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Hannah Southerland is a young mom of two little boys and a wife to one handsome man. She loves helping women in their marriages and motherhood and feels like community is the best way to make it through this crazy thing called life. She is the lover of all things coffee and chocolate. On the weekends you could find her snuggled on the couch watching “Fixer Upper,” or spending time with her family playing the very dramatic game of “Pictionary.”
“Please!” I begged, “Please let me have a c-section!” Ugly crying and starving I was at hour 53 of labor with little to no progress. I had been induced and to save you all of the gory details let’s just sum it up and say I was T-I-R-E-D. After some convincing and a final check of my cervix, yay, my doctor finally gave the okay to end my misery and scheduled my c-section for 2 hours later. I was so grateful but now the reality of all of this drama had come to head. I was about to actually have my baby and I would deliver him in a way I didn’t know anything about.
To be fair, I didn’t know much about having babies at all since this was my first baby, but I definitely didn’t see myself needing a c-section and had just focused on natural birthing tips and tricks. With a short time to wrap my head around my new birth plan, I needed to get used to this idea and fast.
1. Call a friend!
I called a friend of mine who I knew also had to have a last minute c-section and she was an awesome resource. She told me exactly what to expect, that it would be cold in the O.R., and that I might feel sick with the medication. She told me to try my best to stay calm, and tips on recovery. I was able to ask her questions and get real responses, not medical responses.
2. Talk with the Nurse!
I was nervous and making sure I understood the process of this surgery was helpful for my analytical brain. My nurse answered all of my questions and was with me my whole pre- and post-op and that was nice to have the same person with me the whole time because my husband couldn’t be. She held my hand while I got my spinal and she talked to me about anything other than the very intimidating instruments lying nearby.
3. Take a shower!
I had been in labor for DAYS, multiple lubes, salves and whatever else had been on my body and I felt like a creature. So, I took a shower right away, my mom braided my hair and I even put on a little makeup. I felt like a new woman, ready to welcome my new babe!
4. Keep your mind busy on all of the good things!
Keeping my mind on the all of the good things that were about to happen and not on the worst case scenarios everyone loves to talk about. Of course, having my baby out and with us was my main goal, but finally eating again was also one of my top priorities, let’s be real.
5. Focus on hearing that little baby cry!
Everything once in the O.R. goes super fast. There isn’t much time to sit around and over think anything. They are on a schedule and the window of time to get that baby out is limited. I just focused on following the directions of whoever was talking to me at the time and making sure I kept talking to the anesthesiologist incase I started to feel sick. When my husband came in my nerves really subsided and we were able to enjoy the birth experience as best as we could.
If having a c-section is or was not in your birth plan but you are also faced with this scenario, you can do it! It is overwhelming to switch gears mentally about the way you’re going to give birth, but at the end of the day we all just want the baby here safely and for mom to stay safe as well. So, just settle in and enjoy the ride, this is just the beginning!