Why You Should Focus on Your Oldest Child, Too

The most valuable kiss in the world. Mother and son on playground. Close up.

Why You Should Focus on Your Oldest Child, Too

It’s 8 pm and you have a newborn crying in your arms. They haven’t stopped since dinner and you’re feeling desperate and tense. So you do what any mother of multiple children does and you cry out to your oldest (four-year-old) for help:

“Hey, love. Can you grab me a diaper for your sister and also can you turn the sound machine on? Oh yeah, and while you’re at it, can you bring mommy a water?”

They sweetly oblige and you thank them for being your biggest helper. Finally, after the baby falls asleep, you go and tuck them in. They don’t complain but tell you they are glad the little one finally fell asleep because “the crying was getting old.”

You both laugh together because you feel the same way as your preschooler. It’s like you’ve just debriefed with a fellow comrade whose gone through an epic battle with you. One that still wears a pull up at night, mind you.

But you feel better knowing you’re not alone and within a few minutes, your laugher turns to snores as you fall into a sleep-deprived mother coma next to your first child that inducted you into the club years before.

Advantages of being an oldest child:

Awww. There’s nothing quite like being the oldest child in the family. And it’s relatively easy to make an argument why it might be the best birth order spot. And here’s why:

  • You get to be the first one to have all the attention focused just on you.
  • You get to have your parents when they have the most energy. (Any older parents saying Amen to that?!)
  • You get to be the first to do everything.
  • And you get to have a special relationship with your parents that is different than the relationship they have with the younger children.

Disadvantages of being an oldest child:

All of these realities make being the oldest seem pretty appealing. But along with these advantages, I think it’s important for parents to remember that it can be hard to be the oldest, too. And here’s why:

  • You have higher expectations placed on you. 
  • Oftentimes you are expected to be a helper to your parents more than your younger siblings are.
  • You are expected to be the example for your younger siblings.
  • You often get less attention than littler siblings because you are already doing the right thing and behaving.

So what’s my point?

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Why you should take the time to focus on your oldest child:

Well, all of these reasons are good reminders to me why I want to make sure I take time out to focus on my oldest child (or older sons, in my case). Because it’s easy to forget how much our children need us when we have a new baby in our arms.

Or toddler. Preschooler. Or anyone younger than them. (Do you feel me?)

I cannot tell you how many times I have cringed looking back at the expectations I had on my first son when he was JUST 2 and 3 once his little brother came along. And then again after his two other siblings came along after that. I’ll just say it like this: I thought meltdowns should be over by four.

When he was five, I looked at that age as SO old. But now that my third son is six, I feel like five is still a BABY! And I treat my now 3-year-old as if he’s an infant at times because now I see how little 3 is compared to age 11. It’s all truly just perspective.

But here’s the kicker.

When my youngest is 11, I will have an 18-year-old and think 11 isn’t so old after all, which is why I want to encourage each and every one of us to take time to thank our oldest children for all they do. And to take time out to focus on them in the age they still are.

They still aren’t grown and still need you just as much.

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We often forget that we expect them to do a lot for our families, but we also expect them to submit to our authority and listen to us too. And that can be hard and tricky if one moment we are treating them like an adult and the next moment we are treating them like a child. All in all, it’s just a unique role. So they deserve some TLC from us when we get the chance.

And here’s three simple ideas for you to make that happen.

Three ways to focus on your oldest child:

1. Take them out for ice cream every month on the day of their birthday.

So if their birthday is July 16, then you take them out for ice cream on the 16th of each month. You use this as a quality time date where you chat with them and catch up on life with them. (This is also just a great idea in general as a way to have quality time with each child every month.)

2. Go on a trip just with your oldest child.

Let this be a special trip that involves things that you would not want to do with your littler kids. This can be a one-night staycation in your hometown where your hubby stays home with the baby and other children and you take your oldest somewhere. Whatever it is, the point is to build them up for being the mature one. 

3. Keep a journal out for your oldest child to write messages to you.

Here’s a creative way to focus on your oldest child! Let this journal be a place where they can connect with you and where you can connect with them. Write affirmations to them. Draw them pictures. Write them poems. Let it be a fun place of interaction. You can do one for each school year or just have one that you write in periodically. No matter what way you do it, just affirm them for being them. If their younger siblings can’t write yet, this will surely make them feel BIG. And because you love them BIG, it’s a great way to show it.

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Cheers to loving on our oldest kids.

About the Author /

Quinn is a wife, boy mom (x’s 4), blogger at Sanctification and Spitup, host of the Renew You Podcast and licensed marriage and family therapist. She loves to encourage others in relationships through her speaking, writing or podcast episodes.

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“I breastfed my first child so I knew I wanted to #breastfeed again. People were skeptical about me #breastfeeding triplets, and this drove my determination! 💪 My boys were born at 29+3 and therefore it was so important for them to have #breastmilk! 🤱
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After having an emergency C-section, I knew there was no time to rest, so I started hand expressing within the first hour. I set an alarm to ensure that I expressed every 2 hours during the day and every 3 hours overnight. ⏰
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Being separated from my boys was hard so having pictures/video links helped whilst I expressed. Seeing my teeny, vulnerable babies in their little incubators drove my determination to provide them with my milk! I also rotated muslin squares between us so that I could smell them and vice versa. This also helped me whilst I expressed during the night away from my boys. Their smell on the swaddles kept me focused! 💙
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Twice during our #NICU journey my boys were split between hospitals over an hour apart! This was the hardest time and meant I was separated from 2 of my boys for a couple of days. During this time I kept up with expressing and ensured that all three of them had enough milk to take with them until we were all reunited.
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Looking back I feel it is my sheer determination that has really enabled me to successfully breastfeed my triplet boys! Not once have they needed donor or formula milk. It required a massive commitment both physically and emotionally but I am so proud of my achievement! My boys are now 11 months and are still breastfeeding." ❤️
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*This story is not to bring any mothers down that choose to formula feed. (I, personally, had to give my son formula at 7 months old!) We share this mother's story to inspire mothers and celebrate our victories! ✨
If you are having breastfeeding struggles and want to succeed, contact a good local IBCLC and receive support. Find new mom friends who are also breastfeeding who can encourage you. And if you choose to formula feed, we honor you too. 💕 #mommychick
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If you’ve ever typed into Google, “Why won’t my baby sleep?” you’re not alone. In fact, you’re among thousands of other parents/caregivers who are likely as tired as you are. Chances are, if you have gone down the Google rabbit hole at 2:00 a.m. (or just asked your pediatrician for sleep advice), then you’ve most likely been introduced to the concept of a bedtime routine.⁠
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A bedtime routine can be an incredibly helpful tool in establishing healthy sleep habits and good sleep hygiene. Infants and young children thrive on routine; in fact, they are comforted by predictability (spoiler alert: most adults are this way, too!). Plus, a young mind is exposed to so much new information every day that it’s reassuring for a child to know that they can depend on certain events to have a predictable structure.⁠
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Bedtime routines are also a cue to their brains and bodies that sleep is coming. With a predictable bedtime routine, your little one will start to recognize the order of the routine and begin to anticipate what comes next. With enough repetition, this process happens automatically in a very Pavlovian way. A calm and successive routine will also make the onset of sleep come more easily. Can you imagine if you walked out of your workout and immediately someone told you that you had to lay down and fall asleep? This would be nearly impossible, and the same is true for our little ones. By allowing them some time to unwind, you are making the falling asleep process that much easier. Here are some tips on what to do for your little one's bedtime. ❤️⁠ {Click 🔗 in bio to read more!}⁠
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🤗 7 Tips for Raising Secure and Happy Kids 🤗 🤗 7 Tips for Raising Secure and Happy Kids 🤗⁠
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Parenting is hard. And ever so important. But sometimes it feels like we need to have a special degree in “Managing Toddler Mood Swings” to navigate some of the unexpected scenarios that come with raising secure and happy children.⁠
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Like how do we handle a child that likes to scream instead of talk?⁠
“Please, child, just lower your voice while we’re in Target.”⁠
Or what are we supposed to do when a child prefers to strip down every time we get them dressed or only eat foods that are the color blue?! (In case you’re wondering, there aren’t many blue foods.)⁠
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It can feel tricky and tiring to try and do it all right and then sometimes still feel like you’re at a loss. But the truth is, there’s never any way to make everything perfect. But there are things we can do that set our children up to feel secure and happy. And here are seven of my favorite tips. {Click 🔗 in bio to read more!}⁠
📷: @lauren.stewart_dc⁠
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Any oldie but goodie by @spiritysol⁠. ❤️⁠ Any oldie but goodie by @spiritysol⁠. ❤️⁠
Cesarean mamas--this one's for you. I hope you know that you are worthy. That you are such a warrior. That you are brave and powerful and strong as f✨ck. I hope you know that birthing your baby on an operating table makes you no less of a mother. No less of a goddess. Your birth story is holy and that beautiful scar on your belly is sacred as sh✨t. You are worthy of praise and celebration, honor and  admiration.⁠
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I hope that you know it was worth it. Knowing this does NOT mean you can't mourn your dream. It does NOT mean "you and your baby are safe--that's all that matters!" It does NOT mean you can't wish things had gone differently. But I hope that underneath it all, you can find beauty in what was. What is. Your baby. Your birth. Your strength. Your healing. Your story.⁠
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Your journey wasn't easy. Perhaps it unfolded much differently than you had hoped--perhaps it shook you to your core and left you feeling the immense weight of a "what if" and why".⁠
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Perhaps you're still wading through the heavy emotions of disappointment, anger, and grief. Perhaps you always will. But whatever feelings you hold in your heart and in your womb, I hope that you can look at your scar and say "Hell yes, it was worth it. And hell ya, I am worthy."⁠
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*This post was written for mamas who might be struggling with an unexpected or undesired cesarean birth. I recognize that there are mamas that choose to have planned/elective cesarean births who might not resonate with the message in this post. I honor them as well--as I honor all mothers, all women, and all beings.⁠
Words & 📷: @spiritysol⁠
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Because I gave him the wrong colored cup . . . whi Because I gave him the wrong colored cup . . . which is the color he originally asked for.⁠
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(quote via @HenpeckedHal via Twitter)⁠
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Hope they're ready for us!⁠ 👯‍♀️⁠
📷: @myquestionablelife⁠
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" . . . Tears contain stress hormones. Why would w " . . . Tears contain stress hormones. Why would we have tears if they didn't serve a purpose? Little hurts can feel big when you are little. There is no such things as no reason to cry. Comforting a crying child is not the same as shutting them down, no matter how sweetly we shut them down . . . up actually." - Pam Leo⁠
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"Every diaper change is a struggle⁠ Goldfish cru "Every diaper change is a struggle⁠
Goldfish crumbs are literally everywhere.⁠
Nothing stays in the correct place.⁠
Dramatic meltdowns are a part of our daily routine.⁠
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Being a mother to a new toddler is so challenging, and every day I'm not sure what to expect! But, even on the days where I think I'm going nuts, it's so worth getting to watch my daughter grow into her own person. I love seeing her personality expand with each day.⁠
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I won't lie though, I do get a tad bit freaked out sometimes! I mean I've never heard anyone nail the sound of a pterodactyl better than my daughter, when she's having a meltdown. 😂😳"⁠
Repost: @postpartum⁠
Words & 📷: @tori.mccain⁠
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Share your worst/funniest toddler meltdown stories below! I'm sure almost all of us mamas who have a toddler can relate. 🙋⁠
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That's my kind of mom friend. 😂 Tag that mama w That's my kind of mom friend. 😂 Tag that mama who is your happy safe person. ❤️⁠
📷: @lifeandtimesofmom⁠
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8 Ways to Beat the Winter Blues When You're Stuck 8 Ways to Beat the Winter Blues When You're Stuck Inside⁠
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⁠When the snow first starts falling, it’s a great feeling. Your house is cozy inside, school is cancelled—three cheers for a snow day! The kids are excited and you can’t help but feel some excitement, too. However, after a few days of being snowed in, we can all start to get a bit stir crazy, especially with our littles cooped up at home with us. We're sharing eight creative ways to beat those winter blues when you feel like you’re stuck indoors! {Click 🔗 in bio to continue reading!}⁠
📷: @cecileadams⁠
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Where do I sign up for my parenting punchcard? 🙋‍♀️⁠
📷: @momtransparenting⁠
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Whatever you gotta do to get in some self care, ma Whatever you gotta do to get in some self care, mama. 💁‍♀️😂⁠
(quote via @fruitsofmotherhood)⁠
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But in 2020 🤔🤔🤔😂😂😂😂⁠ jk
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