁠🥴 📷: @brit THIS. The struggle is real.⁠ ⁠🥴
📷: @britt.kav⁠
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It's the beeeeeessssttttt . . . 😬😑 (quote vi It's the beeeeeessssttttt . . . 😬😑
(quote via @smalltowntallgirl)⁠
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🤗 7 Tips for Raising Secure and Happy Kids 🤗 🤗 7 Tips for Raising Secure and Happy Kids 🤗⁠
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Parenting is hard. And ever so important. But sometimes it feels like we need to have a special degree in “Managing Toddler Mood Swings” to navigate some of the unexpected scenarios that come with raising secure and happy children.⁠
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Like how do we handle a child that likes to scream instead of talk?⁠
“Please, child, just lower your voice while we’re in Target.”⁠
Or what are we supposed to do when a child prefers to strip down every time we get them dressed or only eat foods that are the color blue?! (In case you’re wondering, there aren’t many blue foods.)⁠
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It can feel tricky and tiring to try and do it all right and then sometimes still feel like you’re at a loss. But the truth is, there’s never any way to make everything perfect. But there are things we can do that set our children up to feel secure and happy. And here are seven of my favorite tips. {Click 🔗 in bio to read more!}⁠
📷: @lauren.stewart_dc⁠
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Any oldie but goodie by @spiritysol⁠. ❤️⁠ Any oldie but goodie by @spiritysol⁠. ❤️⁠
Cesarean mamas--this one's for you. I hope you know that you are worthy. That you are such a warrior. That you are brave and powerful and strong as f✨ck. I hope you know that birthing your baby on an operating table makes you no less of a mother. No less of a goddess. Your birth story is holy and that beautiful scar on your belly is sacred as sh✨t. You are worthy of praise and celebration, honor and  admiration.⁠
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I hope that you know it was worth it. Knowing this does NOT mean you can't mourn your dream. It does NOT mean "you and your baby are safe--that's all that matters!" It does NOT mean you can't wish things had gone differently. But I hope that underneath it all, you can find beauty in what was. What is. Your baby. Your birth. Your strength. Your healing. Your story.⁠
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Your journey wasn't easy. Perhaps it unfolded much differently than you had hoped--perhaps it shook you to your core and left you feeling the immense weight of a "what if" and why".⁠
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Perhaps you're still wading through the heavy emotions of disappointment, anger, and grief. Perhaps you always will. But whatever feelings you hold in your heart and in your womb, I hope that you can look at your scar and say "Hell yes, it was worth it. And hell ya, I am worthy."⁠
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*This post was written for mamas who might be struggling with an unexpected or undesired cesarean birth. I recognize that there are mamas that choose to have planned/elective cesarean births who might not resonate with the message in this post. I honor them as well--as I honor all mothers, all women, and all beings.⁠
Words & 📷: @spiritysol⁠
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Because I gave him the wrong colored cup . . . whi Because I gave him the wrong colored cup . . . which is the color he originally asked for.⁠
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(quote via @HenpeckedHal via Twitter)⁠
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