One day, a few years from now, your children will be able to express to you just how sincerely grateful they are for all that you have done and continue to do for them. One day they may write their own thank you note to you, but today I am writing a thank you note to all the great dads out there from us at Baby Chick.
Moms can admit that far too often, she can take you for granted. All moms can sometimes be too quick to huff or point out something you haven’t done or something you’ve done “wrong.”
In the hectic pace of the days, the blur of weeks, and the racing into months, sometimes mothers forget to slow down and recognize all the things you have done. They can forget to acknowledge all the many things you do right and well. So here is a big “thank you” for all you do for your partners in parenting and your families.
A Thank You Letter to All Dads
To all the Great Dads Out There –
Thank you for being by your partner’s side when you both became parents. Together you two figured out how to care for a newborn, how to shush a crying baby, and soothe a sobbing mommy. Thank you for fetching whatever she or the baby needed while she was hooked up to a baby or a breast pump. Thank you for changing diapers, for clipping baby’s tiny fingernails when mommy might have been too nervous, for wrapping the best swaddle, and for being a true partner as you both added to your family.
Thank you for being fully engaged. It fills every mother’s heart to see her children’s father reading, cuddling, dancing, or fishing with their kids. Moms’ hearts swell to hear you share a bit of wisdom or a childhood memory, to listen to you make up a song especially for one child, and to hear you award a well-earned compliment to your children. Your way with your kids is different from hers, and mothers really appreciate that, and someday, your kids will, too.
Mothers watch you fly the baby through the air or swing the baby to the moon, sometimes making her stomach lurch, but she knows it’s important for your kids to have another way of experiencing life. First bike rides, building towers and forts in the living room, and experiments with exploding baking soda all give your kids a part of you, and that makes your partner smile.
She loves you for doing all those stinky jobs like picking up dead bugs, crawling into the attic, cleaning kids’ throw-up, and lugging in everything from the car after a weekend away. And she loves you for doing all those precious things that make your house a home, like cutting down the Christmas tree, lighting a cozy fire, and doing small repairs and big projects while teaching the kids pride, respect, and how to use a screwdriver.
It’s amazing how you can pull the kids into any task at any age and teach them life lessons while they’re having fun. They grow up beside you and know without a doubt that you love them and value them; they know that their Dad believes in them and likes being with them—what an incredible gift.
You set positive examples, big and small. They know that men can cook, they know that men can clean up, fold laundry, clean toilets (every now and then), and there are no rigid definitions of what girls and boys can or cannot do. Your children witness you treating your partner with love. They have a model of how to love and how to expect to be loved. You show them daily that Dads are nurturers, boo-boo healers, and snugglers as well as disciplinarians, jungle-gyms, and joke tellers.
Your partner may even thank you for teaching your kids to burp letters, to make sounds under their armpits, to take a half-hour to poop, and for laughing whenever the word “fart” is uttered. Seriously? Still? Every time?
Thank you for taking over all the times you’ve arrived home from work to hear, “I’m DONE! Here, take the baby/child/teen – I need to be alone!” Thank you for those days, still, when she’s at the end of her rope, and you swoop in with calm patience to manage a cranky kid or feisty teen. She marvels at how you can make a job they dread into a fun game or how you can redirect a bubbling bickering match into a drawing contest.
Thank you for figuring out the new way to do math, so your partner doesn’t have to, for coaching the team, for driving a forgotten assignment to school…again. Thank you for cheering for the whole family, whether on the courts, fields, stages, classrooms, or boardrooms. Your support and encouragement lift all of them higher. Their lives are better in every way because of you.
Your family is proud of you. Your partner is proud of the family you both have created. She’s thankful to have you and wouldn’t want anyone else to walk beside her, hand in hand, as you two voyage through parenthood, and someday, into grand-parenthood.
She loves you. Just the way you are, she loves you. And we are so grateful for all that you do for her and your family. So as we embark on this new month, always remember that love and how thankful we are for all of you.
Nina – The Baby Chick