Second Baby Guilt: How I Am Working Through It

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Second Baby Guilt: How I Am Working Through It

Note from the author: I’m getting a little bit deep and raw about something that’s personal to me: second baby guilt. There may even be a tad TMI here and there but hey, we’re all adults. My hope is that this article helps any moms out there that are struggling with the same issue to realize that it’s completely normal and you’re not alone because, after all, that’s what this platform is all about…inspiring, connecting, and uplifting each other. Thanks!

I’ve struggled with whether or not to write on this topic for a variety of reasons. Reasons like feeling guilty for feeling guilty. Or feeling like I’m throwing my “baby-making” success in the face of others who may be struggling. Fearing backlash from readers, friends, or family. And that big one of actually admitting these feelings to myself. That’s a hard one.

But then there are the reasons FOR writing on this topic: like having a therapeutic outlet for myself, seeking advice from moms who have walked the same road, and normalizing these feelings for those walking the same journey.

So here it goes. My big fat second baby guilt…and how I’m getting over it, slowly.

Second Baby Guilt

My husband and I knew we wanted our kiddos about 2 1/2 – 3 years apart. So it didn’t come as any surprise to me when we started having the conversation in the spring about when we would actually pull the goalie, so to speak. I got off birth control in March because my hormones were at a terrible imbalance causing everything from dramatic weight and muscle-mass loss (to the point where I had co-workers asking if I was sick). I also had headaches, dizziness, loss of libido and decreased energy.

We knew we needed to be careful after I stopped the birth control. It had only taken one shot at getting pregnant with our first and we had three incredibly special weddings coming up that I did NOT want to be sick during. (Okay, I also wanted to guzzle some champagne with my besties. Shame on me.)

To avoid an “oops baby” I began tracking my ovulation immediately with the app Ovuline. We made it to July, through the weddings and other random events I hadn’t wanted to miss out on, and then husband was ready to start trying. I’m not saying that I wasn’t ready, I was. I was just also beginning to feel an overwhelming sense of sadness. My son, Fischer, had been my everything for the past two years, I’d never felt so totally complete. But this is what we had planned, right? If I got pregnant in July the kids would be as close to our 2.5 year age difference as possible.

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My husband didn’t understand why I was hesitant. I told him I would like to wait until August. I thought I would be ready by then. Not to mention that I knew I was going to be out of town during the time I was supposed to ovulate so really I thought I had the perfect sabotage.

‘THOUGHT’ being the keyword, folks. We did the deed on July 3rd, the day before I left, and one week later I KNEW. Having been through a series of interesting ailments throughout my life and struggling with an autoimmune disorder that frequently strikes with a vengeance, I am particularly aware of the goings-on inside my body. So I just knew. Two weeks later, I saw the first of multiple pregnancy tests (only 4 this time! last time it was 9!). My husband was shocked, but should he have been? Probably not.

I cried. And cried. And cried some more. Honestly, they weren’t tears of joy. In fact, they weren’t tears of joy for some time and that PAINS me to write. I would never want this new baby to think that they weren’t wanted. Of course I should have been ECSTATIC about this new little life, the growing of our little tribe, the partner-in-crime for Fischer. But I couldn’t get over the feeling of loss that seems to go hand-in-hand with this addition. Funny, right? Adding and losing at the same time…it’s not supposed to work that way.

baby fischer

So what do I think I’m losing, exactly?

I guess my 100% commitment to Fischer, the maternal bond with my ONLY child. He’s been my whole world and my best little friend for the past two years. I couldn’t imagine loving someone else the way I love him and I fear there just isn’t enough to go around. He’s losing the spotlight and at 2 years old is so not ready to share my love. I fear that my child will resent me and I can’t even handle the thought of that.

For a couple weeks I was losing my mind with grief. For his birthday every year I vowed to write a letter in his little journal that I had made especially for that reason. Last year the pages were stained with tears at the realization my baby was turning one. This year, the hot tears of guilt left streaky pen marks. Oy. I hope one day we look back and laugh.

I tried talking to my husband about this but he didn’t get it. They never seem to understand these things. Luckily, two of my very best friends had just recently become second time moms and so I reached out to them. In fact, I had reached out to them months ago to voice my fears and concerns and I was relieved to hear that they had gone through the same sorts of emotions.

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But I was happy to hear how the additions to each of their families were NOT a loss but a huge, huge gain. They told me there was more than enough space in their hearts to welcome this second little love. And that they adored seeing the first sibling accept the second. They told me their families became even MORE “complete” when they laid eyes and hands on their new little person.

baby Fischer

And yet they were also brutally honest about the changes and I thank them for that. (And for the continued harping I’ve been doing about this transition.) Yes, you’ll lose time with your first baby and it’s hard for them to understand. Yes, you’ll feel guilty about it. But in those moments, guess who gets to step up? Daddy. My friends told me that to see the bond grow between their partner and child was something altogether more special. Yes, it’s hard to manage schedules with two babies and it’ll drive you a little batty. In this way your first baby suffers a little bit too because sometimes you’ll be too exhausted to go to the park. Yes, you’ll forget to take one million photos of the poor second child. Yes, you’ll be dead tired with the round-the-clock feedings for the new baby and trying to keep up with the high energy toddler. This went on and on.

But, and they’ve both been emphatic with this BUT, your heart will swell all over again and you won’t be able to imagine life without BOTH little loves.

baby fischer

So, where does that leave me?

It took us a few weeks to begin telling people we were expecting again. Our friends and family were obviously so excited for us. I wanted to be excited too and didn’t want to fake it. So, until I had begun to reconcile my feelings we kept the news close. At 6 weeks and 4 days we had our first prenatal appointment and (thankfully) heard the heart beat. I was able to capture this on video and even got Fischer to say “Baby” at the exact right moment. I think it was after this that my heart started to make a turn and I actively began to imagine life as a family of four instead of three.

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At our next appointment I was by myself and got to see an amazing ultrasound of a very, VERY active little Brussels Sprout (the current size). I cried like a baby. This time they were tears of JOY. I sent the video to husband first, then to quite a few other people and they all shared in the happiness and welcomed anticipation I felt and continue to feel.

fischer

Do I still feel guilty?

Sure, sometimes. Okay, a lot of times. Hey! It’s still pretty new!

When Fischer and I are cuddled in his chair reading books and I know it won’t be long before this belly is too big to snuggle so tight, I get sad. And then I remember that one day he’ll fit again. When he begs to be held and I know that my hands will be full with someone else, I get sad. And then I think that at times there will be space for me to hold BOTH my babies. When he cries out for me and I know that I can’t go running because someone else will have my attention, I get sad. And then I know that daddy will be there to run instead and that their bond will grow strong. (Okay, that one tugs at my heart in a way that makes me a little sad.)

When Fischer doesn’t understand that he has to share the spotlight, I get sad. And then I realize (and hope) that there will be double the FUN in the spotlight for Fischer and his best pal. I also know that as Fischer grows up he’s also growing away and will need me less and less in the way he needs me now. That realization is both a comfort (for the current situation) and a complete nightmare as I never want my baby to grow up!

And then I wonder how can I feel THAT guilty when I know how much spoiling will be done between now and March? Let’s hope Fischer doesn’t end up TOO rotten at the end of this because I see a lot of trips to the zoo/museums/toy store/ice cream shop/pet store/etc. in his future!

family of (now) four

Our first “selfie” as a family of four!

So, THANK YOU, friends, for letting me vent and share this. Again, it was a struggle for a lot of reasons. As mom’s we are supposed to be “super human,” right? And super humans don’t harbor these types of feelings. But, well, we AREN’T super human and we DO have a huge range of emotions, each one as valid as the next. If you’re in the same boat as me let yourself go through it. The grief, the excitement, the anxiety. All of it, because it’s 100% normal.

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Lanie is a wife, mother to her two boys, and has a huge passion for maternal health, nutrition, and fitness.

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Any oldie but goodie by @spiritysol⁠. ❤️⁠ Any oldie but goodie by @spiritysol⁠. ❤️⁠
Cesarean mamas--this one's for you. I hope you know that you are worthy. That you are such a warrior. That you are brave and powerful and strong as f✨ck. I hope you know that birthing your baby on an operating table makes you no less of a mother. No less of a goddess. Your birth story is holy and that beautiful scar on your belly is sacred as sh✨t. You are worthy of praise and celebration, honor and  admiration.⁠
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I hope that you know it was worth it. Knowing this does NOT mean you can't mourn your dream. It does NOT mean "you and your baby are safe--that's all that matters!" It does NOT mean you can't wish things had gone differently. But I hope that underneath it all, you can find beauty in what was. What is. Your baby. Your birth. Your strength. Your healing. Your story.⁠
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Your journey wasn't easy. Perhaps it unfolded much differently than you had hoped--perhaps it shook you to your core and left you feeling the immense weight of a "what if" and why".⁠
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Perhaps you're still wading through the heavy emotions of disappointment, anger, and grief. Perhaps you always will. But whatever feelings you hold in your heart and in your womb, I hope that you can look at your scar and say "Hell yes, it was worth it. And hell ya, I am worthy."⁠
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*This post was written for mamas who might be struggling with an unexpected or undesired cesarean birth. I recognize that there are mamas that choose to have planned/elective cesarean births who might not resonate with the message in this post. I honor them as well--as I honor all mothers, all women, and all beings.⁠
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Hope they're ready for us!⁠ 👯‍♀️⁠
📷: @myquestionablelife⁠
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" . . . Tears contain stress hormones. Why would w " . . . Tears contain stress hormones. Why would we have tears if they didn't serve a purpose? Little hurts can feel big when you are little. There is no such things as no reason to cry. Comforting a crying child is not the same as shutting them down, no matter how sweetly we shut them down . . . up actually." - Pam Leo⁠
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#gentleparenting #motherhoodthroughinstagram #momlife #motherhood #parenting #parentlife #mumlife #mommylife #parenthood #motherhoodunplugged #realmoms #momstatus #thatmomlife #realmomlife #momsofinstagram #mommychick #motherhoodrising #ig_motherhood #uniteinmotherhood⁣ #babychick⁣ #healing #mentalhealth
"Every diaper change is a struggle⁠ Goldfish cru "Every diaper change is a struggle⁠
Goldfish crumbs are literally everywhere.⁠
Nothing stays in the correct place.⁠
Dramatic meltdowns are a part of our daily routine.⁠
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Being a mother to a new toddler is so challenging, and every day I'm not sure what to expect! But, even on the days where I think I'm going nuts, it's so worth getting to watch my daughter grow into her own person. I love seeing her personality expand with each day.⁠
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I won't lie though, I do get a tad bit freaked out sometimes! I mean I've never heard anyone nail the sound of a pterodactyl better than my daughter, when she's having a meltdown. 😂😳"⁠
Repost: @postpartum⁠
Words & 📷: @tori.mccain⁠
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Share your worst/funniest toddler meltdown stories below! I'm sure almost all of us mamas who have a toddler can relate. 🙋⁠
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That's my kind of mom friend. 😂 Tag that mama w That's my kind of mom friend. 😂 Tag that mama who is your happy safe person. ❤️⁠
📷: @lifeandtimesofmom⁠
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8 Ways to Beat the Winter Blues When You're Stuck 8 Ways to Beat the Winter Blues When You're Stuck Inside⁠
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⁠When the snow first starts falling, it’s a great feeling. Your house is cozy inside, school is cancelled—three cheers for a snow day! The kids are excited and you can’t help but feel some excitement, too. However, after a few days of being snowed in, we can all start to get a bit stir crazy, especially with our littles cooped up at home with us. We're sharing eight creative ways to beat those winter blues when you feel like you’re stuck indoors! {Click 🔗 in bio to continue reading!}⁠
📷: @cecileadams⁠
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Where do I sign up for my parenting punchcard? 🙋‍♀️⁠
📷: @momtransparenting⁠
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Whatever you gotta do to get in some self care, ma Whatever you gotta do to get in some self care, mama. 💁‍♀️😂⁠
(quote via @fruitsofmotherhood)⁠
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But in 2020 🤔🤔🤔😂😂😂😂⁠ jk
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Having your baby look like their dad is like being Having your baby look like their dad is like being back in school when you did all the work in a group project and they got the higher grade. 😑⁠ Annoying AF.⁠
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Who do your kids look more like?⁠
📷: @misshoneybakes⁠
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When you announcement to the kids that you're expe When you announcement to the kids that you're expecting another little one and one of your children asks where babies come from. 😳 This is when you starting thinking about when and how you need to start talking about the "birds and the bees" with your kids.⁠
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Talking about sex with anyone can be weird. But having the sex talk with your kid . . . well, that's a whole new level of weird. Some parents try to avoid having "the talk" for as long as humanly possible. While other parents jump right in at the first hint of their child's curiosity. Some parents find the topic relatively easy to discuss, while others are humiliated just thinking about it. 🙈 No matter where you fall on this wide spectrum, one fact remains: someone has to teach your child about sex. And it should probably be you.⁠
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So where do you start? How do you talk about it? And when? Of course, there are no right or wrong answers to these questions. Each parent will broach this subject in they way they feel is best. But if you're like me and need a bit of guidance, here are some tips for teaching your kids about the birds and the bees. {Click 🔗 in bio to read more!}⁠
📷: @livvylandblog⁠
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Every boy mom wants to be like WTF . . . For real, Every boy mom wants to be like WTF . . . For real, are they rotating sprinklers or something?⁠
📷: @snarkybreeders⁠
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#boymom #momofboys #momlife #dadlife #boymomlife #momsofinstagram #pottytraining #motherhoodthroughinstagram #motherhood #momstruggles #momprobs #mumlife #mommylife #parenthood #motherhoodunplugged #realmoms #momstatus #thatmomlife #realmomlife #momhumor #motherhoodrising #ig_motherhood #uniteinmotherhood⁣ #babychick⁣ #mommychick
They are the ultimate weighted blanket. Their litt They are the ultimate weighted blanket. Their little body breathing in and out while lying on your chest is intoxicating. It fills you with so much love and peace. There is truly nothing better. 💕⁠
(quote via @torturedbytoddlers)⁠
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Mindful Eating Tips After Baby - Podcast Episode 2 Mindful Eating Tips After Baby - Podcast Episode 23⁠
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The holidays can be a hectic and stressful time for many (especially moms). And on top of that, this time of year can be loaded with diet talk. 🤦‍♀️ You're not alone if all this talk about weight loss/gain, New Year's diet plans & the justification/shaming of eating XYZ is getting to you! It is to me too. Another time in life when women feel like they should shred some weight . . . after they have a baby. 🤰 While I'm not about women feeling they should change their postpartum bodies--our bodies have done so much for us and our babies and we are beautiful exactly the way we are--I am supportive of women wanting to nurture and take care of their bodies and living more mindfully. ❤️⁠
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I had the chance to chat with @drsusanalbers on our podcast about mindful eating, what it is, and how (and why) new mothers might want to incorporate this practice into their lives. Let's combat the diet culture this time of year and focus more on living and eating mindfully. {Click 🔗 in bio to listen to the episode!}⁠
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So. Many. Pump. Parts. Raise your hand if you agre So. Many. Pump. Parts. Raise your hand if you agree. 🙋‍♀️⁠
📷: @susu.stash⁠
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Motherhood and The Enneagram: Parenting Tips by Ty Motherhood and The Enneagram: Parenting Tips by Type⁠
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Knowing your Enneagram type is a lot of fun and can really bring some insight into how you act and react to other types and situations. The Enneagram differs from other personality typing systems because it encourages growth and identifies healthy and unhealthy behaviors within each of the nine types. Learning about yourself in this way is also a really great way to grow (or perhaps change for the better) as a parent. And we all could use good growth and change, right?⁠
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If you know your Enneagram type, we're sharing the parenting advice you probably need to hear. ❤️ {Click on 🔗 to continue reading!}⁠
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