7 Ways to Connect with Your Son

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7 Ways to Connect with Your Son

I always knew I would have a son. I’m not sure why because I hail from a family of girls. But something inside of me knew I would someday be the mother of a little boy. Despite all that, once I was blessed with my baby boy, I was a bit confused to realize that I really didn’t know how to relate to a little boy. Being a girl, and already raising a girl, I felt relatively confident I knew how to connect with my daughter after a while. But learning how to connect with my son seemed a bit foreign. After my husband unexpectedly passed away and I was left a single mom, my lack of knowledge about connecting to boys felt even more distinct.

As my son grows from a baby into a boy, I have been delving more into the world of boys in hopes that I learn the best ways to connect with my sweet son as he gets older. Since I am his only living parent, I feel that need on an even deeper level now. He deserves to know that his mama not only loves him, but is deeply interested in who he is and what makes him tick.

7 Ways to Connect with Your Son

1. Work on a project together.

Boys, and men, often find it easier to have meaningful or intimate conversations while standing side-by-side. Face-to-face conversations tend to intimidate or threaten boys. If you want to connect to your son, try working side-by-side with him on a project like building a birdhouse or planting a garden.

2. Watch a movie of his choice together.

Watching a movie with your son is a great way to learn about what he’s interested in. You can also use it as an opportunity to discuss any interesting concepts or conflicts brought up in the movie. Boys love being asked what their opinion is on matters and by doing so you make him feel as though his ideas matter.

3. Play a game together to connect with your son.

Whether it’s chess or Scrabble, playing a game with your boy encourages him to use strategy and smarts to beat his mama at something fun. This is also a great way to connect with your son by getting him to open up and talk without him feeling threatened or interrogated.

4. Do a physical activity together.

Boys LOVE to get active! If you hadn’t noticed, boys move all the time. By engaging with him in one of his favorite activities, whether it’s a hike or a game of basketball or going bowling, he will appreciate you participating with him. Better yet, ask him to give you some pointers or help you get better. What boy doesn’t love to teach his mom a thing or two?

5. Play video games with him.

Boys love video games! If you’re like me, you don’t know anything about them. Asking your son to teach you how to play will probably make his day. Boys also love to compete and by playing a video game with him you’re giving him permission to try to beat his mom at something without getting in trouble! Playing video games together will also give you both a unique opportunity to collaborate on strategic ideas and problem-solve together.

6. Join him in something he loves.

Show your interest in learning about your son’s interest. If he’s obsessed with LEGOs, spend a few minutes building with him. If he loves to learn about dinosaurs, connect with your son by asking him to tell you everything he knows about the stegosaurus. Showing that you care about his passions will go a long way as he grows.

7. Connect with your son by roughhousing.

Moms in general are not very good at roughhousing. Personally, I am not a fan of getting on the floor and rolling around getting kneed in the ribs. But my son loves to pretend wrestle and get a little rough and tumble. If you think about it, roughhousing is essentially aggressive, interactive, high-trust play where nobody gets hurt. It may seem silly to moms, but rough play is important in teaching our sons confidence and self-control, and allows for emotional release in a playful way. If you can handle a little knee in the ribs, don’t be afraid to get down on the floor and roll around with your boy!

There are so many ways you can connect with your son, but these are a great start to creating a more meaningful bond with the boy who will soon become a man. We moms don’t have many years to enjoy our sons before they are off creating their own families, so connect with them as often as you can while you have the chance. He will grow up feeling more confident and comfortable coming to you as he gets older. And that is worth every knee to the rib.

About the Author /


Cheyenne is an attorney, writer, speaker and blogger with a slight obsession for home decor, red wine, and good coffee. Cheyenne’s blog, Sense & Serendipity, focuses on inspiring others to create a home well loved and a life well lived. Cheyenne lives in San Marcos, Texas with her two children, Aislin and Hawkins.

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