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The Mom Squad: Why I Love My Mom Friends

Do you have a "Mom Squad" in place? Read on to find out why I love my mom friends so much, and some tips for dealing with "mean mommies!"

Published May 9, 2016 Opinion

I have always loved my girlfriends. But since becoming a mom, I love my friends even more, especially if they’re also moms. Mom friends get it! While my non-mom friends don’t always get it, I love them just the same (and trust me, they are good for many other things.) I believe that women need other women to keep them sane, which helps keep our husbands sane. For example, my husband doesn’t care to hear about our adventures in potty training when he gets home from work. However, my mom friends are all ears, and I love them for this.

Why I Need Mom Friends (And You Do Too!)

My mom friends don’t judge me for my ratty tee shirts and yoga pants at preschool drop-off (because most of them are wearing something similar.) And they know that if they show up at my house unannounced, there is a good chance that it will look like a natural disaster zone — yet they love and accept me just the same. I’m pretty sure this is a mom-of-toddlers thing. Bless our un-showered, frazzled mama hearts. We all are just doing the best we can.

Sometimes, I just need someone to listen. Not to fix anything — to listen. I adore my life, and I love my husband, my kiddos, and my job. I am blessed. But sometimes, I need to complain or drink a margarita or both. Girlfriends are awesome for this. Husbands are incredible for lots of other things. But gripe and moan fests? Not necessarily one of those things.

All joking aside, I love knowing that my girlfriends have my back. These women encourage me daily to be the best woman, wife, mother, and friend I can be. I trust that beyond a shadow of a doubt — these ladies would drop everything to be there for me in an emergency, as I would for them. When someone has a new baby, loses a job, or a beloved family member — we are a tribe, and we stick together. I cannot even begin to explain how thankful I am for my Mom Squad. But I understand that getting to the point of having a mom squad can be challenging. Not all moms are as friendly or welcoming as you would hope, which can be discouraging and isolating.

Don’t Let the Mean Moms Get You Down

Finding a mom squad takes some work; sometimes, you must step outside your comfort zone. Walking up to a woman you don’t know and starting a conversation can be nerve-wracking! But it’s the best way to find those mommy friends. In my quest for quality mom friends, I’ve dealt with my fair share of “mean mommies”! And maybe you are experiencing this unfortunate phenomenon right now. Don’t let it get you down, mama!

Helpful Tips for Dealing With Cliquish Bully Moms in the Carpool Line and Beyond:

Don’t Take Cliques Too Seriously!

It may be that these moms are simply choosing each other rather than rejecting you (“the outsider”).

Think Outside the Mommy-Group Box

An excellent way to find and connect with other moms is to get involved with something you enjoy, something entirely unrelated to your child and their school or sports team. Try getting involved in a community volunteer group, a yoga class, a book club, or a local campaign.

Give It Time

As your littles get older and their social circles expand (as they become involved with various activities), your opportunities to meet new and different moms will also increase. Most people eventually outgrow snobby, cliquish attitudes, but not everyone. And you don’t want to be friends with those people anyway.

Keep Trying!

Though it may seem impossible, sometimes adding one more activity (to your already busy schedule) — like a library reading group, a preschool coffee group, or attending La Leche meetings — can make all the difference. That is if building friendships with other moms is truly important to you.

Finally, Don’t Gossip

And when it gets nasty, leave. You are a grown woman. You don’t need to be a part of that. There are plenty of nice women out there to be friends with — maybe you just haven’t met them yet!

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