A Look Inside the Life of a Boy Mom

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A Look Inside the Life of a Boy Mom

So you found out you are having an adorable bundle of blue. And whether you dreamed of having a little man your entire life, or you are still struggling to imagine yourself with a little boy in your arms — ready or not, here he comes! The time has come to prepare for his arrival.

And as a mother of four little boys, I not only have the resume for teaching you about what’s to come with raising a son, but I also absolutely LOVE of being a mother of boys—which is why I’m getting ready to share my best tips with you on life with boys.

But let me start by saying, you are in for a treat. So let Operation BOY MOM prep commence!

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Prepare to Become a Queen

The first thing you need to know about your little boy is that from the moment he looks into your eyes, you are his first love. When he’s grown he may love another woman, but he will love you his whole life. And there is something so sweet and precious about the love that happens between a mother and her son. Sons have an innate desire to protect you, to see you as beautiful and to crave your affirmation. You will always be their queen. And he will always be your prince. Savor the beauty of that special connection. They will go from energetic to a pile of soft cuddly mush in your arms.

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Prepare for Physicality

Now the connection your son craves with you or his peers may at times be rougher than you may like. Boys are physical. Boys are innately rough. Boys often show love by getting physical. So your son may be sitting and cuddling on your lap one moment, then try and tackle you down to the floor the next. This is not in an effort to hurt you, although it might. It is actually just his innate desire to move and be free. And that often seems most fun when he’s moving with someone else. So prepare to, at times, become a wrestling partner. Or to see little boys who are wrestling one another around the house. They need that connection! So instead of continually trying to stop this from happening, find productive outlets for him to release it. (I am a huge fan of the trampoline!)

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Prepare for Different Kinds of Play

If I could give you one tip, just know that little boys don’t always get as much of a kick out of putting something together as they might get from destroying it. While a little girl may spend hours creating a beautiful world of play dough animal creations, a little boy might get the most satisfaction from mixing those creations into one big ball of brown. I’ve learned to let them enjoy playing in the way they enjoy, instead of trying to make it into something I would enjoy. If they would rather tear a cardboard box into pieces and laugh about it all the way instead of turning it into a house, so be it! And of course boys will create and build, too. It can go both ways.

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Prepare to Need Durable House Items

For instance, I avoid wearing white nor do I buy them white clothing. Or if I do, I make sure it’s inexpensive. It’s just not worth the struggle. And I would never keep white linen cloth chairs at my kitchen table because I know I would be setting myself up to be frustrated with spills. (This may not only be a boy mom thing.) I also do not buy tables with glass or keep breakable items. Instead of having a glass vase, I have a metal one. Instead of having a cloth ottoman, I have a leather ottoman that is wipeable! I would rather spend my time enjoying my sons, than being worried that they will destroy something in my house. However, I do have a decorated house that I love—I just have intentional pieces in it!

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Prepare for Male Body Parts on Display

Little boys are comfortable with their bodies and their man parts. So you will see them. And you will see lots of them. It’s your job to teach them about boundaries and safety with putting those parts on display, but you will quickly learn that they are born with an innate love affair with those parts. And that’s not just okay. It’s normal. So don’t panic. Just cover your eyes. 😉

Prepare to Guide Energy

I always kid that one of my main jobs as a boy mom is looking for productive ways to guide their energy. If we sit too long, they end up getting wild. So it’s smart to be proactive about finding ways to exert that energy. If we have been sedentary half the day, I know that we will probably benefit from taking a bike ride, or going outside to play.

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Prepare for Noise

A house with boys can have noise. And lots of it. Whether banging on pots and pans, running around wrestling, or just being purely goofy and loud, I notice my house tends to be louder than other houses. And it’s not really until other people come over and point out the noise level that I even notice. Apparently, tolerance slowly builds. My boys like to play, and with that comes noise! And instead of stopping the play, I just try and regulate noise. If you seek to eliminate it, your children will be frustrated. So I think it’s important to know that a little noise isn’t bad! In fact, it probably means you have fun going on. You just have to find a level that works for all parties.

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And finally…

Prepare to be Sweet Talked Day after Day after Day

I am convinced that little boys are preprogrammed to be our greatest admirers. My boys are so beyond attached to me, it’s humbling. I think of that when people show me pity for having all boys. I often want to say, you wouldn’t feel bad for me if you heard some of the things I hear in a week. “Mommy, you look pretty in that necklace.” “Mommy, you’re beautiful!” “Mommy, will you marry me?” The other night I was putting my oldest son to bed and as I kissed him, he sweetly said, “You’re my shooting star.” I mean I have my own personal poets at my disposal daily. What could be better?

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Becoming a boy mom is many things, but at the top of that list is a privilege! May you enjoy every minute of the loud, wild, and super sweet journey of raising little boys…

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Cheers to Boys!

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10 Comments

  • Ash
    March 15, 2017

    Thank you so much for this article. I just found out I’m having a Boy and I’ve dreamed of a princess all my life. I know all about little girls and how to make believe and play barbies. I don’t know ANYTHING ABOUT boys and I am TERRIFIED!! I’m not disappointed but scared I won’t be a good Boy Mom. This helped a lot!

    • Quinn
      March 16, 2017

      Ash,
      I’m so glad you read it and found it helpful. I know it’s hard to adjust your mindset when you plan for one gender, but I promise, little boys are SO, SO fun. And your heart will be madly in love instantly! As for being a boymom, you will learn as you go. I recommend making friends with other boymoms. You can laugh together. And share your sweet stories! Xoxo!!

    • Marlette
      November 10, 2017

      I’m in the exact same boat! When I found out I was having a BOY… I think my exact words were… “What am I going to do with that?” LOL! And of course, same with you, I was completely ecstatic either way that I’m having my first child, but again there’s that fear that I won’t be a good mom… let alone a good BOY mom!! Thanks for this article and giving us the inside scoop on what to expect! My fears just got a little bit more relieved after reading this.

  • Emma
    June 1, 2017

    Thank you?

  • Patti Kallery
    June 1, 2017

    Thank you for this heart-felt writing. My boy is now 21 years old, and I agree 100% with your first paragraph! I will always be my son’s #1 woman in his life. However, I do want you to know, as I do want other mother-of-sons-to-be, that all boys are not typical “rough and tumble” boys. My precious boy was quiet and contemplative, organized and creative. He needed routine and order in his life, which I found out quickly. Because he wasn’t what was considered and touted as “typical” by other parents and their children, he was bullied and suffered from depression for approximately 10 years. He is now in therapy and thriving! All I am asking is that we as caring mothers shouldn’t put our children into these stereotypes from the very beginning, boys OR girls. Love and cherish what you are blessed with, and let THEM blossom as they want to blossom! Don’t box them into pink or blue.

  • Jacoba Neumeyer
    June 14, 2017

    I found out a few days ago that I am expecting a boy. I am thrilled but so darn scared! There are not a lot of boys in the family and a friend of mine has a little boy. She said that she felt “wrong” cleaning and bathing him, as though she wasn’t supposed to be fiddling down south. That has me a tad worried that I would feel the same and even though I can call his dad to come help, I was wondering if other mothers felt the same way? I have always seen myself as a boy mommy, and we have waited sooooooo long for this little bundle and to have it be a little boy is just mindbogglingly awesome! Any advise or insight would be greatly appreciated though! Thanks for your share on the above, I found most helpful to prepare for our future!!

  • Tamy
    July 9, 2017

    I’m also a mom to 4 boys. I agree with u 100%. But I get oh so tired! Lol! They wear me out! Especially now with my newborn. I feel they r fighting more often and “requesting” attention in ways that makes me crazy! I start doubting if i’m really capable of doing it… I don’t know the ages of yours. Mine are 7 1/2, 6, 3 1/2, and 2 weeks. Any tips? Thank u!

  • Meredith Gallie
    July 18, 2017

    This is great. Being a boy mom is a special title that I am proud to hold. I am a SAHM of 4 boys. I vlog about it on my youtube channel “Surviving As Mom”. Thank you for sharing.

    • Nina Spears
      July 18, 2017

      Thanks, Meredith! You are amazing having four boys at home. We’ll definitely check out your channel!

  • Danielle Oakley
    August 16, 2018

    Great article. Thank you for such great insight and giving us future boy moms wonderful advice!

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