My Battle with Postpartum Depression

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My Battle with Postpartum Depression

We tried for seven months to get pregnant with our first baby. That doesn’t seem like a long time, looking back, but at the time it seemed like it took forever. When I finally saw those two pink lines on my pregnancy test I was so overwhelmed with joy and excitement, and those feelings lasted throughout my pregnancy.

You can imagine my surprise, then, when I struggled to find the slightest bit of joy in being a mother after our precious daughter was born. At first, my husband and I chalked it up to “baby blues.” I had a long and somewhat traumatic labor (over 40 hours!) and our baby was very colicky. I had a lot of trouble with breastfeeding and I wasn’t sleeping much, if at all, at night. And naps during the day? HA! Right. So it was only natural, we thought, that I would be feeling less than chipper about this new motherhood thing.

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Then the “unmotherly” thoughts started running through my head. Things like “this was a horrible mistake,” “can we take her back to the hospital,” “I’m not cut out for this,” “maybe I wasn’t meant to be a mother,” “how will I ever survive this.” I told my husband I felt like I was in mourning: for our old life, for what we had been as a couple before the baby, for being able to worry about myself and no one else. I told him I felt overwhelmed and very, very sad. He encouraged me to talk to our midwife and tell her how I was feeling. We had been told to watch for signs of depression and he felt that we needed to check in with her. But I refused.

Finally, around three months into being a mom, and after a night of trying to soothe an inconsolable screaming baby, my husband found me rocking our newborn while sobbing uncontrollably. Great, heaving sobs. He heard me from across the house and came to check on me. He laid his hand on my shoulder. He knew there was nothing he could say. There was nothing that needed to be said. “I can’t do this anymore,” I choked out between sobs.

My husband called our midwife the next day. He broke down on the phone as he described watching his strong, capable, tough-as-nails wife falling to pieces before his eyes. They conspired to set up a meeting for me to talk to my midwife the next day. At the meeting, she convinced me that my “baby blues” was, in fact, most likely postpartum depression; and that it was very important for me to get some help. We discussed my options and as much as I hated to do it, I chose to go on anti-depressants for as long as it took to get me over this hump. My midwife assured me that I could still breastfeed and that I wouldn’t have to be on the drugs longer than necessary. She also encouraged me to reach out to other moms or to ladies at my church and start building a support network of women to talk to. Both my husband and I left that meeting emotionally spent, but daring to see a glimmer of light at the end of the tunnel.

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I remained on anti-depressants for nine months after my first child was born and then, with the supervision of my doctor, I weaned off the medication. The weaning process was terrible. My doctor compared it to a drug addict trying to quit cocaine. Awesome, right? I was constantly dizzy or lightheaded. I was exhausted and felt weak. Emotionally, I was fragile, but I knew I was strong enough to continue the process. After about two months, I successfully weaned off the drugs and I was doing well.

But.

Then I got pregnant again. We had been trying but we expected it would take a while like it had the first time. It didn’t. Two months of trying and we were pregnant with our son. I was shocked and scared. Mostly because I wasn’t sure how I would handle a toddler and a newborn, but also because I was terrified the PPD would come back. Throughout my pregnancy I researched the likelihood of it coming back and it was pretty high. I decided to do everything I could to prevent the reoccurrence of PPD and one of those things was placenta encapsulation.

Placenta encapsulation is the “practice of ingesting the placenta after it has been steamed, dehydrated, ground, and placed into pills.” Sounds delicious, doesn’t it? I know, that’s what I thought when I first heard about it. However, it is a centuries old practice, mostly used in eastern medicine, but it is gaining popularity here in the U.S. I did a LOT of research on it, including talking to many other mothers who have done it, and the consensus seemed to be that, among other benefits, it was very efficient at balancing postpartum hormones and staving off PPD. In fact, placenta encapsulation reportedly helps with:

  • Increased release of the hormone oxytocin, which helps the uterus return to normal size and encourages bonding with the infant
  • Increase in CRH, a stress-reducing hormone
  • Decrease in postpartum depression levels
  • Restoration of iron levels in the blood, and
  • Increase in milk production

With my history of pretty severe PPD, and the likelihood of it returning after our son was born, I was willing — if not excited — to give placenta encapsulation a shot.

And so, the day after my son was born, I started taking 3-5 placenta pills a day. The difference I felt in my mood and attitude and energy levels was incredible. Both my husband and I noticed a significant difference in how I was handling my postpartum period and we were so relieved.

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Then I ran out of pills. The number of placenta pills you get depends on the size of your placenta. Evidently, I had a placenta large enough to cover three months postpartum. When I ran out of pills, I wasn’t overly concerned. I felt great and truly felt that I was over the hump of when any PPD would “set in.” But within a few weeks of living without the placenta pills, I started to notice some changes in my mood.

This time, though, it was different. I think that’s why it took me so long to figure out what was going on. Instead of feeling an overwhelming sadness and despair and general feelings of being an awful mother, this time I would find myself flying into a sudden rage. It was as if a simple little thing would flip a switch somewhere deep in my brain and I would explode—at my husband, at my dog, at myself, but worst of all, at my tiny children.

Oh, mamas. I will never, ever get over the deep and shameful guilt I feel for the venom I spewed at my newborn son and two-year-old daughter. There are not enough tears in this world to wash away the shame I feel for how I acted and reacted toward my innocent babies. But I was not in control. My PPD, it turns out, had in fact come back, but this time it presented itself as uncontrollable anger, sudden rage and constant irritability. I didn’t recognize what was happening to me for so long because I was expecting the deep and consuming depression I felt the first time. Little did I know that PPD can take many forms. And anger was the form it took for my second round with it.

This time around I tackled the PPD a little more proactively. I knew that I probably needed anti-depressants again and so I went to the doctor and told him which ones worked the first time. He started me on a small dose and we worked from there. I was on the drugs for several months and it did help to regulate my mood. I became less rage-y, more temperate and a much easier person to live with.

Living with, and battling my way through, PPD has not been easy. It’s been especially hard for my husband and my kids. It is not a fun disease to have to deal with, but one thing that I have learned through this journey is that having PPD is not something to be ashamed of. It is not something that I, or anyone else, can control. It is a condition caused by an imbalance of hormones, and it happens to more women than care to admit it. In fact, statistics indicate that one in seven moms will get postpartum depression to some degree. That’s a lot of moms!

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The good news is that postpartum depression is manageable, and it is not a permanent condition in most cases. The bad news is that many moms, and people in general, don’t know the symptoms of PPD. While the list of symptoms is long and can change for each woman, here are some common symptoms to look for if you think you or someone you know is suffering from Postpartum Depression:

  • You feel overwhelmed or like you just can’t handle being a mother. Or, like me, you maybe wondering whether you should have become a mother in the first place.
  • You feel guilty because you believe you should be handling new motherhood better than this.
  • You don’t feel bonded to your baby.
  • You feel irritated or angry, have no patience, and/or everything annoys you. You feel out-of-control rage.
  • You feel emptiness and numbness.
  • You feel overwhelming sadness and/or you can’t stop crying, even when there’s no real reason to be crying.
  • You can’t eat, or you overeat. You can’t sleep or you want to sleep all the time.
  • You can’t concentrate or focus. You feel foggy or forgetful.
  • You start having thoughts of running away, leaving your family, driving off the road or harming yourself.

If you suspect that you or someone you know may be suffering from PPD, please do not hesitate to reach out for help. It is so important, vital, that PPD is treated as quickly as possible.

Mama, if this is you, please listen to me when I tell you that this is not your fault and you have nothing to be ashamed of. You are a GOOD MOTHER. You are a GOOD WOMAN. Do not be afraid to talk to someone, whether it be your doctor (a general practitioner is a good place to start), your OB/GYN, your midwife, your friend, your mom, your husband. If you don’t feel strong enough to talk to someone you know, here is a list of resources of places you can call specifically for postpartum depression issues. Please don’t wait to reach out. You don’t have to suffer through this and YOU ARE NOT ALONE.

Friends, we need to open up about this with each other. We need to let our fellow mom friends be our support system. The more we share “ugly truths” about motherhood with each other, the less these truths will have a stigma. Remember, we are all in this together!

cheyenne bell

Images courtesy of Adam Gross.

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Cheyenne is an attorney, writer, speaker and blogger with a slight obsession for home decor, red wine, and good coffee. Cheyenne’s blog, Sense & Serendipity, focuses on inspiring others to create a home well loved and a life well lived. Cheyenne lives in San Marcos, Texas with her two children, Aislin and Hawkins.

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Words written by @th3littlestavenger’s husband:⁠
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"Hayley asked me to write something about her postpartum body.⁠
I figured it'd be easy but then I started thinking--⁠
what is there to even write about?⁠
Sure, things look and feel slightly different--but in the grand scheme of things, nothing changed.⁠
The reasons I fell in love with her had nothing to do with any of the body parts affected by her postpartum.⁠
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She still smells great and tastes great too.⁠
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Nothing has changed or altered my love for my wife.⁠
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I'm literally doing the bare minimum by loving my wife for who she is, 'imperfections' and all.⁠
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How else would we show what life has put us through?⁠
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So whether it's regrettable tattoos, scars, surgeries, dumb facial hair, or a postpartum tummy, honestly...who gives a shit?⁠
Be good to each other. Learn from mistakes--yours and others. Help those in need and let's stop dwelling on who looks like what.⁠
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My wife isn't perfect and that's what makes me love her.⁠
That's why you are all reading this.⁠
If she was perfect, not a single one of you would be able to relate to her.⁠
And to the husbands out there that don't do their fair share of diaper duty, cooking, cleaning and telling your wife how beautiful she is--step up your game, bro.⁠
You're a team."⁠ ❤️⁠ Words & 📷: @th3littlestavenger
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🚪 Organize and Streamline Your Life as a Mom – Podcast Ep 29 🏡⁠
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"Don't get me wrong, I am very open and receptive "Don't get me wrong, I am very open and receptive to advice, I will never claim to know it all. But, sometimes a mama just needs to vent. It can be very exhausting as a mom when you open up about a challenge you're facing and then receive an overwhelming list of different things to do or try to 'fix it'. Especially when you've already tried it all or heard it all. Sometimes all a mama needs is an ear to listen and to know they aren't alone. Google can offer a list of possible solutions, Google definitely can't offer the nod of understanding that a friend can. ❤️"⁠
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👩‍🏫 Homeschooling 101: Setting Up a Learni 👩‍🏫 Homeschooling 101: Setting Up a Learning Space 🔡⁠
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A homeschooling mom is sharing her great tips on how to create a good learning environment for your child in your home. 🏡 She recommends that before you create a learning space, get to know HOW (visual, auditory, tactile, etc.) your child learns and what he or she is passionate about. You don't need to re-create school at home. Your child's learning space needs to be unique to how they best learn. This is a whole new kind of education. And the journey is truly an adventure. ❤️⁠
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Her tips are gold! 💰 {Click 🔗 in bio to read them!}⁠
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"Domesticity does not equal motherhood. 🙅‍♀ "Domesticity does not equal motherhood. 🙅‍♀️ I once sat in a class where teenage girls said they needed to learn how to cook, do laundry, and clean if they wanted to one day be good moms.

I stopped and told them that cooking, doing laundry, and cleaning are part of being an ADULT. Those are not the things that make up motherhood.

But I get where they got that conclusion.

You always hear women say they aren't good moms when they don't make homemade lunches, prepare cupcakes for the bake sale, show up to the doctor with kids who have brushed hair, or get the laundry put away in a decent time. 'I'm such a bad mom. I sent store-bought Valentines to school with my kid.' 'Mom fail. I didn't get the laundry done.' 'I'm a failure as a mom. I don't make homemade bread/cookies/whatever.' NO.

Your 'success' as a mother is not defined by domestic duties. Domestic duties are part of being an adult.

While your children do need to be changed and fed, that's not the summation of MOTHERHOOD. Anyone can change and feed children, including dads. You can hire someone to clean your house and feed your kids, and you'll still be a mom.

And if you weren't a mom, you'd still have to clean your house, cook food, and do laundry.

You're not a bad mom because you didn't do laundry in time. Let's stop combining domestic duties with motherhood, because they just aren't the same. Yes, moms do domestic things. And they raise children. These are two separate things.

Your housekeeping is not your motherhood, and you're giving away power when you combine the two and judge one against the other.

You are a good mom because you love your child, and you try to help them learn the things they need to learn. You worry about your kids, you spend time with them, you plan for their future, and so much more.

You might be terrible at domestic duties (I don't know) or you might be the best housekeeper in the world. But neither end of the spectrum--or anything in between--determines if you're a good mom or not.

Housekeeping is NOT motherhood."
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And especially now, EVERYTHING is on my mind and i And especially now, EVERYTHING is on my mind and it feels like the weight of the world is on my shoulders. Providing for my family, raising a healthy and well-rounded child, taking care of the house, the pets, nurturing my relationship with my partner. The weight is heavy, but at the same time, I am so grateful for what I have and to be a mom. ❤️⁠
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FOR REAL! Check on your friends with toddlers. We FOR REAL! Check on your friends with toddlers. We are NOT okay. 🤪🙈
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How you feel at bedtime on what feels like day 382 How you feel at bedtime on what feels like day 382 of quarantine. 😑⚔️💀😂⁠
📷: @thedecentmother⁠
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God bless all of the mamas (expecting and beyond) God bless all of the mamas (expecting and beyond) out there! 🙏⁠ Our hearts are with you all during this time. 💕
📷: @thegingypants⁠
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DISCLAIMER: This is a USED expired PPE from @thegingypants basement. (She is an RN.) Please consider donating any UNUSED MASKS to your area hospitals who are in dire need. 💕
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My "coworker" can be such an a$$hole. 😒⁠ 📷 My "coworker" can be such an a$$hole. 😒⁠
📷: @macaroniandmomjeans⁠
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"30 hours of labor ended with an emergency C-secti "30 hours of labor ended with an emergency C-section... not what we planned but I learned pretty quickly that night that having a plan for bringing a human into the world is a fool's errand. All that mattered was that he got here safely. Having him in the middle of a global health crisis was also not in the baby prep books, but here we are. Holding him and healing my body in a maternity ward that's eerily quiet from us not being allowed visitors or family at this time, but strangely serene. All we hear are monitors beeping and the coos of our infant son. Maybe the sound of the 100th episode of The Office @ryanhurd and I have binged while in here. The admiration we have for the doctors, nurses + healthcare professionals that took care of Hayes & me during our stay cannot be measured in this post. They risked their health every day to make sure ours was okay. I can't think of anything more selfless than that. Ultimately, I can't thank every single mother enough for going through what you've gone through because I had NO idea how hard it could be, and I'm a measly 4 days in. The world is changing before our eyes and so am I. That's been a peaceful thing to cling to during these uncertain times. Thinking of you all. 🖤" - @marenmorris and her birth to her son Hayes Andrew Hurd 💕⁠
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Congratulations, @marenmorris! You are already an incredible mother. Don't dwell on the things that happened that didn't go as planned and that were out of your control. You are safe, you are well, and you have a son. You are a warrior. We are over the moon for you and your family.  Motherhood is an amazing thing. A hard thing. But oh so worth it. We can't wait to watch your motherhood journey. Love & health to you and your family. ❤️⁠
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It's gonna get crazy up in here.⁠ 🧺 (Another It's gonna get crazy up in here.⁠ 🧺 (Another day in the life of quarantine/ motherhood...)⁠
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🧘‍♀️ Exercises You Should Do Before Givin 🧘‍♀️ Exercises You Should Do Before Giving Birth⁠ 🤰
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Pregnancy and birth are physically taxing events, but they can also be empowering experiences. 💪 Exercising during pregnancy can help the birth process go more smoothly as well as offer other incredible benefits: lowered stress, better posture, less back pain, and less complicated postpartum recovery. 🙌 Best of all, you’ll feel more powerful and in control of how your body is changing and growing. 💗 While most exercise is great even for pregnant women, there are some exercises you really should do before giving birth. Here is what you should do and WHY you should do it. {Click 🔗 in bio to continue reading!}⁠
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#pregnancy #pregnant #pregnancytip  #momtobe #pregnancylife #pregnancyguide #mamatobe #exercise #babybump #pregnancyjourney #bumpie #fitpregnancy #fitmom #preggo #pregnancybasics #pregnancyhelp #maternity #motherhood #momlife #expecting #mumlife #mommytobe #pregnantlife #babyontheway #inspirepregnancy #mommychick #babychick
🗓️ Great Ways to Structure Days Spent at Home 🗓️ Great Ways to Structure Days Spent at Home⁠ 🏡⁠
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If you have kids of any age at home right now, you know by now that structure and routine can help any day go more smoothly. 🙌 Building good habits and activities into your daily routine can provide opportunities for educational learning, play, stress-reduction, nourishment and rest. ❤️ Certainly, not every day has to be structured. And it’s healthy to allow for spontaneity and free time when you’re home together with family. But if you’re looking for a roadmap to build a new daily routine with your children during this season of social distancing, read on for a few fresh ideas! These are some easy tips you can start to build a great structure to your days spent at home. ⁠{Click 🔗 in bio to continue reading!}⁠
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#coronavirus #covid19 #quarantine #quarantinelife #socialdistancing #homeschool #motherhoodthroughinstagram #momlife #motherhood #mumlife #mommylife #parenthood #motherhoodunplugged #momsofinstagram #learningathome #motherhoodrising #ig_motherhood #uniteinmotherhood⁣ #babychick⁣ #mommychick #homeschooling #family #familyroutine #familyschedule #home #structure #parenting
And this is truer now than ever before. 📷 from And this is truer now than ever before.
📷 from the hilarious @honestlymommy⁠
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👦 Potty Training the Montessori Way⁠ 🚽⁠ 👦 Potty Training the Montessori Way⁠ 🚽⁠
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Potty training can be one of the most challenging endeavors of your baby’s first few years. 😫 But this is a great time to get started if your little one is ready. Rest assured, there are several methods and strategies out there to set you and your baby up for success! 🙌 We decided to borrow some lessons from the Montessori philosophy and apply these lessons to potty training. While potty training the Montessori way may not be for everyone, many parents have used this method and loved it!⁠ Here's what we've learned and how it could help your family. {Click 🔗 in bio to continue reading!}⁠
📷: @curlylittledreams⁠
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The struggle is real. 😳⁠😬⁠ .⁠ #coronav The struggle is real. 😳⁠😬⁠
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🎒 8 Tips from a Homeschooling Mom⁠ 👩‍🏫⁠
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If you’re like many parents and caregivers right now whose children are suddenly home all day instead of at school, and you are now facing the prospect of a crash course in homeschooling, you may have said once (or a hundred times) I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT I’M DOING!?!? 😰 You are not alone, I promise!⁠
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I have been homeschooling for years, and yet this pandemic has my family’s entire world turned upside down. We’ve been missing our library dates, ballet classes, afternoons at the playground, chess club, but most of all: our friends. My usually-somewhat-agreeable child has been downright combative and emotionally on-edge these past few days, poor thing. 😢 This quarantine is so hard on everyone, but especially our most vulnerable . . . which includes our children. {Click 🔗 in bio to continue reading about the hows and whys of homeschooling as well as this mama's great tips to help you and your child start learning at home!}⁠
Article by: Bree Von Lopez⁠
📷: @watsonhomestead⁠
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#homeschoollife #coronavirus #covid19 #quarantine #quarantinelife #homeschool #motherhoodthroughinstagram #momlife #motherhood #mumlife #mommylife #parenthood #motherhoodunplugged #momsofinstagram #learningathome #motherhoodrising #ig_motherhood #uniteinmotherhood⁣ #babychick⁣ #mommychick #homeschooling #homeschoolrocks #homeschooler #homeschoolfamily #lifeofahomeschooler #homeschoolmoms #homeschoolkids #homeeducation #homeschoolfun #homeschoolmama
🎵 And IIII . . . . I must confess my hands are 🎵 And IIII . . . . I must confess my hands are clean⁠
When I'm not with you I save our lives⁠
Give me a siiiiign . . . hit my baby now online 🎶⁠
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#coronavirus #covid19 #quarantine #quarantinelife #motherhoodthroughinstagram #momlife #motherhood #momstruggles #momprobs #mumlife #mommylife #parenthood #motherhoodunplugged #realmoms #momstatus #thatmomlife #realmomlife #momsofinstagram #momhumor #motherhoodrising #ig_motherhood #uniteinmotherhood⁣ #babychick⁣ #mommychick
🤰 10 Ways to Prepare Your Family and Home for B 🤰 10 Ways to Prepare Your Family and Home for Baby Number Two⁠ 👧👶
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Congratulations mama! You're pregnant with baby number two. 💗 How exciting! 🥳 I know, you probably have a ton of thoughts and questions racing through your mind like, "Am I REALLY ready for another baby?!" Or how about, "How do I prepare my family and home for baby number two?!"⁠ 😳
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They're all reasonable questions. However, I want you to remember something. Remember that you probably felt unsure about some things during your first pregnancy and guess what, YOU GOT THROUGH THEM! 💪 Here you are again and yes mama, YOU WILL GET THROUGH THIS TOO!⁠ ❤️
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To help you ease some of those worries, we’re sharing 10 ways to prepare for baby number two!⁠ {Click 🔗 in bio to continue reading!}⁠
📸: @by.sofiehammer
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🤱 13 Ways to Help New Moms During Social Distan 🤱 13 Ways to Help New Moms During Social Distancing 🎁⁠
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During this season of social distancing, there are still many ways to help new moms, even if you can’t visit them in person. Having a newborn is challenging—from managing new emotions brought on by hormones 🥴 to sleep deprivation 🥱 to adjusting to a new life together as a family. 🏡 But support from loved ones and friends will help new moms (and their families) get through those first few months postpartum successfully. ❤️ We’re sharing a few tried-and-true ways to support the new mom in your life, without risking exposure to germs by visiting her in person. 🙌 {Click 🔗 in bio to continue reading!}⁠
📷: @annalyncook⁠
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#thisispostpartum #postpartum #postpartumlife #postpartumcare #postpartumcareplan #dailyparenting #honestlymothering #motherhoodunplugged #motherhood #mothering #momlife #newmom #4thtrimester #fourthtrimester #postnatal #babychick #mommychick #motherhoodthroughinstagram #mumlife #mommylife #momstatus #thatmomlife #realmomlife #momsofinstagram #motherhoodrising #ig_motherhood #uniteinmotherhood⁣ #socialdistancing
Get my hair done, a mani/pedi, or meet with friend Get my hair done, a mani/pedi, or meet with friends at a restaurant and have a large margarita WITHOUT our kids. 🍹😂 What are you gonna do when you get out?⁠
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The Queen of Quarantine 🤣🤣🤣⁠🧻 📷: The Queen of Quarantine 🤣🤣🤣⁠🧻
📷: @krystal.mariexo⁠
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#coronavirus #covid19 #quarantine #quarantinelife #motherhoodthroughinstagram #momlife #motherhood #toddler #toddlerlife #toiletpaperqueen #mumlife #mommylife #parenthood #motherhoodunplugged #realmoms #momstatus #thatmomlife #realmomlife #momsofinstagram #momhumor #motherhoodrising #ig_motherhood #uniteinmotherhood⁣ #babychick⁣ #mommychick
🤰 What Is Happening With Your Postpartum Body?⁠ 👶⁠
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During pregnancy, your body is undergoing rapid changes to nourish the life growing inside of you. 💗 These changes can be exciting and welcomed in anticipation of meeting the newest member of your family. 🤗 However, after baby comes, we often forget, or just weren’t prepared, for the continued changes and discomforts of what is happening with your postpartum body. 😳 For years, these less than glamorous aspects of the “fourth trimester” were suppressed and not talked about openly. We can all be thankful that we live in an age where even the uncomfortable subjects can be talked about openly to help us all realize we aren’t alone.⁠ And that's exactly what we're doing today. Our resident OBGYN is talking about what exactly is happening to our postpartum bodies. {Click 🔗 in bio to continue reading!}⁠
📷: @tanishasnell_⁠
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#thisispostpartum #postpartum #postpartumlife #postpartumcare #postpartumcareplan #selflove #dailyparenting #honestlymothering #motherhoodunplugged #youarenotalone #motherhood #mothering #momlife #newmom #4thtrimester #fourthtrimester #postnatal #babychick #mommychick #motherhoodthroughinstagram #mumlife #mommylife #momstatus #thatmomlife #realmomlife #momsofinstagram #motherhoodrising #ig_motherhood #uniteinmotherhood⁣
👩‍🏫 A Teacher (and Mom's) Tips for Learnin 👩‍🏫 A Teacher (and Mom's) Tips for Learning at Home⁠ ❤️⁠
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As a teacher and mom, I can completely understand the panic I see from other moms who have been suddenly thrust into a teaching-from-home position due to the spread of COVID-19 and subsequent school closures. Moms around the country are scrambling to find a way to continue their child's education by implementing learning from home. But most aren't sure where to start!⁠
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Like many of you reading this, I have seen social media posts from (what I like to call) the moms-of-Pinterest to the moms-barely-keeping-it-together. 🙋‍♀️ I have seen families plan structured activities throughout each day and families play outside all day (in their own space, of course). Both are okay! There is really no right or wrong way to do this. But because of my background as a teacher and mom, I want to offer some encouragement and tips. {Click 🔗 in bio to continue reading!}⁠
Article by: Shannon Alba⁠
📷: @chantellelournes⁠
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Velcro kids are the beeeeesssstttt . . . 🙈🙈🙈⁠ We're already stuck in this house together. It's called social distancing, kid. Give mama a little space. 😑😂⁠
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If they complain that everyone else is going out, If they complain that everyone else is going out, you tell them, “You’re not everyone.” How the tables have turned. 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️⁠😂
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#coronavirus #covid19 #stayinside #quarantine #quarantinelife #motherhoodthroughinstagram #momlife #motherhood #momstruggles #momprobs #mumlife #mommylife #parenthood #motherhoodunplugged #realmoms #momstatus #thatmomlife #realmomlife #momsofinstagram #momhumor #motherhoodrising #ig_motherhood #uniteinmotherhood⁣ #babychick⁣ #mommychick
🧼 How to Clean Your Kids Toys in the Days of CO 🧼 How to Clean Your Kids Toys in the Days of COVID-19⁠ 🧸
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It’s hard to be a parent at times like these. It means lots and lots of cleaning, and being vigilant about killing germs on a daily basis. 🦠😷 During this season when many of us have our kids at home, too, it’s important to learn the best known strategies for how to clean your kids toys effectively. We have a mama, teacher, childcare provider, and school administrator on baby-chick.com today and she has seen and tried all different kinds of ways to keep toys and the objects children use most often clean and free of germs. It’s a struggle, but it’s worth it!⁠ 👍
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Even though COVID-19 is a novel virus, experts say that we can still use products that the Environmental Protection Agency lists as effective on killing similar viruses, like the rhinovirus or common cold. And when we halt the spread of germs in our own home, we are doing our part to keep our communities healthy, too.⁠ {Click 🔗 in bio to continue reading!}⁠
📷: @inmomsitrust⁠
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#coronavirus #covid19 #quarantine #quarantinelife #motherhoodthroughinstagram #cleaning #cleaningtoys #safety #kidstoys #momlife #motherhood #momstruggles #momprobs #mumlife #mommylife #parenthood #motherhoodunplugged #realmoms #momstatus #thatmomlife #realmomlife #momsofinstagram #momhumor #motherhoodrising #ig_motherhood #uniteinmotherhood⁣ #babychick⁣ #mommychick