6 Reasons Early Bedtimes are Best for Babies and Parents
We have all been there, counting down the hours until bedtime! Bedtime reflects a time of rest for your little ones and also a much-needed rest for you as a parent. The workload of raising little humans is tiring and at the end of the day, we all deserve a break. As a mom, I love early bedtimes because the evening is time for me to fill up my cup. This is the time where I enjoy tea or a glass of wine and work on something that I enjoy. You know, all those things that you just do not accomplish during the day when the kids are awake.
But more importantly, as a Sleep Consultant, I love early bedtimes because I know that this is the most restorative sleep for little ones. Having a balance is key when it comes to sleep but if there is one place I try and be the most consistent, it is an early bedtime.
6 Reasons Early Bedtimes are Best
Here are my top 6 reasons why an early bedtime is best for you and your baby!
1. You need your space!
This is a priority! You love your kids, I know that. But if you do not have any time to yourself it can feel like you are drowning every day. Having already given all you have to give throughout the day, you will continue to comfort your baby throughout the night as well. You need this time to relax, take a break, and fill up your cup! Find something that you miss or tackle a new project that has been on your list. You will start to look forward to that couple of hours between your child’s bedtime and your own.
2. More quality sleep.
The first half of the night is the deepest and most restorative sleep for your child. The sleep cycle is still the same length, but more time is spent in deep sleep than light sleep. This means that your little one is getting the most restorative sleep at bedtime. This can help set up a more restful night as a whole and can impact the quality of naps the next day as well!
3. Babies are programmed for an early bedtime.
A baby and/or toddler’s body is programmed to fall asleep between 6:00 – 8:00 p.m. Depending on their nap schedule and their age, your child’s body starts to switch over or prepare for bedtime during the later afternoon. This means that melatonin (our sleep hormone) begins to increase in the body. So when bedtime rolls around, they have a build-up allowing them to fall asleep easily and sleep well. Using their last awake time to find an appropriate bedtime works best and will allow for bedtime to fall between that range in most cases. This is a natural transition in the body and so when we push them past these ranges their body can become overtired which means melatonin decreases in the body due to adrenaline or them getting their “second wind.”
4. Parents get more (needed) rest, too.
It allows the parents to have an earlier bedtime. This is also important because most little ones wake up between 6:00 – 8:00 a.m. This would not be a big deal except if our child is going to bed later in the evening then we try and get our “me time” by staying up longer at night. This leads to us being more tired in the morning when the kids get up. An earlier bedtime for your child means that you also get an earlier bedtime and still have time for yourself. Everyone increases their total sleep hours and feels more rested the next day.
5. Earlier bedtimes can reduce early morning wakings.
Are you hoping that the later bedtime will push the morning wake-up past 6:00 a.m. for a change? Unfortunately, it usually does not work this way. When we push bedtime too late it causes a rise in adrenaline in the body. When adrenaline is being produced, melatonin is being suppressed. We need that melatonin to remain high so that your little one can get the deeper sleep at the beginning of the night which will help them sleep more soundly during the early morning hours. If the beginning of the night is disrupted, then we often see a lighter sleep between 4:00 –6:00 a.m. This can cause your baby to wake sometime between those hours. If during the beginning of the night your child gets restorative sleep then this can allow them to sleep better during those early hours and lead to a more appropriate morning wake-up after 6:00 a.m.
6. Consistency pays off.
A consistent early bedtime allows for more flexibility during “off” days. Every day will not be perfect. Birthdays, family events, special dinners, or other situations will come up and that is okay. The nice part about being consistent with an early bedtime is that it makes it easier for your little one to get back on track after having a later bedtime. They can handle having that special day and going to bed later and then the next day they will be ready to go to bed early again. If every day is all over the place, then the inconsistency makes it hard to create a balance for you and your family.
Those are my top reasons, as a mom and Sleep Consultant, why early bedtimes are awesome! The overall conclusion is that we need our own time and restful sleep. And our little ones get the most restorative sleep from an earlier bedtime. Again, balance is key, but being consistent and predictable 80% of the time can help keep the whole family more rested.