When my friend Kerri and I discussed birth photography for my delivery of babe number two I was really on the fence. My first labor and delivery had been photographed by one of the doulas present. For some reason I never wanted to look back at those photos. In my head, I was still self-conscious about what I had looked like during labor and especially during delivery. So, I was still somewhat uncomfortable with the idea of birth photography. However, I know Kerri is a phenomenal photographer and eventually Nina was able to convince me that I would want to document this birth, my last birth. (Maybe!)
I am so glad I listened! To say I am merely happy to have these photos would be a huge understatement. They are amazing and powerful. Emotional and raw. They capture the beauty of the process and the incredible strength of each person involved. When it came down to it, it wasn’t just me, the mother, that had to muster fortitude. My husband had to be an anchor for me, and stifled the pain he felt at seeing me in such pain. Nina, who may be little but is very mighty, had to work her magic all over again as she massaged and applied counter-pressure when I needed it most. She showed an incredible amount of restraint in the face of medical practitioners who didn’t seem to be listening to me. My nurse, Joy, fought hard for what I wanted, occasionally flexing her muscles.
Here is the story of Barrett Thomas Towsley: Chapter One.
I am so glad I chose to say yes to birth photography! Unlike with my last photos, I look back at these photos way more often than I thought I would. I see in them a confident and determined woman. In a way, they’ve encouraged me to perceive myself a little differently — kind of like “heck, yeah! I DID that!” It’s not that my first birth, which was also unmedicated, was anything less than this one, but perhaps the photographs this time just provide a different angle.
I strongly encourage mamas, no matter what type of birth they have, to consider hiring a photographer. It’s a struggle to remember all of little moments prior to, and especially right after the birth. The details a photographer captures are priceless. The tears, grit, laughter, the clasping of hands and the gripping of fingers. Stolen glances and sweet smiles, and, of course, that first moment you see baby. Really, how often do you get to document totally life-changing events?
Again, I can’t encourage you enough to consider birth photography. I promise, you will look back at them and realize there isn’t a darn thing in this world you can’t do.
I also want to give a HUGE thank you to my friend and photographer, Kerri Nel. She was absolutely incredible. She spent pretty much the entire labor with us and was a complete professional in the sense that she stood back and I barely noticed she was there snapping away. Kerri, you were a wonderful addition to my birth team and I am so grateful to have had another powerful woman and momma in the room with me!