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Essential Tips and Advice for New Parents

When you have a baby it seems that everyone, from family members to strangers, have opinions. Here is some of the best advice for new parents.

Updated May 2, 2024

by Natalie Cook

Certified Reading Specialist and Early Childhood Educator

When you bring your baby home, you will feel various emotions. Excited, worried, tired, and overwhelmed, to name a few. Wouldn’t it be nice if you were provided with a ‘Best Advice for New Parents’ manual? Although this manual doesn’t exist, having one simple book to answer all your questions would be nice!

I’m sure you have already received advice from well-meaning family members, co-workers, and friends. Every parent remembers what it was like to bring home that tiny bundle of joy. As a first-time mom, I look back at those early days with misty eyes and a smile. It truly does fly by!

Must-Know Tips and Advice for New Parents

There is so much information at our fingertips that it can sometimes be overwhelming. I have listed the best advice for new parents to hopefully help ease any anxieties you may have.

1. Don’t Be Afraid to Ask for Help

You’ve heard the old African proverb, “It takes a village to raise a child.” This still holds today! You might feel guilty for asking for help, but believe me, people want to help. It’s in our human nature to help and care for others. You will likely hear from family members and friends who want to help you. Let them! It’s not possible to do everything alone. Whether it’s your mother-in-law doing the dishes, your brother dropping off dinner, or your friend helping with the laundry, don’t be afraid to let your village help you.

2. Take Time for Yourself

Taking care of yourself is essential to being a good mom and parent. You will have many rewarding and joyful moments with your newborn, but it’s an all-consuming job that can leave you feeling burned out and stressed. It’s important to continue to do things you loved pre-baby to feel balanced and fulfilled. This could be reading a book, going out to dinner with friends, going to the gym, or simply catching up on your favorite reality television shows.

3. Sleep

One of the first pieces of advice I heard from a family member was, “Sleep when the baby sleeps!” I rolled my eyes because once my baby boy fell asleep, all I could see were the piles of laundry, the dirty dishes, and the clutter piling up. I thought there was no way I could sleep when there was so much to get done around the house.

My mom told me, “The laundry and the dishes can wait. You must sleep to feel rested and ready to care for your son.” Once I heard that, I realized she was right. I need to sneak in as much sleep as possible to be the best mom I can be. This is when your village will come in handy! Ask a family member or friend to care for the baby while you get some well-deserved rest. Remember, don’t be afraid to ask for help! People want to help you just as much as they want to hold that baby.

4. Trust Your Instincts

In the beginning, you will want to do everything perfectly. You may question yourself constantly, blocking you from listening to yourself. So much of parenthood is instinctual. You are that baby’s parent, no one else! Every baby is different, and your way of caring for your baby is not wrong. Do what works best for you and your family.

5. Take Pictures and Make Memories

It may not seem like it now, but your tiny, snuggly baby will one day leave your arms and walk, run, and climb all over the house. One thing I wish I had done is to take more pictures and videos of myself holding my baby. Don’t get me wrong, I have plenty of pictures and videos of him. But I don’t have as many WITH him. A lot of this had to do with my self-esteem during that time. I didn’t feel I looked my best, so I refused to be in many pictures. Now I realize the messy bun and the dark under-eye circles perfectly encapsulated those first weeks and months as a new parent. Don’t be afraid to be in the picture. You will love looking back at them one day. I promise!

6. Expect Stress

The first few weeks and months of being a new parent will be stressful. You know this, and knowledge is power! Remember that everything is a phase, although some sleepless nights seem endless. It feels like forever when you’re in it, but it will pass. Some days will be more challenging than others, but remember that every day gets easier as you get into a routine. You are becoming a better parent every day. Be patient with yourself and ask for help when you need it.

7. Don’t Compare

If you compare your baby to other babies, you miss out on what makes your baby special. You might see on social media that your childhood friend’s baby is sleeping through the night or your cousin’s baby is sitting up unassisted. This could make you feel worried about your baby. Knowing that every baby has different needs, personalities, and strengths is important. Try to focus on all the amazing and wonderful things your baby is doing instead of comparing them to others. Don’t be afraid to contact your pediatrician with questions or concerns. You know your baby best!

8. Find a Tribe

Parenthood can feel isolating at times. You’re so wrapped up in this incredible life change that you feel like you’re the only person going through this situation. The truth is that everyone needs a support system. As a new parent, it’s important that you find others who know what you’re going through and can provide love, support, and laughter during challenging moments. Try joining a local Facebook group that can connect you with other parents. Social apps such as Peanut and Meerkat are also available for finding new parent friends. Having a group of parent friends to share stories with and ask questions will let you know you are not alone in your struggles.

9. Remember, You’re Amazing!

Perhaps the most critical piece of advice for new parents is to be kind to yourself. Take a deep breath and know that you’re doing a great job. Your baby won’t remember if you make a mistake. Keep on going and give yourself lots of grace because you’re learning a new role in life. There is no better parent for that baby than you!

Those are some of my best advice for new parents. If you take anything from this article, please know you are doing an amazing job. If you are struggling, don’t hesitate to reach out for help. Your baby is loved, safe, and lucky to have you. You are the perfect parent for your baby!

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Natalie Cook Certified Reading Specialist and Early Childhood Educator
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Natalie Cook graduated from the University of Arkansas at Little Rock with a Bachelor's in Early Childhood Education and a Master's in Reading Education. She is a certified Reading Specialist… Read more

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