The Mom Squad: Why I Love My Girl (Mom) Friends

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The Mom Squad: Why I Love My Girl (Mom) Friends

I love my girl friends. I always have, and I always will. Here’s why.

My “mom friends” just get it. My non-mom friends don’t always get it, but I love them just the same. (And trust me, they are good for lots of other things.) I am a firm believer that women need other women to keep them sane. I think this also helps to keep our husbands sane. My husband doesn’t really care to hear about our adventures in potty training when he gets home from work. My mom friends are all ears. I love them for this.

My husband (like most men) hates “The Bachelor,” and pretty much every other show I absentmindedly “watch” while performing household chores — like folding laundry or cleaning up the kitchen after dinner. Before we were married he pretended to tolerate them; now I know he detests them. And that’s okay. I detest 99.9% of the stuff he watches on television. This is as it should be. I can always count on my girlfriends to have an opinion about whatever ridiculous show we are all obsessed with that week. This makes me happy, and reminds me of my younger, “hipper” days. Like when I was in college, and I had no clue what a mortgage was.

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My mom friends don’t judge me for my ratty tee shirts and yoga pants at preschool drop-off. (Most of them are wearing something similar.) And they know that if they show up at my house unannounced, there is a good chance that it will look like a natural disaster zone — and yet they love and accept me just the same. I’m pretty sure this is a mom of toddlers thing. Like an unspoken rule. Bless our un-showered, frazzled mama hearts. We all are just doing the best we can.

Sometimes I just need someone to listen. Not to fix anything — just to listen. I adore my life. I love my husband, my kiddos, and my job. I really am blessed. But sometimes, I just need to complain. Or drink a margarita. Followed by a half a dozen donuts. Girlfriends are awesome for this. Husbands are incredible for lots of other things. 😉 But gripe and moan fests? Not necessarily one of those things.

All joking aside, I love knowing that my (true) girlfriends have my back. These are the women who encourage me on the daily to be the very best woman, wife, mother, and friend that I can possibly be. I trust that beyond a shadow of a doubt — these ladies would drop everything to be there for me in an emergency situation. And I for them. When someone has a new baby, or someone loses a job, or a beloved family member — we are a tribe, and we stick together. I cannot even begin to explain how thankful I am for my own Mom Squad. And I hope you all have some incredible lady friends, too!

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5 Tips for Dealing with Mean Mommies

Don’t get me wrong, it hasn’t always been rainbows and daisies. I’ve dealt with my fair share of Mean Mommies! And maybe you are experiencing this unfortunate phenomena right now. Don’t let it get you down, mama! Here are some helpful tips adapted from happiestmama.com (mostly common sense, but still worth mentioning) to keep in mind when dealing with cliquish, bully moms in the carpool line and beyond.

  • Don’t take cliques too seriously! It may be that these moms are simply choosing each other rather than rejecting you (“the outsider”).
  • Think outside the mommy-group box. A good way to find and connect with other moms is to get involved with something you enjoy, something entirely unrelated to your child and his or her school or sports team — like a community volunteer group, a yoga class, a book club, or a local campaign.
  • Give it time. As your littles get older and their social circles expand (as they become involved with various activities), your own opportunities to meet new and different moms will also increase. Most people eventually outgrow snobby, cliquish attitudes, but not everyone. And you don’t want to be friends with those people anyway.
  • Keep trying! Though it may seem impossible, sometimes adding one more activity (to your already busy schedule) — like a library reading group, a preschool coffee group, or attending La Leche meetings — can make all the difference. That is, if building friendships with other moms is truly important to you.
  • Finally, don’t gossip. And when it gets nasty, leave. You are a grown woman. You don’t need to be a part of that. There are plenty of nice women out there to be friends with — maybe you just haven’t met them yet!
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Wife, mommy to three precious little girls, currently pregnant with baby a boy, and owner of The Plaid Pony!

4 Comments

  • Amy M Jones
    May 12, 2016

    I love my mommy tribe! I can’t survive this journey without them.

  • Liza
    June 16, 2016

    I love the blog!

    • Nina
      June 16, 2016

      Awww, thank you so much, Liza! That means more to me than you know. I’d love to hear any topics that you would like to see us write more about. We’re here to help! 🙂 Hope you’re having a great day!

  • Thank you for this nice article!

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