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5 Ways to Thrive as an Extroverted Stay-at-Home Mom

As an extroverted stay-at-home mom you're challenged with finding ways to stay energized without adult interaction--here are 5 tips to help!

Published December 8, 2017

by Quinn Kelly

Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

Over the years, I’ve seen many articles in the cyber world that focus on the struggles of being an introverted mom. And while I find those articles fascinating, I also find them boggling. As an extrovert, I recharge by being with people and drained of energy when by myself for too long. Being a stay-at-home mom can sometimes be challenging to find practical ways to fill my social tank while still having time to raise my family.

But you are with people all of the time. So how can you not feel recharged?” I’ve heard that question before. While I DO love being surrounded by my littles, there are times when toddler chatter doesn’t cut it. I need an adult conversation that isn’t centered around correcting potty talk. Or listening to a toddler explain why shoelaces must be tied a certain way.

So, I’ve had to find practical ways to refill my social tank. Methods that will help me gain emotional energy while still managing to keep up with a busy family. Here are my five favorite tips:

1. Look for Small Tank Refills

There are many days when meeting up to chat with friends over lunch isn’t in the cards as a mom. Or going on a 10-mile group run doesn’t seem doable. Especially while pushing 55 pounds of weight in a double stroller. However, I have learned other practical ways to fill up my tank. You can text a friend and have them over for coffee. The kids can play and you can squeeze in some meaningful conversation. Or you can ask your best friend if she would want to meet up for a walk. You both push strollers, exercise, and chat. For an extrovert, these may not be the typical things we consider social time. However, they work well when you need a little daily recharge. And they’re practical with kids!

2. Choose Kid Activities that Give You Time to Connect with Other Parents

I’ve had littles at home now for nine years. During that time, I’ve learned that some activities allow parents to connect and chat on the sidelines better than others. A private swim lesson where you sit and watch your child swim may not be as rewarding as a gymnastics class where all the parents sit at the sidelines and chat. (Although it may be the best option for an introvert!) If you are feeling a little isolated, take time to find an activity that gets your child out of the house for some fun and gets you out, too!

3. Join an Organized Group

Whether a MOPS group, a mommy meet-up group, or a bible study at your church with childcare, all these activities are great for extroverted mommies looking for some quality connection. These work well because your children can be with you (sometimes even with childcare) while you are connecting with other parents and filling your social tank. This also provides excellent opportunities for moms to find leadership roles if they want to connect with others outside the home.

4. Be Proactive in Scheduling a Night Away

Extroverts often don’t plan a night out until they’re already feeling isolated and all the babysitters are booked. But as an extrovert, a fun date night with your hubby or a fun night with friends can fill your tank for weeks to come. So, if you feel you need a recharge, take the time to schedule a fun date or night away. That way, you have something to look forward to. And you aren’t letting yourself get to a place where you feel totally depleted because energized moms have more to offer their energetic children.

5. Remember This is A Season

And last but not least, remember that having littles at home is just a fleeting season. So, if you find yourself struggling with FOMO (fear of missing out), remember there will be MANY years ahead when it’s easier to get out and connect with others. And by then, your children will no longer care if you are out and away. So, for today, try to savor the unique phase of life and appreciate all the chatter your littles offer you. You’re their favorite person to be with. And you want them to know you feel the same too!

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Quinn is a mother of four, licensed marriage and family therapist, host of the “Renew You” Podcast, and author of “Raising Boys: A Christian Parenting Book.” Throughout the last decade,… Read more

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