5 Important Things Every New Mom Should Know About Baby’s Sleep

5 Important Things Every New Mom Should Know About a Baby’s Sleep | From a mother of four boys, here are a few things that make a big difference when it comes to baby's sleep.

5 Important Things Every New Mom Should Know About Baby’s Sleep

If you know me or have ever read any of my writing, you know that I am notorious for having bad sleepers. I have never considered myself to be someone that does not enjoy sleep. My children on the other hand seem to have a sleep gene that never developed. Yay for me. I saw a meme the other day that said it perfectly…

5 Important Things Every New Mom Should Know About a Baby's Sleep

My first three sons have all had different sleep issues. It’s not that we battled the same monster with each one. My first son, as a baby, was the lightest sleeper in the world that hated naps. My second son slept well as a baby but sleepwalks now. And my third son has still never recovered his normal sleeping patterns since transitioning to a toddler bed almost ONE YEAR AGO. Again, yay for me.

Needless to say, now with the birth of my fourth son, I am more focused than ever on developing healthy sleep habits early. Along the way, I have learned some things that do make a big difference that I was not aware of when I first became a mother. While I cannot say they would have completely changed all of my experiences, I think they could have made a big difference. This is why I want to share them with you today. Especially if you are just starting on the journey of sleep or sleeplessness with your first. 😉

1. Sleep Habits are Important.

This sounds like a strange and obvious thing to say, but I think with my first, I never knew that sleep habits were really anything to focus on. I was so focused on being in love with my son, that I wasn’t thinking about much else. And while I absolutely feel that it’s (the most) important for a mom to bond with her baby after birth, and get feeding established (I cannot highlight that enough) — I would say that establishing a healthy sleep routine should come next. Especially if you plan to have more than one child.

Baby sleep, Motherhood, No sleep

2. Breastfeeding to Sleep Does Not Help You Long-Term.

I am a huge proponent of breastfeeding. It would be a lie to say I’m anything else. I actually added up all of my months of breastfeeding up until now with my fourth son… And I have breastfed a total of 70 months! And I LOVE it. However, when I first became a mom, I looked at the breast as an end all, be all tool for everything related to baby. And it is. However, if the breast is always used to put a baby to sleep, I have found that most babies won’t naturally outgrow that pattern, which I originally assumed. If anything, I feel it encourages a pattern of night-waking where a baby wakes up and wants to breastfeed to go back to sleep.

For my first son, this didn’t bother me. But by my second son, I realized consolidated sleep for both myself and my baby was needed to sustain energy to make it through busy days of motherhood. And it seemed they began waking more as they got older instead of less. This led me to putting them in bed with me. While I love co-sleeping, the more children I’ve had, the more I see why this pattern is not always realistic. And that there is a great benefit to teaching them to fall asleep on their own. And while I am NOT a proponent of obsessing over scheduling a baby, BabyWise by Dr. Gary Izzo and Dr. Robert Bucknam focuses on helping parents develop a schedule that stops that eating to sleep pattern from developing, if you are interested in learning more.

3. A Sleep Object has Great Benefit.

Introducing a paci, stuffed animal and/or blankie from the start can help you. My kids have never been drawn to an object on their own, but I notice children who have a sleep object can be signaled for sleep in a variety of settings. It also helps break the association of eating to sleep as mentioned earlier. We have always struggled to put our kids to sleep in a setting that isn’t their bed, but having some kind of object can help. (Sleep tip: If you travel often, occasionally have your child nap in their pack-n-play at home so that when you travel, the pack-n-play isn’t a foreign setting to them.)

Baby sleep, Motherhood, No sleep, Lovey, Sleep object

4. An Overly Cranky Baby Resists Naps.

Prior to having my first son, I assumed that you knew that a baby was tired when they started acting cranky. And that once you noticed they seemed tired, you would go lay them down. But what I’ve learned, is that at the point the baby is cranky, it is infinitely harder to lay them down than if you catch them in the window of drowsiness (not crankiness). And when you wait for cranky, you either have to find an elaborate routine to get them to fall asleep, or you have to listen to a lot of crying. And neither is fun. So learning more about a baby’s natural sleep patterns is helpful!

Did you know, the average baby gets drowsy after an hour to an hour and a half of wakefulness? But many parents do not know this. They keep them in a stimulated environment for too long at a time, which gets them overtired.

5. The Earlier the Bedtime, the Better the Sleep.

This is a counterintuitive concept, but man oh man, is it ever true. Essentially, the more rested a baby is, the less they resist sleep. And the better they sleep. I originally thought that if a baby is kept up until 10pm, they would have a better chance of sleeping through the night. But then I started reading about sleep and discovered a common theme amongst varying approaches to sleep. It was this: the earlier a baby is laid down, the better they tend to sleep at night. I first learned about this in Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child by Dr. Marc Weissbluth, and I have found it to be true. For more details, check out his book.

5 Important Things Every New Mom Should Know About a Baby's Sleep

All Babies are Different.

Now in order not to set you up for feeling bad, I think it is also incredibly important to know, no two babies are alike. No matter how much of an expert you are in sleep, every baby has its own personality and likes. Some babies naturally love sleep and do not fight it. One parent could have great habits and still have a baby that resists sleep. Another could never do one thing to help promote good sleep and still have a rockstar sleeper. It’s not always fair! My first son would wake up from sleep with the creak of a floor. But my fourth son sleeps better when he is surrounded by noise. My two-year-old has always slept better with someone next to him, and our family friend’s daughter can only sleep in a quiet room by herself.

All this to say, no matter what you do, every baby is different. And if your baby doesn’t sleep as well as your friend’s baby, you are not a failure. They are different. And give yourself some grace. I hope some of these tips are helpful for you. Please share some of your own tips that aren’t on this list. Cheers to good sleep!


About the Author /

Quinn is a wife, boy mom (x’s 4), blogger at Sanctification and Spitup, host of the Renew You Podcast and licensed marriage and family therapist. She loves to encourage others in relationships through her speaking, writing or podcast episodes.

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