An Open Letter to My Son’s Father
You (along with myself and the general population of America) probably know next to nothing about the history of Father’s Day. Started as a response to Mother’s Day and a tribute to Sonora Dodd’s widowed & single dad of SIX, Father’s Day didn’t quite gain in popularity as immediately as Mother’s Day had. Now, that’s funny, right? You’d think that fathers everywhere would be ECSTATIC to be showered with gifts and adoration, right?! Wrong. Turns out, in the beginning of the 20th century, men felt that Father’s Day was emasculating and as one historian found “…they scoffed at the holiday’s attempts to domesticate manliness with flowers and gift-giving…” (Read more about Father’s Day here.)
Well. Screw THAT. Whether you’re of that camp or not, I think it’s high time I sing your praises..and on a public platform to boot! Sure, I hear often about the hard jobs mommas have in raising the littles. How we learn early on (although it’s a long crafted skill…) how to juggle one million things and our heads ache from the weight of so many hats. And yet somewhere in there is also a wildly successful, supportive partner. One who seems to go unsung far too often, or be poked at playfully in social media. While your hats may not stack up as high as mine, they are of equal value and so today I’m going to make a small attempt at expressing my gratitude and highlighting what YOU bring to OUR table.
- You leave each day to provide for our family even when I can see you just want to snuggle up with us. You love getting photos of our outings throughout the day and respond with enthusiasm..even when I know you wish with every fiber that you could be there instead of at work.
- You work so hard to afford me the gift of raising our son at home. You see the immeasurable value in the time I get to spend with him and don’t make me feel resented for walking away from a dual-income lifestyle.
- You take over like a champ. While I may leave instructions and a meal plan for days I’m away, you ultimately forge your own way and create bonds with our son.
- You give me “breaks”. I can’t remember an instance where you’ve complained or balked at my need for a little “me” time. You pick up right where I’ve left off and never skip a beat.
- You’re playful and hands-on. Oh man. The laughter between you two is infectious and brings tears to my eyes as I write this! Fischer may be too young to remember the tickles and the games you play with him, but I will never forget them. You’re not afraid to be goofy or embarrassing when it comes to entertaining him.
- You don’t freak out when Fischer loses his cool in public. You keep me sane when I want to rush out of the restaurant at his first screech. Public opinion, be damned!
- You support my parenting choices but aren’t afraid to voice your own opinions. We’re in this together and I need to be reminded from time to time 🙂
- Boy stuff. A future thank-you for those times you’ll need to help Fisch in ways only a man can.
- You are and will continue to be an excellent role model for our kids in so many ways. Respecting others, respecting yourself and your health, punctuality, cleanliness (even if I do complain about having to live in a museum..)
- You love ME so well. One day our kids will have partners of their own and they’ll know how to love and not be afraid to show it because their daddy loved their mommy so big.
I could continue on until the end of time with the reasons why I am thankful to be walking this journey with you, but then, what would I write to you next year? Heehee. Fischer is one heck of a lucky little boy to have you as a daddy and I can’t wait to see how you continue to grow in that role.
To dads everywhere and those that fulfill the “dad” role, today is about thanking you for the incredible ways you support your families. I hope your day is filled with love, laughter, and great memories!