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How to Conceive a Certain Gender

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by Nina Spears

The Baby Chick®: Pregnancy, Birth & Postpartum Expert

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If you and your partner have decided to start a family, congratulations! This is a huge decision, and now that you both are ready for this major life change, the fun can now begin. 🙂 But really, let’s be honest. I’m sure at least one of you is secretly hoping for a certain gender. There’s nothing wrong with that. That’s very normal. For generations, women have been exchanging ideas about how to increase their chances of having either a boy or a girl. The unfortunate thing is there is no actual medical evidence that any of these tips work. Bummer, I know. But it doesn’t hurt to try, right? Right! So if… Read More

If you and your partner have decided to start a family, congratulations! This is a huge decision, and now that you both are ready for this major life change, the fun can now begin. 🙂 But really, let’s be honest. I’m sure at least one of you is secretly hoping for a certain gender. There’s nothing wrong with that. That’s very normal. For generations, women have been exchanging ideas about how to increase their chances of having either a boy or a girl. The unfortunate thing is there is no actual medical evidence that any of these tips work. Bummer, I know. But it doesn’t hurt to try, right? Right! So if you want to try to tip the scales towards one gender over the other, here are some fun suggestions/old wives’ tales to give a go while you are practicing the fun. Here we go! Here’s how to conceive a certain gender.

Ways to Improve Your Chances for Having a Girl:

Timing is Everything

According to The Shettles Method developed by Dr. Landrum Shettles in the 1960s, X-chromosome (female), sperm swim slower than Y-chromosome (male) sperm, and they live longer than male sperm. Because of this, you don’t want to wait until you’re ovulating if you want a girl. You want to plan to do the deed two or more days before you ovulate so that the male sperm will die off before reaching the egg.

Chinese Lunar Calendar

This is an ancient tool that many women have used, and it has been said to be more than 90 percent accurate. Awesome! You want to try to actively conceive on the months that say you will conceive a girl using this Chinese Lunar Calendar. And if you want to make it easier on yourself, visit our Chinese Gender Calendar Prediction test here to find out your prediction!

Don’t Orgasm

I know, I know. That’s no fun. But it’s been said that women’s orgasms actually move sperm closer to the cervix. Since male sperm travel faster, this can give male sperm a head start to the egg. It does suck, but he can make it up to you once you become pregnant. 😉

Make Love More Often

It’s believed that the more often you have sex with your partner, the lower his sperm count will be. This then increases your chances of the female sperm reaching the egg first. Not only that, make sure to keep penetration shallow. Think about keeping things romantic and making love softly and sweetly. Certain positions (like the missionary position) make the chances of having a girl stronger.

Diet Changes

Eating certain foods can potentially improve your chances of having a girl. Salt is supposedly not good for trying to conceive a girl, so remove salt from your diet. Here’s a list of things to eat and not eat:

DO: Drink milk and eat dairy products such as cheese and yogurt. Eat unsalted foods, certain vegetables, rice, pasta, mineral water, limited amounts of meat, and potatoes.

DON’T: Avoid wine, beer, salt, and any salty foods, spinach, tomatoes, mushrooms, fresh fruit, chocolate, coffee, and tea.

Tighty Whities, Please

Have your partner wear boxer briefs or tighty whities and tight pants to keep his genitals closer to his body. The temperature of the testes is the issue. Since the temperature of the testes must be lower than the core body temperature, the closer it is to the body, the warmer it gets, and the lower sperm count he will have, which increases your chances for a girl.

Random

There’s a random old wives’ tale that also says that you should make love in the afternoon and on even days of the month to conceive a girl.

Ways to Improve Your Chances for Having a Boy:

Track Your Ovulation

Since male sperm travel faster and don’t live as long as female sperm, have sex on the day of ovulation.

Less Sex

You want your partner to have a high sperm count, so if you are having sex frequently, this is dropping that number. It is believed that male sperm are not as strong as female sperm, so the higher the sperm count, the more chance there is of a male sperm reaching the egg first. So avoid sex for a week before ovulation and then only have sex once on ovulation day, to keep the sperm count high. And make sure he is staying away from saunas and hot tubs.

Have an Orgasm BEFORE Your Partner Does

When women orgasm, it releases an alkaline fluid, which is thought to be more male-sperm friendly since it lessens the vagina’s natural acidity, and it helps bring sperm closer to the cervix. So make sure he holds off so you can orgasm first before he does.

Acidic-free Diet

As said earlier, acidic conditions are said to kill male sperm. You might want to try an alkaline diet a few weeks before conception. Also, increasing your sodium and potassium is suggested for those trying to conceive boys.

Things to eat: salty food, lots of meat, fish, white flour, pasta, and fresh fruit

Say No to Cardio

You read that right! You actually can slow down on the cardio. You’re welcome. It’s been said that weight loss sways more toward baby girls, so hit the weights to maintain your weight and muscle mass.

Make Your Bedroom a Red Room

Yes, I’m referring to 50 shades of grey. It’s believed that when a couple has wilder sex and are in positions that provide deeper penetration (like doggy-style), this gives the faster male sperm a head start since these positions are closer to the cervix.

Caffeine

Drink up, dads! Have your partner drink a caffeinated beverage before you guys have sex. It is thought to make the male sperm more active.

Boxers Not Briefs

Your partner needs to keep his genitals cool by wearing boxer shorts and loose-fitting trousers to keep the testes temperature lower to improve the quantity and quality of sperm.

No Smoking or Drinking

If your partner drinks and smokes, it’s time to stop. Men who smoke and drink heavily are more likely to have low sperm count, which lowers your chances of conception, especially a boy. Additionally, marijuana has been shown to have a similar effect as cigarettes when it comes to sperm count. Cocaine and other types of hard drugs are also known to lower sperm production.

Random

There’s a random old wives’ tale that also says that you should make love at night and on odd days of the month to conceive a boy.

Did you try any of these tips to conceive a certain gender? Did they work for you? We want to know!