5 Ways to Thrive as an Extroverted Stay-at-Home Mom

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5 Ways to Thrive as an Extroverted Stay-at-Home Mom

Hi, my name is Quinn and I’m an extroverted stay-at-home mom with my four children. Meaning that as an extrovert, I am recharged by being with people and drained of energy when I am by myself for too long.

Over the years, I’ve seen many articles in the cyber world that focus on the struggles of being an introverted mom. And while I find those articles fascinating, I also find them boggling, too. Because as an extrovert—I find being a stay-at-home mom can at times be challenging in finding practical ways to get my social tank filled while still having time to raise my family.

At first glance, this may sound confusing because an introvert might likely say, “But you are with people all of the time. So how can you not feel recharged?” And while I DO love being surrounded by my littles and while that DOES keep my people tank rather full most of the time, there are other times when toddler chatter doesn’t cut it for a stimulating (or mindless) adult conversation that isn’t centered around correcting potty talk or listening to a toddler explain to me why shoelaces have to be tied a certain way on Tuesdays but not on Wednesdays.

So I’ve had to find practical ways to refill my social tank to gain emotional energy while still managing to keep up with a busy family. And here are my five favorite tips:

1. Look for Small Tank Refills

As a mom, there are many days where meeting up to chat with friends over lunch just isn’t in the cards. Or joining up with a workout group to go on a ten-mile run just doesn’t seem doable while pushing 55 pounds of weight in a double stroller. But I have learned there are other ways to fill up my tank that are a little more practical. You can text a friend and have them over for a cup of coffee while the kids play and squeeze in some meaningful conversation. Or you can ask your best friend if she would want to meet up for a walk while you both push strollers and chat. For an extrovert, these may not be the typical things that we consider social time, but they work well when you’re needing a little recharge for the day. And they’re practical with kids!

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2. Choose Kid Activities that Give You Time to Connect with Other Parents

I’ve had littles at home now for nine years and during that time I’ve learned there are some activities that are better about allowing parents to connect and chat at the sidelines than others. A private swim lesson where you sit and watch your child swim may not be as rewarding as a gymnastics class where all the parents sit at the sidelines and chat. (Although for an introvert, it may be the very best option!) If you know that you are feeling a little isolated, take time to find an activity that not only gets your child out of the house for some fun, but one that also gets you out too!

3. Join an Organized Group

Whether a MOPS group, a mommy meet up group, or a bible study at your church with childcare, all of these activities are great for extroverted mommies looking for some quality connection. The reason these work well is because your children can be with you (sometimes even with childcare) all while you are connecting with other parents and getting your social tank filled. This also provides great opportunities for moms to find leadership roles if they are really looking to get themselves connected with others outside the home.

4. Be Proactive in Scheduling a Night Away

Often extroverts don’t take time to plan a night out until they’re already feeling isolated and all the sitters are booked. But as an extrovert, a fun date night with your hubby or fun night with friends can fill your tank for the weeks to come. So if you feel you’re in need of a recharge, take the time to schedule a fun date or night away in the weeks to come. That way you have something to look forward to AND you aren’t letting yourself get to a place where you feel totally depleted. Because energized moms have more to offer their energetic children.

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5. Remember This is A Season

And last but not least, remember that having littles at home is just a fleeting season. So if you do find yourself feeling like you have more time in your home than is natural to you and find yourself struggling with FOMO (fear of missing out), remember there will be MANY years ahead when it’s easier to get out and connect with others at a movie or ball game or barbeque with friends. And by that point, your children will no longer care if you are out and away. So for today, try to savor the unique phase of life you’re in and appreciate all of the chatter your littles offer to you even if it’s about playdough or poop.

Because you’re their favorite person to be with and you want them to know you feel the same too!

Cheers to Finding a Balance as Extroverts!

About the Author /

Quinn is a wife, boy mom (x’s 4), blogger at Sanctification and Spitup, host of the Renew You Podcast and licensed marriage and family therapist. She loves to encourage others in relationships through her speaking, writing or podcast episodes.

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