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10 Tips for Pregnancy and Birth Without A Partner

Tips for single moms that will help you feel more confident throughout your pregnancy and birth without a partner.

Updated May 16, 2024

by Nina Spears

The Baby Chick®: Pregnancy, Birth & Postpartum Expert

A few weeks ago, I was contacted by one of our readers. She explained how every article she reads about pregnancy and birth is about an expecting mom and her partner, how to have great sex, how to keep the romance alive, what he should pack in his daddy bag, how he can be most supportive and helpful, etc. But what about the women who DON’T have a loving and encouraging partner? What about the mothers who are separating or going through a divorce while pregnant and don’t have a partner? She is experiencing those very things.

My heart immediately went out to her and every woman currently going through this. She asked if we could write about a few topics that might help. And we immediately said YES! So this article is for you, LB. I hope this article is also helpful to our other readers who are currently going through pregnancy and birth without a partner.

There are so many reasons why a new mom could be going through pregnancy and birth without a partner. Some moms know from the beginning that they will be walking this path alone; others’ circumstances change during their pregnancy, resulting in their partner being absent. (Maybe the father needs to travel frequently for work, maybe he has passed away, he’s deployed, or perhaps you are parting ways.)

If you are going through any of these, I want you to know you don’t have to go through this alone. I’ve supported several women who have gone through pregnancy and birth without a partner, and you need to know that it’s normal to feel worried some days and confident other days — pregnancy has ups and downs. But you can do it!

Tips for Navigating Pregnancy and Birth Without a Partner

Here are some tips I’ve learned after supporting single moms, and I hope these tips will help you feel more confident throughout your pregnancy and birth.

1. Start Building Your Village

The number one thing that I believe every expecting woman should do is to find and surround themselves with supportive and positive people. This especially includes women who don’t have a partner or a supportive partner. You want to start “building your village.” We all need a strong village around us to help and encourage us throughout pregnancy and motherhood. Your “village” could consist of friends, family, neighbors, co-workers, women in support groups, people from your church (or a church – if you don’t attend one), or even strangers online. They need to be people you can depend on to help and support you. Your village will be the people you can turn to for reassurance and sympathy after a tough day and the people you share your hopes and dreams with for the future.

During Your Pregnancy:

  • It’s nice to have friends or family members who can rotate and accompany you to your prenatal checkups and attend classes during pregnancy with you (such as childbirth, newborn care, and breastfeeding classes).
  • You should also have someone on-call to drive you to the hospital when you are in labor. That same person or a different person can drive you home. After having a baby, it’s best to avoid driving for a little bit. You need to heal and recover.

At Home With Baby:

You will also want some supportive people (your village) to help you once you come home from the hospital (Tip: send them this list of ways to help a new mom). Having a newborn is extremely exhausting and demanding. Most of the time, you will be too tired to cook regularly for yourself, do laundry, clean the dishes, etc. Having someone set up a care calendar for you or a meal train is one of the best things they can do! Some women also hire a postpartum doula to help them through those difficult first days and/or nights when things get overwhelming. Taking care of a baby is a 24/7 job.

Learn more about how you can hire a tribe.

2. Make Some Single Mom Friends

Everyone wants to feel accepted and be around people who understand and support them. This is why it’s important to find other women going through the same journey as you. Single moms will be able to relate to your everyday life; they can share the ups and downs of single parenting and give you tips and recommendations on what has worked for them and their babies and what hasn’t.

How do you meet these women and make new friends? The best way is to get out there! I recommend signing up for different classes and meet-up groups. Prenatal workouts are great, as are breastfeeding support groups, childbirth classes, and various online forums, you name it. There are also many social media groups for single parents that you might find helpful. These are all great ways to meet other women and make new friends.

3. Learn How to Ask for Help and Accept Help

If you’re like me, it’s hard to ask for help and accept help. We think we can do it all, but that’s not realistic. You shouldn’t have to do it all alone when you’re pregnant or have a newborn. You don’t need to prove anything to anyone! Learn to ask for help since your loved ones might not offer it. It’s not that they don’t want to help. They don’t know how. Always remember this phrase:

“You cannot pour from an empty cup. You must take care of yourself first to be able to help or give to others — this includes your baby.”

4. Make It Work at Work

pregnant and at work

Pregnancy is hard work. You might sometimes feel nauseous, achy, and completely worn out. Because of this, it can sometimes be a struggle to keep up with your job’s demands. I recommend talking to your employer and being open about what you are going through. If you’re struggling, explain that you are struggling and suggest ways your employer could help you maintain your normal workload. Maybe you can work from home. Perhaps you can come in at an earlier time to get out earlier or come in later and stay late (if mornings are the times you don’t feel well).

Find what works best for you and your work. Don’t be afraid to talk to your employer and ask for flexibility. Most employers want you to continue doing your best work and are more than willing to be flexible to help you feel better and continue to do your job. (Note: Also, being open with your co-workers is a great idea because some of them may be able to help.)

5. Find Financial Help

There are many kinds of aid packages and government grants for single mothers in the United States. Some government grants help you with child care, medical treatments, assistance paying your rent or even buying a house, or even grants that can help you return to high school or college. The U.S. government will also help you with expenses such as insurance, utility allowance, normal maintenance costs, and repairs and replacements. Whether you need the money or not, it’s a good idea to see what is available if you ever need extra financial support. For more information, you can ask your healthcare provider for advice on where to find out about the financial aid available.

6. Have A Birth Partner

In my opinion, every laboring woman should have a birth partner by her side. Whether that’s her partner, mother, sister, or friend, having someone who cares about you in your birthing room at your most vulnerable time, the day you become a mother, is the most beneficial thing you can choose to have with you. They can provide emotional support that no one else can.

Also, I recommend letting the hospital or birth center and their staff know your situation (if you feel comfortable) so they can be extra supportive. You should also tell them if there is anyone that you don’t want in the room with you during your labor and delivery.

7. Hire A Doula

This! If you can have a doula, I highly recommend hiring one. Doulas are trained birth professionals who offer physical, emotional, and informational support to women during pregnancy, labor, and birth. Your doula will be able to guide you throughout your pregnancy and during your labor and support you through pushing and giving birth. They advocate for you and protect your birth experience so that you can have the best outcome and experience possible. She can help you by massaging your lower back, helping you with your breathing, helping you change positions that are best for you and your baby, bringing you ice chips or water, and so much more.

Without a partner, a doula (in my opinion) is a necessity. They are your roadmap to labor and birth. Even with a birth partner there, that person needs help supporting you as well — a birth doula can do that. She’s there to fully support the mother and help her have the best labor and birth experience possible.

If a doula is out of your budget, you can hire a recently trained doula who might be able to assist you for free (so that she can gain more experience) or for a low fee.

8. Be Positive

Going through pregnancy and birth without a partner can be challenging, but it’s important to remind yourself of the positives. Here are a few things to remind yourself:

  • You will get twice the amount of hugs and kisses.
  • You will be your baby’s whole world and #1 person.
  • There is no compromising on baby names. If you want a unique boy name or a rare girl name, great! The name you love and choose is the name they get.
  • You’ll get to choose how to raise your child and not have to compromise on parenting styles.
  • You will teach your baby how to be strong and independent.

9. Celebrate This Time and Your Baby


This is still an incredible time in your life and should be celebrated. If you want to lift your spirits, here are some ideas:

Most of all, try to focus on all the happiness and love your baby will bring. It’s important to remember everything you can give your child and not think of what you believe they are missing. A baby doesn’t need your absent partner; if you welcome them and your loving and supportive “village,” that’s all they need.

10. Know That You Can Do This!

Being pregnant without a partner can cause any woman to feel scared and worried, but every woman needs to understand that every single expecting mom feels afraid at some point during their pregnancy. Your life is about to change forever. You are about to become a mother; nothing will ever be the same again. That’s scary for anyone to digest.

It’s normal to feel worried. However, it is important to stay positive and think of the good. You are about to bring life into the world. This little human is a part of you forever. You will be an amazing mother, and you will be an incredible role model for your child. Just because you don’t have a partner doesn’t mean you are less of a parent or won’t be able to offer them a happy and fulfilling life. You’ve got this, mama. Believe in yourself and know that you can do this with the help of your village.

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