How to Keep Your Toddler’s Sleep on Track After Having a New Baby

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How to Keep Your Toddler’s Sleep on Track After Having a New Baby

Welcoming a new baby into the home is always a magical day.  Everyone enjoys loving on the baby and who can resist newborn snuggles? But bringing home a new baby when you have a toddler may not be as magical as you hoped. Your big toddler may be feeling a little left out with all the new excitement of the new baby. This is normal. This is NOT a representation of your parenting. It is just a hard time of creating balance.

Throughout my years as a mom, I have always tried to remind myself that my toddler, is in fact, still a baby themselves. They seem like an older child the second the new baby arrives, but in the bigger picture of life they are still so young. Tantrums, tears, sleep battles and emotional rollercoasters come as you are trying to do it all. I can handle the tantrums and the tears . . . kind of. Don’t get me wrong, they are tough, but fighting bedtime when I have no energy left to give is where I have always struggled the most. And bringing home a new baby can wreak havoc on keeping your toddler’s sleep on track.

At the end of your long days, you are exhausted and ready for a well-deserved break. So, that moment when you tuck your toddler in and they start crying and begging you not to go or maybe you have tucked them in and they have now come out of their room for the hundredth time you are about ready to lose your mind. I know it is frustrating! Understanding why your toddler is acting out at bedtime and having a few strategies under your belt can help keep toddler sleep on track and balanced through this busy transition in the home.

Why are Sleep Battles Happening?

I find that the sleep battles start out of the blue a few weeks or months after baby arrives while other times they progressively get worse right from the start of baby coming home. Sometimes we do not even associate baby coming home with the sleep disruptions because it seems so long after. Whatever the case, the disruptions often come down to the fact that you just don’t have the same time to devote to your toddler as you used to. This is a huge adjustment for your toddler and they now feel left out and in a way they might feel as though they have been replaced. **cue mom guilt**

The baby’s needs often take priority to their needs, you may find yourself being short with your toddler in ways like “don’t feed your baby sister dill pickles” and much more. The day-to-day is usually focused more on the baby’s needs at this point and it is just a reality. Bedtime battles can stem from your toddler craving your attention.

There are ways that you can help your toddler through this new transition. It can take time and patience as they adapt to the new family member but with a little extra time spent with them and some consistency sleep battles can be reduced.

10 Tips to Help Keep Toddler Sleep on Track

1. Fill up their cup!

Give hugs, kisses, smiles and I love you’s every chance you get during the day. I know that sometimes it feels like all we are doing is filling up other cups as ours is left draining at a rapid pace. Having your toddler feel loved will help them focus on the positive things the new baby brings to the home.

2. Use a Positive Reinforcement Chart to make bedtime a happy time of the day.

Do NOT make this a “reward” chart where they earn stickers for behaviors you want and don’t get stickers for behaviors you don’t want. This is NOT a punishment chart in any form. Instead, choose 3 things in the bedtime routine that they will do no matter what. Then let them put a sticker on their chart when this is completed. Examples include getting clean in the tub, filling up their belly with a bedtime snack, brushing their teeth, and giving kisses goodnight. This way they are always getting the sticker whether it is a good or bad night.  The goal here is to help your toddler feel good about bedtime.

3. Let your toddler make choices in the bedtime routine.

Let them choose their pajamas, the bedtime snack, the books you are going to read, and the songs they want to sing. You are letting them know that you hear them and respect their needs/wants.

4. Eliminate the bedtime back and forth.

If your toddler comes out a hundred times at night then you want to have everything they typically ask for already available in their room. This may include their drink, blankets, loveys, etc. By having everything already in place before you do lights out, you are helping to eliminate those struggles of going back and forth into the room.

5. Put baby to “bed” before going into your toddler’s room.

This can be magic! Remember, your toddler feels replaced! Making it seem like your toddler is not missing out on anything can be a great way to make bedtime more enjoyable. If your toddler thinks the baby is going to bed at the same time then it can be easier for them to go to bed as well. They don’t feel like they are missing out on any fun or that the new baby is getting special treatment! During your routine, tell your toddler to help you put baby to sleep. Then go into your baby’s sleep space together and put them down, say goodnight, and then leave the room to continue with your toddler’s routine. Once your toddler is in their room to finish off the routine, then you or your partner can go and grab baby.

6. Have extra cuddle time once in the room.

Adding an extra book and/or song helps you connect with your toddler again during these busy days. When we bring home a new baby the opposite can happen. Instead of adding more cuddle time we start rushing through the toddler routine because the baby needs us. If you can, extend the time with your toddler during the routine to help them feel safe and secure. No parent ever regretted too many cuddles!

7. Reflect on the best parts of the day.

Adding this into your routine right before turning out the lights can help draw attention to all of the best moments you had together. They love this!

8. Make sure their sleep schedule is appropriate.

A toddler often experiences bedtime battles due to the timing of sleep. So their schedule may be able to be tweaked slightly to help them be ready for sleep at night! Reading sample schedules for toddlers can help guide you to know if you have a healthy sleep schedule.

9. Eliminate all struggles.

If there is a struggle because they are coming out of their room numerous times asking for different things or crying to get you to come back in the room then instead of getting frustrated, eliminate the battle. One gentle strategy that can work great for toddlers is to use a chair method. After you tuck them in and turn out the lights sit in a chair right beside their bed. Tell them, “mommy/daddy will sit here with you until you fall asleep.” Then do exactly that. Once asleep you can leave the room. The first night or two you might rub their back, hum, shush, etc. to keep them calm and in bed. What you are doing is eliminating the habit of the fight and any reinforcement from getting frustrated.

Every couple of days shift the chair slightly further away from their bed which will naturally reduce the amount of soothing needed to help them fall asleep. It is a slower method but helps your toddler build trust that you are near while also giving them the independence to feel confident in going to sleep at night. Remember, this sleep disruption often stems from an emotional change.

10. Give yourself grace!

You are recovering, you are adapting, and you are learning. You don’t have a manual or instruction sheet for getting through these hard transitions. Don’t be too hard on yourself. Just take it one day at a time. Using some of the above tips for keeping your toddler’s sleep on track will help make bedtimes go a little easier.

This is a hard time for new parents. Every new baby brings a new dynamic to your family and it can be a learning curve for everyone. It may take a little extra work and coordination with your partner to keep your toddler’s sleep on track after a new baby, but it’s worth it. You got this!!

About the Author /

Hailee Schollaardt a Certified Sleep Consultant and the owner/founder of Nurturing Sleep Solutions Infant + Child Sleep Consulting. Hailee's journey of Sleep Consulting began after having a very hard time with her first child. It was not until then she realized how much sleep has an impact on a family’s overall well-being. Hailee was inspired to help other families avoid and get out of similar sleep situations with their children. Hailee is married to her high school sweetheart and they have 3 wonderful, busy, crazy, kids, ages 6, 4, and 2. Hailee loves talking about real motherhood and has a passion for sleep!

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Episiotomies: Are They Still a Thing?⁠ 😳😬⁠
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The contractions started so close together that there was no waiting time. The nurses did not believe they were as close as I was reporting. 😖 My partner and I were trying to play cards on the bed, but I was worried. Every two minutes, like clockwork, another contraction waved over me. 'Go for a walk, dear. It will be a while yet,' a nurse told me without any physical check. I got up and tried to go for a walk but was stopped by a single very sharp contraction. 😧 Then I went to the washroom and got sick. 🤢 I knew I was in transition.⁠
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On the bed, ready to push, an elderly doctor entered the room. 👨‍⚕️ He walked up to me, picked up a scalpel, and immediately sliced a small incision in my perineum. ✂️ At the time, it didn't seem relevant. I was about to become a mother! In only two pushes and a total of two hours of labor from the first contraction, I was holding my baby. 🤱 Nothing else mattered; not even my well-crafted birth plan or the raw pain I felt meant a thing. He was here, and he was perfect.⁠ 💙
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Luckily for me, my healing process was minimal and did not result in any further complications, however, many other women are not so fortunate." Learn more about the history of episiotomies, why they are performed, and how to avoid having one. {Click 🔗 in bio to continue reading!}⁠
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Each woman knows that pregnancy is one of the most important events in her life. ❤️ This wonderful process makes a lot of changes in a woman’s organism and, as it follows, in her lifestyle. And I am not an exception.⁠
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The first things that have changed are my workouts. Right now I'm at the end of my second trimester and I still workout 3 times a week, like I did before, but the intensity is much lower (about 10-20% of what it used to be).⁠
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As for my exercises, I am focused on glutes, legs, arms, and a little bit of side abs. What do my workouts usually include?⁠
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Currently, I do avoid jumping & abs exercises because they feel uncomfortable and too exhausting. But if anyone still wants to do abs exercises, do not do them on a flat surface - it’s better to use a fit ball or bosu ball.⁠
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Remember that it’s safe to work out during pregnancy if you have been consistently working out before pregnancy and have clearance from your doctor. Pregnancy is very individual & depending on your and baby's health, your doctor may decide that you should avoid physical activity for some time. For example, I was unable to work out during my first trimester for about a month, but I did some light stretching and walking instead. It's important for us to all remember that we are carrying a little human inside of us and, obviously, we should think about him/her first. Do not work out if your doctor has not given you medical clearance. If you feel that you can’t do some exercises, it’s better to skip them altogether - listening to your body is very important right now.⁠
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The second main thing during pregnancy is nutrition. 🍎 First of all, I have always been against strict diets 🙅‍♀️ and my daily routine included 5 meals--eating small portions regularly throughout the day. My diet before pregnancy excluded ❌ red meat, milk, and animal fats. I followed these rules 5 days a week. (Continue reading in the comments!)
Postpartum Expectations Versus Reality⁠ ⁠ "Eve Postpartum Expectations Versus Reality⁠
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"Every new mom probably envisions herself swathed in a soft robe, snuggled up with her freshly-born baby. 🤱 Beautiful and glowing, she smiles as she blissfully nurses or feeds a bottle to her beautiful pink-faced baby. 🥰 These moments are precious, and they do exist, but it's more the expectation than the reality of what the postpartum experience looks like. I spoke to pediatrician Harvey Karp, baby sleep wizard, and the author of the popular book 'The Happiest Baby on the Block', about how to manage postpartum expectations versus reality, including bonding, a lack of sleep, and handling all the new responsibilities of having a newborn." {Click 🔗 in bio to continue reading!}⁠
Article by: ⁠Rachel MacPherson⁠
📷: @the_pettylife
Boobies leaking and fires blazing! 😵🤣⁠
📷: @mommymemest
The Day I Realized My Kid Is Not Like Me⁠ ⁠
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"On the day I realized my kid is not like me, I could tell by the look in my daughter’s eyes that I’d breached a moral line.⁠
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My loving and kind-hearted daughter had been dealing with teasing and bullying all year. We’d been struggling to get the school and specific teachers to react in any sort of fashion that could make us feel like they cared. I’d become even more jaded as the months rolled by, and the teasing continued.⁠
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'I made Miss Rebecca a birthday card, it’s her birthday today!' my daughter told me after school one day. My reply? 'I really don’t care about her or her birthday.' My daughter gave me that look. How could I be so cold? Her eyes searched my face for any amount of empathy or even a hint that I was sorry. I knew my face was drawn and pinched in that disapproving grimace only mothers can make.⁠
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As I looked down at her while we were walking home, my face softened. Here was this lovely empathetic little soul who only ever wanted to make sure everyone was happy and included. She didn’t deserve to be picked on because she played with the 'different' child in her classroom. She didn’t deserve to be poked and laughed at because of how easily they could make her cry. But somehow she remained this soft, sweet girl she’d always been, making a birthday card for the teacher who’d repeatedly made her feel like she was to blame for her own bullying.⁠
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My response was to get angry, get my back up, retaliate. My full mama bear mode was unleashed. But I also knew that this was my personality. I am guarded, I’m careful, and I don’t trust people. I had a lot to learn from my little girl." {Click 🔗 in bio to continue reading!}⁠
Article by: ⁠Rachel MacPherson⁠
📷: @jlo
It’s going to be okay. ❤️ We will get throug It’s going to be okay. ❤️
We will get through this. 💪
No matter how many toddler tantrums happen or work emails come our way, breathe and take one thing at a time. 🧘‍♀️
Because our work will never be finished. 🤹‍♀️
Our inboxes will never be empty. 💻
We will always be striving for happy, healthy children, clean houses, good work done and that will never cease. 🏠
But WE make each day what it is.💕
Only we can determine our own happiness. 😊
Even though our days look far from what we expected, we need to welcome each day with a smile. Be appreciative for what we have and for our health. 🙏
So let go of how you think today or this week is supposed to go. This time is only temporary. This stage is only temporary. ⏱Look for the good, and roll with the punches. We’re in this together, apart. ❤️
Mothers are superheroes, I am convinced. 🙌⁠ T Mothers are superheroes, I am convinced. 🙌⁠
This great image taken by @bubbapage, @jordanpage's husband, shows that taking care of kids & babies (multiples at that!) is no joke. 💪😴⁠
We salute you, mamas! You're doing better than you know. Keep loving, keep mothering, keep going. We are with you. 💗
Now this is the cutest thing I've ever seen in a b Now this is the cutest thing I've ever seen in a bedroom for three girls. 😍⁠
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💤 Sleep Tips for Kids!⁠ 💤⁠
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1️⃣ Have a bedtime routine.⁠
A regular bedtime routine starting around the same time every night encourages good sleep patterns for kids.⁠
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2️⃣ Have some relaxation-time before bedtime⁠.⁠
Have your children wind down by reading a book, listening to gentle music, or practicing breathing for relaxation.⁠ This will help their minds and their bodies to go to sleep.⁠
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3️⃣ Be consistent with your child's awake and sleep times.⁠
Keep your child’s bedtimes and wake-up times within 1-2 hours of each other each day. This helps to keep your child’s body clock in a regular pattern.⁠
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4️⃣ Eat the right amount at the right time⁠.⁠
Make sure your child has a satisfying evening meal at a reasonable time. Feeling hungry or too full before bed can make your child more alert or uncomfortable since their body is either hungry or trying to digest. Either can make it harder for her to get to sleep.⁠
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5️⃣ Keep older children’s naps early and short⁠.⁠
Most children stop napping at 3-5 years of age. If your child is over five-years-old and is still napping during the day, try to keep the nap to no longer than 20 minutes and no later than early afternoon. Longer and later naps can make it harder for children to get to sleep at night.⁠
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6️⃣ Check noise and light in your child’s bedroom⁠.⁠
A quiet, dimly lit space is important for good sleep. Check whether your child’s bedroom is too light or noisy for sleep.⁠
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7️⃣ Make sure your child feels safe at night⁠.⁠
If your child feels scared about going to bed or being in the dark, you can praise and reward her whenever she is brave. Some children with bedtime fears feel better when they have a night light or sound machine.⁠
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Hope you guys are having a great weekend and are getting plenty of sleep! 🙏❤️⁠
📷: @tyson_moore