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Sarah Ring is a wife and mother of two southern gentlemen living in Dallas, TX, and a lover of all things home decor and party planning. To read more from Sarah, check out her blog at Bean & Beau.
My husband and I discussed what our future family would look like for years, even while we were just dating. Our vision was always the same. I wanted to be a SAHM for as long as I could remember and he entirely supported that decision. When that day came, I knew that my job search was officially over. I had finally found fulfillment in my “career;” I was made to be a mommy.
I’ve always had a job, a 9 to 5, a place to collect a paycheck. But when my feet hit the floor in the morning I always dreaded going into work. I knew it wasn’t what I was meant to do. It wasn’t my purpose. My husband has always loved his career, was passionate about his industry and now he owns his very own business doing exactly what he has always aspired to do. I never had that and I yearned for that same fulfillment. When we brought our son home from the hospital, I knew I was exactly where I needed to be.
SAHM was the first job title I have ever had that’s truly fit. But now that our first son is four, and our second son is two, life is beginning to look a bit different. They need me less every day and soon they will start preschool and Mother’s Day Out programs, and my house will be silent. Some days I rejoice in this fact, and other days I dread it! Totally mixed emotions about letting go and knowing they need school to grow.
As I reflected on these feelings, I realized one of my bigger concerns was how I was going to find fulfillment (and avoid boredom) in my days when my boys were not around. These suggestions are a work in progress, as I am still a work in progress myself. But I hope that if you are also walking this path, you will find them beneficial in your journey. Here are my suggestions for finding fulfillment in your days as a stay at home parent when your children are in school!
Plan Out Your Day…
When you had little ones at home, you most likely adhered to some form of a daily routine or schedule. Don’t toss that out as soon as the kids leave for school. Instead, adapt your existing schedule to accommodate for your new childfree hours. In that same token, don’t over schedule yourself either. A balance between quiet time and your “to-do” list is the ultimate #momgoals! My children attend preschool and Mother’s Day out three days a week. Here is a peek into a typical school day schedule for us.
Work It Out…
Do something that gets your booty moving! A brisk walk, a YouTube yoga video, or a spin class with friends, whatever works for you! Not only are there health benefits, but a good work out will provide a great mental distraction for those missing their preschoolers post drop-off.
Find A Cause…
Find something that’s bigger than you, that holds a special meaning to you and join up with a larger cause. Joining a bible study at your church, volunteering at your local animal shelter or even putting in a few hours of service at your neighborhood library can all be fulfilling ways to give back to your community in a meaningful way.
Blog About It…
This, this blog right here personally brings me so much joy every day. Sharing my stories, tips and mom hacks with all of you (a network of incredible mommy chicks!) makes me smile every single day. A blog can be a great resource to connect with other mamas going through this season of life with littles, who totally “get it”. If you’ve toyed with the idea of blogging, give it a shot! If a public post isn’t your thing, consider starting a private journal instead. I have truly found my voice through writing/blogging/journaling my journey through motherhood, and it’s one of the ways I am able to truly reflect and connect with amazing women around the world.
Part Time Passion Project…
Maybe you’re craving a creative outlet? Perhaps you’d like to be the proprietor of your very own work from home business? Finding a passion project that brings in some extra income is a fabulous way to have a “side hustle” from your SAHM gig. I have plenty of friends who have started selling skin care products, began personal training, or launched an Etsy shop all run while their kids are in school. This way they have a small income and still get to be first in line at carpool. Mom-preneurs, girl bosses, whatever you want to call them, they love what they do and you might, too!
Some Days, Every Once In A While, Just Do Nothing…
I know what you’re thinking, how can I simply “do nothing”? My mother actually said this to me, and I quickly rebutted. The house is a wreck, the car needs an oil change, I have to organize XYZ for (insert your child’s extracurricular here), etc. But she explained: As a stay at home parent, we often overextend ourselves to try to overcompensate for not having a job outside the home. I found this to be completely accurate in my own life. It’s nonsense I’m fully aware, but I take on every home project, every school happening, and every moment of my day is dedicated to some commitment I’ve made. I get stretched so thin and only have myself to blame.
This year, when my kids go back to school, sometimes I’m simply going to say “no” to doing more. I’m going to give myself the grace to just “do nothing” every once in a while — even if it’s just a half hour of silence. To read a book, to take a shower without an audience, to finally watch an episode of Game of Thrones. (I know, last person on earth who hasn’t seen it, I swear this motherhood thing really is a time suck, ha!) “Doing nothing” means shutting off my brain, silencing my thoughts and taking a brief mental time out to recharge. Give yourself permission to do this if you need to, it’s okay!
The best part of this momming thing? There is NO one single right way to find your joy in it. Your way is the best way for you and your family, and if you were seeking some fresh ideas for finding fulfillment while the littles are in class, I sincerely hope this provided some additional inspiration. So deep breaths as you drop off kids this fall…You got this, mama!