I’m a BIG proponent of writing a birth plan. Why? It’s not the actual finished plan that I think is important, it’s more about the process of an expecting mother educating herself & learning about her options for her upcoming labor and delivery. ❤️ Education = power!
Do you know what I’m even MORE insistent about expecting mothers doing? Writing a Postpartum Plan. ?
Don’t get me wrong, birth is extremely important and a pivotal point in a woman’s life. The memory of giving birth can set the trajectory of a mother’s journey into motherhood—be that powerful & positive ? or weak & alone. ? If she felt unsupported, unheard, abandoned, or disrespected, those feelings and that memory will live with her forever. And the opposite is true. If she felt supported, heard, loved, and respected, that too will live with her forever. This is why it has been my life’s work to empower women, support them, listen to them, advocate for them, and hold positive space for them as they become mothers.
Thankfully, birth is only a short period of time in the grand scheme of things. (Like motherhood, which is forever. ?) Postpartum is a time that, I feel, is not discussed enough and women are not preparing for enough. Postpartum (whether you think it’s the first 3 months, 6 months or first year) is when the mother is at her rawest and most vulnerable. She is learning this new role of how to take care of her child while also taking care of herself & recovering from birth. Just like her child, she too has been born, and just like a child needs to be held & cared for after birth, so do mothers.
Because our societies are no longer like villages, families do not have the same support like we once did. So what must an expecting mother do? PLAN. Plan who is going to help with meals. Plan who is going to help with the house chores. Plan who is going to help with the older children. Plan with your partner (if you have one) how you will conquer the days and nights. Make a plan if you experience breastfeeding issues or need to visit a therapist (for physical or mental health). It’s too difficult to plan after the baby arrives. This is why expecting moms need a POSTPARTUM PLAN! ?