How to Conceive a Certain Gender

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How to Conceive a Certain Gender

If you and your partner have decided to start a family, congratulations! This is a huge decision and now that you both are ready for¬†this major life change, the fun can now begin. ūüôā But really, let’s be honest.¬†I’m sure at least one of you is secretly hoping for a certain gender. There’s nothing wrong with that. That’s very normal. For generations¬†women have been exchanging ideas about how to increase their chances of having either a boy or a girl. The unfortunate thing is there is no actual medical evidence that any of these tips¬†work. Bummer, I know.¬†But it doesn’t hurt to try, right? Right! So if you want to try to¬†tip the scales¬†towards one gender¬†over the other, here are some fun suggestions/old wives’ tales to give a go¬†while you are practicing¬†the fun. Here we go! Here’s how to conceive a certain gender.

Ways to Improve Your Chances for Having a Girl:

  • Timing is Everything
    • According to¬†The Shettles Method¬†developed by Dr. Landrum Shettles in the 1960s, X-chromosome (female) sperm swim¬†slower than Y-chromosome (male) sperm and they live longer than male sperm. Because of this,¬†you don’t want to wait until you’re ovulating if you want¬†a girl. You want to plan to do the deed two or more days before you ovulate so that the male sperm will die off before reaching the egg.
  • Chinese¬†Lunar Calendar
    • This is an ancient tool that many women have used and it has been said to be more than 90 percent accurate. Awesome! You want to¬†try to actively conceive on the months that say you will conceive a girl using this¬†Chinese Lunar Calendar.
  • Don’t Orgasm
    • I know, I know. That’s no fun. But it’s been said that women’s orgasms actually move sperm closer to the cervix. Since male sperm travel faster, this can give male sperm¬†a head start to the egg.¬†It does suck, but he can make it up to you once you become pregnant. ūüėČ
  • Make Love¬†More Often
    • It’s believed that the more often you have sex with your partner, the lower his sperm count will be. This then increases your chances of the female sperm reaching the egg first. Not only that, make sure to keep¬†penetration shallow. Think about keeping things romantic and making love softly and sweetly. Certain positions (like the missionary position)¬†make the chances of having a girl stronger.
  • Diet Changes
    • Eating certain foods can potentially improve your chances of having a girl. Salt is supposedly not good for trying to conceive¬†a girl so remove salt from your diet. Here’s a list of things to eat and not eat:
      • DO: Drink milk and eat dairy products such as cheese and yogurt. Eat unsalted foods,¬†certain vegetables, rice, pasta, mineral water, limited amounts of meat and potatoes.
      • DON’T:¬†Avoid¬†wine, beer, salt and any salty foods, spinach, tomatoes, mushrooms, fresh fruit, chocolate, coffee and tea.
  • Tighty Whities, Please
    • Have your partner wear boxer briefs or tighty whities and tight pants to keep his genitals closer to his body.¬†The temperature of the testes is the¬†issue. Since¬†the temperature of testes must be lower than the core¬†body temperature, the closer it is to the body the warmer it gets and the lower sperm count he will have which increases your chances for a girl.
  • Random
    • There’s a random old wives’ tale that also says that you should make love in the afternoon and¬†on even days of the month to conceive a girl.

Ways to Improve Your Chances for Having a Boy:

  • Track Your Ovulation
    • Since male sperm travel faster and don’t live as long as female sperm, have sex on the day of¬†ovulation.
  • Less¬†Sex
    • You want your partner to have¬†a high sperm count so if you are having sex frequently, this is dropping that number. It is believed that¬†male sperm are not as strong as female sperm so the higher the sperm count, the more chance there is of a male sperm reaching the egg first. So¬†avoid sex for a week before ovulation and then only have sex once on ovulation day, to keep the sperm count high. And make sure he is staying away from saunas and hot tubs.
  • Have an Orgasm BEFORE Your Partner Does
    • When women orgasm it releases an alkaline fluid which is thought to be more male-sperm friendly since it lessens the vagina’s natural acidity and it helps bring sperm closer to the cervix. So make sure he holds off so you can orgasm first before he¬†does.
  • Acidic-free Diet
    • As said earlier, acidic conditions are said to kill male¬†sperm. You might want to¬†try an alkaline diet a few weeks before conception. Also increasing¬†your sodium and potassium is suggested for those trying to conceive¬†boys.
    • Things to eat: Salty food, lots of¬†meat, fish, white flour, pasta, and fresh fruit.
  • Say No to Cardio
    • You read that right! You actually can slow down on the cardio. You’re welcome. It’s been said that weight loss sways more toward baby girls so hit the weights to maintain your weight and muscle mass.
  • Make Your Bedroom a¬†Red Room
    • Yes, I’m referring to 50 shades of grey. It’s believed that when a couple has wilder sex and are in positions that provide deeper penetration (like doggy-style), this gives the faster male sperm a head start since these positions are closer to the cervix.
  • Caffeine
    • Drink up, dads!¬†Have your partner¬†drink a caffeinated beverage before you guys have¬†sex. It is thought¬†to make the male sperm more active.
  • Boxers Not¬†Briefs
    • Your partner needs to keep his genitals cool by wearing boxer shorts and loose-fitting trousers to keep the testes temperature lower to improve the quantity and quality of sperm.
  • No Smoking or Drinking
    • If your partner drinks and smokes, it’s time to stop. Men who smoke and drink heavily are more likely to have low sperm count which lowers your chances of conception, especially a boy.¬†And obviously, don’t take illegal drugs. Marijuana has been shown to have a similar effect as cigarettes when it comes to sperm count and cocaine and other types of hard drugs are also known to lower¬†sperm production.
  • Random
    • There’s a random old wives’ tale that also says that you should make love at night and on odd days of the month to conceive a boy.

Did you try any of these tips to conceive a certain gender? Did they work for you? We want to know!

About the Author /

Nina is The Baby Chick¬ģ & CEO of Baby Chick¬ģ. She is a baby planner, birth doula, postpartum doula, childbirth educator, newborn care specialist, and a mother. With over eight years of experience, she has supported hundreds of families during their pregnancies, births, and postpartum journeys.

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