Our daughter hated bedtime for the first two years of her life. And honestly, it’s still not her favorite thing in the world. And since she’s so strong-willed, it’s been a challenge trying to figure out how to make bedtime something fun and exciting rather than dreadful and frustrating.
After a couple of years of trial and error, I’ve found a few things that have been excellent to incorporate into our bedtime routine with her. So if you’re a parent with a strong-willed child, these tips below might be a night-saver!
1. Make it Overly Exciting and Interactive
The thing about strong-willed children is their negative responses or one-track mindsets can be diffused with joy, laughter, or excitement. For our daughter, when the clock strikes 8:29, we do a sort of “countdown,” almost as thrilling and as exciting as the New Year’s Eve Ball Drop in Times Square. We explain that when the clock shows the numbers 8, 3, and 0, it’s time to celebrate and run to her room. So when 8:30 finally hits, we all scream, laugh, shout, jump, sing, dance, and run straight to her room. Doing this lessens the negative anticipation and replaces it with a fun activity filled with positive emotions.
2. Let Your Child Choose a Bedtime Book or Stuffed Animal
Allowing our daughter to pick out what book she wants to read before bed or what stuffed animal she wants to sleep with gives her strong-willed personality a sense of purpose, even over an event as simple as bedtime. Letting her have control over those decisions is one step closer to her agreeing to go to sleep. Giving choices to strong-willed children keeps them within the parameters of what you want them to do (go to sleep). It also excites them to “take the lead,” per se.
3. Find a Cool Night Light
Many kids are afraid of the dark and require a night light anyway. Our daughter is not scared of the dark, but we still got her a cool nightlight. She now gets excited about bedtime because it’s the only time she can experience this fun “toy.” We ordered a moon-shaped nightlight from Amazon that changes colors, or you can select a color your child wants the moon to be. EWegave our daughter the option to pick her “color” or choose the alternating color method each night. Since this nightlight is interactive, it became a fun activity to look forward to each night.
4. Let Them Fix Up Their Diffuser
We use tons of essential oils in our house because they help us sleep when we diffuse them in our bedroom at night. Because of this, we decided to get our daughter a diffuser for her bedroom. Each night, we let her be the one to put the water in it, add drops 4-6 of whatever essential oils she wants, put the lid back on, and turn it on. Again, this gives her control of things. Allowing her to be the one to take action steps and make decisions rather than irritate or frustrate it.
5. Hype Up the Plans for the Next Day
After completing all the steps, we let her know our plans for the next day. We share them with excitement and vigor, letting her know that it will only happen if she goes to sleep. Doing this refocuses her attention away from the “dreaded idea of going to bed.” Instead, it gets her excited about what’s to come if she relaxes and closes her eyes.
Lastly, consistently sticking with these tips has caused bedtime to be fun rather than dread. These simple tips have allowed our nightly routine to be full of laughs rather than tears. Raising strong-willed kids can be challenging. But learning tips and tricks to make life better for yourself and them is so worth it!
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