Why I Changed My Mind About Attachment Parenting

Mom and baby boy cuddling on the bed in the morning

Why I Changed My Mind About Attachment Parenting

Your first pregnancy is a very exciting time. You spend a lot of time imagining what your child will look or be like. How you will be as a mom. How your partner will be as a dad. You imagine the new family dynamic that will soon change your life forever. But after a while, you will also start to worry about some things. For instance, how exactly does one be a parent?! How does that actually work? And then the research into parenting styles, like attachment parenting among others, starts. Instead of becoming more clear on the topic, you feel more confused than ever.

I can tell you from experience that no amount of research is going to prepare you for actual parenting. I still encourage you to learn about all the methods and theories and styles. But, in the end, you will have to use what no book or article is going to give you: common sense and good judgment.

We started with the best intentions . . .

I started my parenting journey adamant that I would follow the tenants of the attachment parenting theory. It sounded ideal and wonderful. And for a very, very long time after having our first child, my husband and I tried our darndest to follow the model of attachment parenting. What we found, though, was that we were frustrated, unhappy, and felt like complete failures.

After a while, we had a “come to Jesus” moment about some of the ways we felt we needed to do things differently. And we agreed that attachment parenting was something we did not agree with anymore. So we took a step back and re-evaluated. Using common sense and good judgment, and forged our own way of parenting. It was the best thing we did for ourselves.

While I won’t tell you that attachment parenting is “bad” or “wrong” (because it’s not), I will tell you that it may not be the best fit for your family. And that’s okay. These are the reasons why I changed my mind about attachment parenting and I am not sorry that I decided to veer away from that particular parenting model.

What is attachment parenting?

Attachment parenting is a parenting philosophy that emphasizes creating a strong parent-child connection through maximal parental empathy and responsiveness and continuous bodily closeness and touch. The methods of attachment parenting include seven practices. They include:

  • breastfeeding on demand
  • co-sleeping
  • baby wearing
  • avoidance of sleep training as main tenants

The theory of attachment parenting has been around since just after World War II. Recently, it has gained significant popularity among young, urban mothers and some well known celebrities over the past decade or so.

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For my husband and I, practicing attachment parenting was a lot more difficult than we imagined it would be. Moreover, as we continued to struggle with the many issues and questions we had regarding the philosophy, we began to question whether it was as great of a parenting theory as proponents claimed it was. We eventually determined that it was doing us, and our baby, more harm than good. Here’s why:

Breastfeeding on demand creates habitual snackers.

One of the tenants of attachment parenting theory is breastfeeding on demand. This basically means that a mother is supposed to breastfeed her child “on cue,” and preferably before the child starts crying to be fed. It also encourages comfort nursing (nursing not for nutrition, but for soothing).

I agree that breastfeeding is very important. I put it at the top of my priority list when it came to my babies. However, I soon realized that breastfeeding on demand was not all it was cracked up to be. The theory of it encouraging attachment between parent and child seems legitimate. However, I believe you can still securely attach to your child if you feed them from a bottle, whether it’s breastmilk or formula. I also believe that feeding on demand creates a habitual snacker instead of a well-fed (and therefore well rested) baby.

My daughter, for instance, ate for only 10 minutes and then stopped. Then she would wake up 30 minutes later needing to be fed again. She also wanted to comfort nurse ALL THE TIME. As you can imagine, this led to very unproductive days and sleepless nights for both of us. Once I put my baby on a feeding schedule, we both fared much better. I also introduced a pacifier to help my daughter self-soothe when she didn’t need to nurse for nutrition. She took to it well and it helped us both a great deal.

I also found that exclusively breastfeeding was completely impractical. My daughter eventually refused to take a bottle (ever) or let anyone else feed her. Which meant I was prohibited from leaving her even for a short time. This made me resentful and stir-crazy. With our second baby, we introduced a bottle (with breastmilk) very soon after he was born. That gave me brief periods of freedom that I needed to be a better mom.

Co-sleeping prevents a child learning how to self-soothe.

The attachment parenting theory also encourages co-sleeping (your child sleeping in the same room on a separate surface) and bed sharing (child sleeps in the same bed as mom and dad). When my first child was born, I decided to bed share because she would not sleep without being near me. At first, I was happy to do it. But after nine months, I was barely sleeping and having perpetual shoulder and neck pain. I had to sleep in really strange positions to accommodate her little body. I knew it was time to try something different.

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At that point, we put her in a bassinet beside the bed, but she was not having it. We tried everything to make it work. But at about a year old we decided it was time to put her in her own room. Neither my husband nor I were getting any sleep. We were not able to be intimate or have any alone time. Both of us were tired, cranky, and at our wit’s end.

We decided to put her in her own room. But once there, she had trouble going back to sleep after waking. She didn’t have my body or my breast right by her side to soothe her back to sleep. I felt that by bed sharing, and then co-sleeping, we had conditioned her to be completely dependent on my presence to sleep well. Frankly, I thought this was unhealthy.

So we decided to gently sleep train her (discussed more below). It only took about a week of training to get her to sleep on her own in her own room. Since then, my daughter has since been an excellent sleeper. Our choice to put her in her room, I believe, saved my husband’s and my sanity. It also brought intimacy back into our relationship, and taught our daughter that sleeping in her own space was a good thing.

Baby wearing is not essential to bonding.

Attachment parenting proponents claim that baby wearing helps to create a secure attachment for your child by encouraging more skin-to-skin time, among other things. While I believe that baby wearing is a really useful tool for most moms, I do not think it’s essential to form a secure parent/child attachment.

First, you can bond with your baby without needing to carry them all the time. Sitting on the floor playing with them, or sitting across from them at the table and making eye contact, creates the same bond. Further, I think that constant baby wearing can be a detriment to fostering your child’s need to explore the world on his own and grow into healthy independency. Finally, I do not agree with the idea that setting your child in a swing or bouncer so that you can do the dishes or make dinner or go to the bathroom is going to cause emotional or mental damage to your child.

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I chose to baby wear until my kids were walking because it was easier for me. It allowed me to use my hands freely. It also helped when I had a toddler and an infant. However, I also regularly used a stroller, a bouncer, a swing, or just some toys on the floor to keep my kiddo occupied while I got stuff done. My kids learned that they didn’t need to be held all the time to be happy. They learned to play and explore independently. They also learned that if they really needed me, I would be there in a heartbeat. And I was a better mom and wife because I was able to get stuff done.

Sleep training is not going to damage your child.

One of the most controversial issues that attachment parenting advocates encourage is avoiding any and all kinds of sleep training. Proponents of attachment parenting argue that sleep training a child, especially using the “cry-it-out” method, can cause brain damage and impair the parent-child bond. This argument, however, is not based in science. In fact, studies done on infants who had been sleep trained showed the opposite to be true: the effect on the babies’ brains and stress levels were not negatively affected and the sleep training actually worked to teach the babies how to sleep on their own.

After doing our best to avoid sleep training per the attachment parenting guidelines, my husband and I came to the conclusion (without reading the science of it at the time) that it was completely ludicrous. We finally decided to sleep train our daughter after over a year of sleepless nights and napping issues. It took us less than a week to get her to sleep (and sleep well) on her own using a hybrid cry-it-out method. Training our kids to sleep was a lifesaver for us. Especially me. Studies show that training your babies reduces the risk of maternal depression. I can attest to the fact that when my kids started sleeping on their own, in their own room, I was a better, happier, more engaged and loving mom.

Bottom line, do what’s right for YOU.

For me and my family, attachment parenting turned out to be a bad choice for us. While I still believe that the theory of it sounds really lovely and ideal, the reality of it falls short in many respects. In the end, my family used bits and pieces of several parenting methods and our own good sense to make our own unique style. I believe it was by far the best choice we made in this crazy gig called parenting.

About the Author /

Cheyenne is an attorney, writer, speaker and blogger with a slight obsession for home decor, red wine, and good coffee. Cheyenne’s blog, Sense & Serendipity, focuses on inspiring others to create a home well loved and a life well lived. Cheyenne lives in San Marcos, Texas with her two children, Aislin and Hawkins.

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THIS. The struggle is real.⁠ ⁠🥴 📷: @brit THIS. The struggle is real.⁠ ⁠🥴
📷: @britt.kav⁠
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It's the beeeeeessssttttt . . . 😬😑 (quote vi It's the beeeeeessssttttt . . . 😬😑
(quote via @smalltowntallgirl)⁠
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🤗 7 Tips for Raising Secure and Happy Kids 🤗 🤗 7 Tips for Raising Secure and Happy Kids 🤗⁠
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Parenting is hard. And ever so important. But sometimes it feels like we need to have a special degree in “Managing Toddler Mood Swings” to navigate some of the unexpected scenarios that come with raising secure and happy children.⁠
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Like how do we handle a child that likes to scream instead of talk?⁠
“Please, child, just lower your voice while we’re in Target.”⁠
Or what are we supposed to do when a child prefers to strip down every time we get them dressed or only eat foods that are the color blue?! (In case you’re wondering, there aren’t many blue foods.)⁠
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It can feel tricky and tiring to try and do it all right and then sometimes still feel like you’re at a loss. But the truth is, there’s never any way to make everything perfect. But there are things we can do that set our children up to feel secure and happy. And here are seven of my favorite tips. {Click 🔗 in bio to read more!}⁠
📷: @lauren.stewart_dc⁠
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Any oldie but goodie by @spiritysol⁠. ❤️⁠ Any oldie but goodie by @spiritysol⁠. ❤️⁠
Cesarean mamas--this one's for you. I hope you know that you are worthy. That you are such a warrior. That you are brave and powerful and strong as f✨ck. I hope you know that birthing your baby on an operating table makes you no less of a mother. No less of a goddess. Your birth story is holy and that beautiful scar on your belly is sacred as sh✨t. You are worthy of praise and celebration, honor and  admiration.⁠
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I hope that you know it was worth it. Knowing this does NOT mean you can't mourn your dream. It does NOT mean "you and your baby are safe--that's all that matters!" It does NOT mean you can't wish things had gone differently. But I hope that underneath it all, you can find beauty in what was. What is. Your baby. Your birth. Your strength. Your healing. Your story.⁠
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Your journey wasn't easy. Perhaps it unfolded much differently than you had hoped--perhaps it shook you to your core and left you feeling the immense weight of a "what if" and why".⁠
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Perhaps you're still wading through the heavy emotions of disappointment, anger, and grief. Perhaps you always will. But whatever feelings you hold in your heart and in your womb, I hope that you can look at your scar and say "Hell yes, it was worth it. And hell ya, I am worthy."⁠
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*This post was written for mamas who might be struggling with an unexpected or undesired cesarean birth. I recognize that there are mamas that choose to have planned/elective cesarean births who might not resonate with the message in this post. I honor them as well--as I honor all mothers, all women, and all beings.⁠
Words & 📷: @spiritysol⁠
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Because I gave him the wrong colored cup . . . whi Because I gave him the wrong colored cup . . . which is the color he originally asked for.⁠
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(quote via @HenpeckedHal via Twitter)⁠
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Hope they're ready for us!⁠ 👯‍♀️⁠
📷: @myquestionablelife⁠
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" . . . Tears contain stress hormones. Why would w " . . . Tears contain stress hormones. Why would we have tears if they didn't serve a purpose? Little hurts can feel big when you are little. There is no such things as no reason to cry. Comforting a crying child is not the same as shutting them down, no matter how sweetly we shut them down . . . up actually." - Pam Leo⁠
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"Every diaper change is a struggle⁠ Goldfish cru "Every diaper change is a struggle⁠
Goldfish crumbs are literally everywhere.⁠
Nothing stays in the correct place.⁠
Dramatic meltdowns are a part of our daily routine.⁠
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Being a mother to a new toddler is so challenging, and every day I'm not sure what to expect! But, even on the days where I think I'm going nuts, it's so worth getting to watch my daughter grow into her own person. I love seeing her personality expand with each day.⁠
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I won't lie though, I do get a tad bit freaked out sometimes! I mean I've never heard anyone nail the sound of a pterodactyl better than my daughter, when she's having a meltdown. 😂😳"⁠
Repost: @postpartum⁠
Words & 📷: @tori.mccain⁠
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Share your worst/funniest toddler meltdown stories below! I'm sure almost all of us mamas who have a toddler can relate. 🙋⁠
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That's my kind of mom friend. 😂 Tag that mama w That's my kind of mom friend. 😂 Tag that mama who is your happy safe person. ❤️⁠
📷: @lifeandtimesofmom⁠
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8 Ways to Beat the Winter Blues When You're Stuck 8 Ways to Beat the Winter Blues When You're Stuck Inside⁠
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⁠When the snow first starts falling, it’s a great feeling. Your house is cozy inside, school is cancelled—three cheers for a snow day! The kids are excited and you can’t help but feel some excitement, too. However, after a few days of being snowed in, we can all start to get a bit stir crazy, especially with our littles cooped up at home with us. We're sharing eight creative ways to beat those winter blues when you feel like you’re stuck indoors! {Click 🔗 in bio to continue reading!}⁠
📷: @cecileadams⁠
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#winterblues #snowday #snowedin #winter #winterwonderland #winterfun #wintertime #home #indoorideas #motherhoodthroughinstagram #momlife #motherhood #momstruggles #momprobs #mumlife #mommylife #parenthood #motherhoodunplugged #realmoms #momstatus #thatmomlife #realmomlife #momsofinstagram #mommychick #motherhoodrising #ig_motherhood #uniteinmotherhood⁣ #babychick⁣
Where do I sign up for my parenting punchcard? 🙋‍♀️⁠
📷: @momtransparenting⁠
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Whatever you gotta do to get in some self care, ma Whatever you gotta do to get in some self care, mama. 💁‍♀️😂⁠
(quote via @fruitsofmotherhood)⁠
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But in 2020 🤔🤔🤔😂😂😂😂⁠ jk
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Having your baby look like their dad is like being Having your baby look like their dad is like being back in school when you did all the work in a group project and they got the higher grade. 😑⁠ Annoying AF.⁠
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Who do your kids look more like?⁠
📷: @misshoneybakes⁠
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