As women, we are wonderful at throwing baby showers or sprinkles for moms to celebrate their growing bellies and the life they are carrying inside of them. But often times we forget that many dads may want to have a place in the baby showers, too. Unfortunately, they may feel it’s culturally acceptable (or manly) to get hyped up about their baby.
So today, I wanted to share my favorite ideas for incorporating dads into baby showers. So that they can be a part of the baby’s life from the start of ALL the fun! After all, if we want them to be excited about being a father, we have to make them feel a part of the experience from the beginning. And they likely are not going to ask to be a part of it themselves. Plus, the more involved dads are, the happier their partners are. So it’s mutually beneficial for us all.
I think the best way of incorporating dad into baby showers that isn’t just for diapers is to have a dual gender shower. Meaning, have the normal shower for the girl but invite the husband and his friends too. And then, of course, have fun finding ways to involve the men. Here’s 6 of my favorite ideas:
Come Up with a Fun Theme for Both Men and Women
Join us for the “Women Friend and Men Kin Shower.” Have the invitation explain that the nature of the shower is to include both sexes. “We want our baby to know that they are surrounded with love and care from not only women in our lives but the men. We want you to be not only friends but also family. So please come and join us. Both of you…”
Another idea would be “Boys and Toys and Gals and Towels” shower. With this theme, the men can bring their favorite baby toy and the girls can bring things that are soft like blankets, burp cloths or clothing. “Men, take time to find a toy you think every baby needs from blocks to baseballs, we want to see what you think. And women, bring something soft and cozy for the baby to use after play time.”
Or lastly, incorporate food and gifts into the shower theme with a play on words for a “Chilly Cookoff.” The invitation could read, “Join us for a “Chilly” Cookoff Shower in honor of baby Preston and his chilly due date of December 2015. Let’s get him ready for the winter with clothes and blankets while we keep his mommy and daddy warm with your favorite chili recipe.”
Serve Non-Traditional Food
Men may not enjoy quiche and baby shaped cookies quite as much as we do. So for the menu, pick a food theme that seems a little more geared toward men than women. I recently attended a baby sprinkle where we had a crawfish boil. It gave the men a chance to bond and get to know one another while the women chatted. For men that feel a little reluctant about coming to a baby shower, this can take off the edge. 😉 Especially if you give the men a role in preparing the food. “Hey, would you mind being the one to watch over the boiling?”
Create Gift Fun
Don’t assume that all men are capable of is buying diapers. If they’ve had babies, they likely have their go-to supplies they think are best. It is fun to ask men to bring their favorite go-to baby item. And have their wife do the same! Then let the couples in attendance surprise each other with what they brought. As their friends open the gifts, they can explain to the guests why this is their favorite gift. If they do not have children, this can be even more fun to see what they pick.
Make the Men Get Mushy
As one of the shower activities, have both the men and women write the best lesson they ever learned from their parent. The therapist in me loves this! Men are normally less likely to talk about their feelings without being prompted, but they can often surprise us with their insight and emotion when asked. After the advice is written down, you can have the guest of honor read the advice and guess who gave it. Some will be funny, but some will be serious. It not only lets the men feel included but will likely bond the women to the men when hearing things they have likely never shared.
Make the Men Get Creative With a Lullaby
For a fun and creative game, pick three songs that are hits on the radio. Then have the women and the men divide into groups. And pick their favorite song. Next, tell them that their job is to come up with a lullaby to the rhythm and tune of that song. What a fun way to challenge the men to get in touch with their inner comfort and nurturing side. If they’re competitive, you might be surprised what they come up with if they know they are competing against the ladies.
Change up the Diaper Shower Theme
And if your husband only feels comfortable with the traditional diaper shower and doesn’t want to hang with the ladies, then give the diaper shower a twist by transforming it into something even more manly. And call it a MUDSLIDE!
Since all things baby related seem to be related to weather, make the name of the diaper shower a diaper mudslide and use a play on words saying the diapers are getting ready for the ‘MUDSLIDE’ in the baby’s diaper. Because even grown men think talking about poop is funny. So why not incorporate it into one of the biggest realities of newborns? Changing poopy diapers! Ask the men to wear brown, bring dark beer and then serve them chocolate ice cream mudslides.
Well that about wraps up my favorite ideas! Have fun getting creative with including your favorite men. Let us know how it goes.