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How to Prepare Your Kids Before They Meet Santa

Here are some key tips on how to prepare your kids before they meet Santa for a smooth, calm and successful visit.

Published November 28, 2018

by Nina Spears

The Baby Chick®: Pregnancy, Birth & Postpartum Expert

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‘Tis the season to be jolly, but… maybe not so much when it comes time for your child to meet Santa. You might have been excited this holiday season to get that cute picture of your kid(s) sitting on Santa’s lap, telling him what they want for Christmas, but this may not go as planned. Many kids are afraid of Santa. As soon as it’s their turn in line to meet Santa, they freak out. If you want some smiles in that photo with Santa and not a meltdown, here are some tips on preparing your little ones for a smooth, calm, and successful visit with Santa Claus…

1. Introduce Your Child to Santa Claus

Mother and her daughters reading a book

Get your child excited about Santa at the beginning of the holiday season so that he already feels like he knows him. Tell stories about the jolly man who brings presents to girls and boys around the world, or share memories of what Santa meant to you as a kid.

Visuals are always helpful, so watch age-appropriate Christmas movies that portray Santa in a positive light, such as the original Santa Claus Is Coming to TownThe Santa Clause, or Miracle on 34th Street. Read Christmas books such as ‘Twas the Night Before Christmas or The Berenstain Bears Meet Santa Bear. And, of course, it can’t hurt to suggest that your child write a “wish list” that you can send off to the North Pole.

Remember, from your child’s perspective, those “safe,” non-threatening representations of Santa are polar opposites from standing face-to-face with a 6-foot-tall, 300-pound, bell-jingling, ho-ho-ho’ing, white hair-covered “stranger.” That can be scary for your little one.

2. Avoid Weekends!

If you can arrange to take your child to meet Santa at a time when there are shorter lines, fewer crowds, and a shorter wait time, your child will have a better experience. Waiting even 10 minutes and being dragged through the maze of velvet ropes is tough for kids.

3. Consider Your Child’s Schedule

Select a time for your visit to meet Santa when your child is in their brightest, best mood. You won’t want to go during nap time or close to bedtime. Some parents out there wonder why their 3-year-old is pitching a fit about going to see Santa at 9:30 at night. You’ll have better results if you can arrange your schedule for a well-timed morning visit.

4. Sugar High

Avoid sweets, ice cream, sugary cookies, candy, and sodas in the couple of hours before your visit to meet Santa. We all see how sugar affects our children’s moods. An apple, crackers, or string cheese as a snack will help you have a better visit! And hungry kids are likelier to act out.

5. What NOT to Say Before Meeting Santa

Be careful not to paint a scary picture of Saint Nick beforehand. If you prep your child by saying, “Don’t be afraid, Santa’s not going to hurt you,” you’ve introduced a possibility that may never have occurred to him. Instead, talk about how fun it will be, and show your child a picture of a sibling or a cousin perched happily on Santa’s lap.

Here are some words and phrases that you should try to avoid saying: “Now, don’t CRY.” “Don’t be AFRAID.” “Santa is not SCARY!”…

I suggest you do a lot of giggling, laughing, and smiling. DO say: “This is SO MUCH FUN!” “I like Santa!” “Santa is so nice.” “Look at all the pretty lights!” If you are going to “program” your child, do it with positive concepts that set the tone for the impending visit.

6. Go at a Slow Pace/ Your Child’s Pace

Little toddler girl with mother on Christmas market.

Allow your child to get warmed up to meeting Santa on their terms. This may mean a couple of pre-visits (watching Santa from afar) before your child willingly gets onto Santa’s lap. That’s fine! Your goal is slow and steady, with no trauma. However long it takes your child to get seated is not a reflection of you being a bad/good parent. Every child is different. Every Santa is different. Bells, lights, Christmas music, and this huge, red-suited, hairy guy are holiday traditions that our families taught us all. It’s unfamiliar territory to your little one, so enjoy the process!

Also, children’s perception of time is very different from ours, so walk away, do some window shopping, and return 20 minutes later… To a child, it’s now a whole new day! Try again. Perhaps your child will get close enough for a “high 5” or a fist bump this time rather than just watching from afar. Keep working at it! Get a little closer each time.

7. Be Santa’s Helper

Talk to Santa one-on-one to help your child grow more accustomed to him. Have your spouse, a family member, or a trusted friend distract your child for a moment while you have a little chat with Santa. Explain your child’s fears and offer suggestions on how he can reassure your child. Tell him the name of your family pet or your child’s favorite toy or activity so he can bring it up in conversation. He can say something like, “Your mom told me you’ve been doing so well in soccer this year,” or “Mommy said you have a dog named Barkley. Tell me about him.”

8. Parents & Siblings

If you have older children, allow your little ones to watch their older siblings as they visit with Santa. Let your child assimilate on their own the concept that “visiting with Santa is fun.” If you do not have older children, when you get to the front of the line, ask if your child can watch a few other children as they visit Santa before you and your child take your turn.

9. Be a Good Example

Let your child watch as YOU go up and greet and hug Santa. Sit next to Santa for a moment so your child understands you are signaling this is a “safe” situation. Call your child onto your lap. Place your child on the far knee, away from Santa, using you as a safety buffer between your child and Santa. Perhaps getting the candy cane treat is the next great achievement. Take the candy and say your goodbyes. Success at this stage may be having a shorter, happy experience. That’s fine! Next time, the child may even go up alone if they see a parent’s reassuring face nearby. By age 4, most children will go willingly to Santa as they understand the request & receive concept by then.

10. Do’s and Don’ts of Meeting Santa

As a quick recap and some extra pointers, here are my recommendations to help your child ease into the Santa visit and make it a good experience for all:

  • DO read books with pictures of Santa to your child days before your visit. It gets them used to seeing jolly old Saint Nick.
  • DON’T have picture day with Santa at the mall on the weekends. Crowds, chaos, and Christmas don’t mix well.
  • DO take them a few days earlier to see the layout of Santa’s house and to show them other kids interacting with Santa.
  • DON’T be uptight and stressed. A child can sense what you’re feeling and will react the same way.
  • DO dress them in comfortable clothing. The fancy dress and bow tie may look cute but may not be so comfortable, adding to your child’s stress.
  • DO talk to them when you’re in line. Talk about how much fun you’re having, and maybe glance over the book you shared earlier.
  • DO distract your child if you hear another child with Santa crying. Start singing a Christmas carol and have them join in.
  • DON’T let someone else grab your child to put them on Santa’s lap. The grabbing scares a child, and when it’s a stranger doing it — it impacts the fear.
  • DON’T force a child to sit on Santa’s lap if they don’t want to. It sends the wrong message and could make your child fear Santa in the future.
  • DON’T yell or get angry with your child because they’re upset. That confuses them because they know you as their protector.
  • DO comfort your child if they’re upset, and tell them, “It’s ok.” Leave the area right away, but don’t panic.
  • Remember, there’s always next year. 🙂

All in all, don’t expect perfection. Parents tend to have high expectations at this time of year for how everything should go. Don’t be disappointed if the photo doesn’t work out as you had hoped. What now seems like a missed opportunity for a “perfect” picture with Santa may become a special photo in future years because it captured that visit to Santa.

Happy holidays!

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