How to Stay Connected with Your Spouse After Having Kids – Podcast Ep 25
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How to Stay Connected with Your Spouse After Having Kids – Podcast Ep 25

A lot can change after you have a baby including our relationships. Here's how you can stay connected with your spouse after having kids.

Published February 4, 2020

by Nina Spears

The Baby Chick®: Pregnancy, Birth & Postpartum Expert
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Today, we’re chatting with Quinn Kelly about staying connected with your spouse after having kids. Quinn is a licensed marriage and family therapist, wife of 14 years, and a mother of four wild but adorable boys, so I knew she would be the perfect person to chat with. She has a blog called Sanctification and Spitup centered on faith and parenting, a podcast called the Renew You Podcast, and a faith Conference series for women called Renew. She has also written many articles for Baby Chick!

This topic about staying connected with your spouse after having children is super important to us. We know that many things change after you have a baby, and our relationships can be one of them. Sometimes it’s for the better, and sometimes for the worse. 🙁 We wanted to know what we could do to strengthen our relationship with our spouse, so we had to talk to Quinn to share her amazing knowledge with us.

During the episode, Quinn mentioned her top 5 books that she recommends:

  1. The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman
  2. Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child by Dr. John Gottman
  3. The Road Back to You by Cron and Stabile
  4. Parenting With Love and Logic by Cline and Fay
  5. Daring Greatly by Brené Brown

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Nina is The Baby Chick® & Editor-in-Chief of Baby Chick®. She received her baby planning certification in early 2011 and began attending births that same year. Since then, Nina has received her birth doula and postpartum doula certifications from DONA International, her childbirth educator certification from ICEA, her Hynobabies Hypno-Doula certification, and her infant massage instructor certification from Loving Touch, among other certifications. Nina has used her knowledge and expertise to teach and support families during their pregnancies, at their births, and throughout their postpartum journeys for over a decade.

Early in her career, Nina acquired her nickname from one of her birth doula clients, who lovingly referred to her as “The Baby Chick.” The “chick” who knows all about babies.…

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