Even before the pandemic hit, date nights were hard to schedule and harder to keep. Getting a babysitter and getting out of the house was difficult. Now with social distancing, it is even harder to get a babysitter. It can also be frustrating to need to take precautions when going out. Many times it may not even feel worth it. The problem is that date nights are still essential and a great way to reconnect with your partner. When you have kids, just getting time to talk to each other, let alone have quality time, is difficult. Kids are always talking over you, and you can barely hear yourself think a lot of the time.
You do not have to go out to reconnect with your spouse. Instead, use the time you already do have in a better way. We are absorbed by our jobs and technology, especially now working from home. Not only can you have a date in your home, but you can also make it count.
12 DIY Date Ideas for After the Kids are in Bed
1. Have a movie night.
After days filled with watching kid programming, an adult movie night will be a welcomed break for both of you. What you watch with the kids is severely restricted, so choose a favorite that you cannot watch in front of your kids. It will help your brain and help you reconnect. You can also make treats and snuggle on the couch.
2. Have a game night.
Break out some of the board games and have a game night with just the two of you. You can have some friendly competition and play games that you usually cannot play because they are too complicated or inappropriate for the kids.
3. Cook or bake something together.
When you have kids, you spend a lot of time preparing food for them. It can be hard to make the food you want to eat. You can take your time and prepare a meal together for you to enjoy. By preparing your meal without the kids, you can revisit an old favorite or make something to reminisce about.
4. Have a cooking or baking competition.
You can take the baking up a notch by having a competition. Instead of cooking together, you can each prepare a dish and see how the other stacks up. This activity can be a fun time for reconnecting and including a healthy dose of competition.
5. Try out a new dish.
It is hard to get kids to try anything new. Save new recipes for date night and enjoy them with your significant other. Find something that you always wanted to try and make it together.
6. Have a DIY spa night.
Being a parent is exhausting and stressful. It can be hard to get the self-care you need or go for a massage. Instead of going out to a spa, bring a spa night to you. This way, you can enjoy it together and count it as a date night to reconnect with your partner.
7. Learn something new together.
There are tons of videos and tutorials on YouTube that teach different things. Find something that both of you are interested in learning and have your own class time. You can have fun together while learning something new.
8. Look at old pictures.
When we get bogged down in day-to-day life, we can find it hard to remember how we fell in love with our partner. Take some time and reminisce through old pictures. You could take a spin through your wedding album and photos from when your kids were little. This type of date will remind you how much you appreciate each other and remember what it was like when you first fell in love.
9. Play video games.
As an alternative to a board game night, you could play video games together instead. This type of activity is another great way to spend an evening. Find a game you have not played for a while and have fun rediscovering it together.
10. Have a dance party.
This type of date can still be done, but keep the music on the quiet side. Mix in some slow dances, and you can have a great time dancing the night away in your own house.
11. Workout together.
Having an accountability partner helps with fitness success. It can be hard to find time to workout by yourself or make it to the gym. Save time by working out with your partner together at home. You can do this after the kids are in bed.
12. Have an indoor or outdoor picnic.
In the winter months, you can have a picnic indoors. If the weather is nice, you can take your picnic outside. Grab a blanket, some snacks, and take some time gazing at the stars.
Reconnecting with your partner is essential in maintaining a healthy relationship. Even if you cannot get a babysitter and go out or prefer to stay home, get creative, and have a date night after the kids are in bed. You can still strengthen your relationship. It doesn’t matter where you have your date. What matters is that you have it at all.